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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

999 replies

RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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saveyourkissesforme · 23/02/2018 17:59

Go for it Kin. Just think. This time last weekend Hmm.

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RunsforCake14 · 23/02/2018 18:07

Kin I say go for it. I'd rather meet quickly than spend days/weeks exchanging messages

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Ginny70 · 23/02/2018 18:11

Kin Best to get back in the saddle, I think. Smile

I know I've taken a long time getting there and have talked about it a bit here, but ... I've been waiting for me to be 'ready', emotionally, and back to being 'me' etc. But today I think I realised that part of me IS being a bit sexily dressed and looking pretty. I've just stopped doing that coz of marital/ self-defensive reasons. But I don't think I'm going to know all my talents and all my boundaries until I start practising again ...

I can't do that in my immediate area cos exDH will recognise me, but a wider vicinity might work?? What experience do you all have of exDH's locating you?

MissCatt · 23/02/2018 18:21

Had a busy day but just checking in to say good luck on any dates tonight, y'all! I'm living vicariously here haha! I need to catch up properly on the thread soon!

ValMc1 · 23/02/2018 18:48

Tinder is alight tonight!

pringlecat · 23/02/2018 18:57

Coffee with a friend. Coffee with a friend. Shit. Coffee with a friend. Right, let's do this. Will update later. Have a great evening everyone whether you're out on a date or scouring the internet for your next iron! Wink

Kinunir · 23/02/2018 19:01

pringle I'm off to have coffee with a friend too and I'm looking forward to it. It's exciting!!!!!!!!!! Smile

BeenThereDating · 23/02/2018 19:08

Kin I love a bit of spontaneous dating - it's fun and takes the overthinking out of the equation. Re Miss Intellectual take care with her contact about the holiday. She might have realised she'd played it wrong so is using the holiday as a reason to grab your attention ye gods I'm a cynical soul

Love great response! I definitely couldn't handle two guys and I'd hate another woman around. I'm definitely Miss One-on-One!!

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 23/02/2018 19:08

Why yes ....

Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step
CoverMeLads · 23/02/2018 19:31

Wow, he’ll remain loyal? What a prince amongst men!

Good luck, Pringle and Kin (outvoted almost unanimously sigh Wink ) hope your coffees with friends are awesome...

ValMc1 · 23/02/2018 19:35

Kin - what does Mis I mean - thought you had booked it and now she can go on her own? And pay? Tell her to get lost - think you have dodged a very big bullet there - hope you are enjoying coffee - there really are more POF out there

winchesterfan · 23/02/2018 19:44

I'm gonna join you all.
Been on and off tinder for the past year, spoke to a few guys that either ghosted or just wanted a casual fling.
Met a lovely guy last summer and have seen him a few times since and we've got a date Sunday....eeekk!

VetOnCall · 23/02/2018 19:49

Good luck to all dating tonight!

Mr BBC has asked if I want to go for a coffee some time next week.

BeenThereDating · 23/02/2018 19:59

Ooh Vet last time we had a Mr BBC on the thread (a London-based one) it blossomed into something good hopefully still is as she's not been back!

pudding21 · 23/02/2018 20:07

Hope all the coffees are going down well :)

So, Mr Architect just left. He was here for about 1 3/4 hours. He was on time too. All was ok, greeted with a kiss on each cheek as usual (its normal here, my bank manager kissed me yesterday). Anyway we chatted for a bit, moved on to work, chatted some more.

Key points for your deliberation.

  1. He showed me on his phone the massive waves he was surfing yesterday.
  2. He had a very very open body posture, at one point our legs were touching, he most certainly didn't try to move them away and neither did I.
  3. He was licking his lips a lot (maybe he was thirsty) ;)
  4. When we finished "work" he started talking about his plans for the week (our tiny little town has reached the semis of the equivalent of the FA cup, its big news here, he is traveling to see them play). And holidays he has this year....New freaking York! And where I had been on my travels etc.
  5. He played with my very friendly,slightly needy, slightly crazy, very horny rescue dog (honestly they say dogs represent their owners, in this case its true).
  6. He hung around at the door for what seemed like ages and instead of two kisses he hugged me and rubbed my arm Confused

What da fuck is going on?????

pudding21 · 23/02/2018 20:08

But dinner wasn't mentioned at all. But I need to communicate with him a bit in the next week and we will certainly need to see each other again soon.........

Kinunir · 23/02/2018 20:14

Mid-coffee loo break to tell pudding that he’s being professional for now while secretly imagining kitchen worktops, mooses, burgers and wondering if your oven is clean

esk1mo · 23/02/2018 20:17

honestly pudding its so hard to tell! but part of me is thinking, if someone was like that with me, in a friendly country, then i wouldnt be looking too much into it. not saying he doesnt find you attractive, but it doesnt sound like he is in the zone of
persuing anything. I wouldnt be putting all my eggs into that basket. id be thinking if he initiated a situation where we could get physical then i wouldnt turn him down, but id be looking for other irons.

in other news...i joined fabswingers out
of curiosity Blush SO many dick pics!! and copy&pasted messages. i dont even have a picture up.

i messaged one guy who i genuinely thought i recognised as someone who uses my gym, and he very delightful to speak to. very polite and not pushy at all. had said we could meet for a drink and see if theres any chemistry. i sent him a private pic of my body (fully clothed) with no face showing, and he seemed very happy. hes exactly my type too, and hes looking for a fwb, not a one time thing.

VetOnCall · 23/02/2018 20:31

Oh yeah Been I remember that one. Hopefully the name is a good omen! We're far enough from London that I can fairly confidently say it's not the same one either Grin

Pudding I don't know... to be really honest it doesn't come across like he's desperately keen to start anything at the moment. Maybe he's biding his time but I wouldn't be waiting around for him if I were you.

esk eek is all I can say to all that!! Hope Mr Gym turns out to be a goer Wink

esk1mo · 23/02/2018 20:34

vet Grin dont make me spit my drink out

he cant be MrGym, my last iron was MrGym, and i also met MrForeign at the gym Blush this one can be..MrDarkChocolate Wink

pudding21 · 23/02/2018 20:36

Yep: I think you are right girls, kin interesting male perspective.

So anyway, back on tinder, messaged inappropriate guy. Now I am cooking a huge steak and onion sandwich and listening to this.....channeling my inner "I don't need no man" matra (well one would be nice but I don't neeeeeed one).

pudding21 · 23/02/2018 20:37

Ooooh esk1mo sounds delightful.

kin I am flattered you posted in your loo break, but I would have rather you updated on your actual date ;)

Thekitten · 23/02/2018 20:37

Good luck with all the coffees tonight everyone! I hope they all lead somewhere ;)

My date with Ms PhD tomorrow has been cancelled as she has a tummy bug (not sure if true or not).
Trying to arrange a date with MsSax but she's busy for the next two weeks :( this is genuine as far as I can tell. She said she hopes I don't forget her in the next two weeks, but I haven't heard from her today. Should I have done..? She was very communicative up to yesterday.

Nothing happening with the others yet. I've not been well the last couple of days so haven't messaged anyone, and I'm laid up on the sofa tonight. I haven't got the energy to come up with a good message, but I'm trying to will myself into doing it. And haven't heard from MrBachelor yet, but I'll be seeing him next week when I go to see my friends.

CoverMeLads · 23/02/2018 20:42

kitten I’m laid up too, feel like utter crap and totally CBA chatting to any of my irons. Bleurgh.

BeenThereDating · 23/02/2018 20:52

Just to put things into perspective for the 60-somethings, 50-somethings, 40-somethings and 30-somethings who struggle with lack of responses, witty interest and age appropriate serious intent my lovely 27 year old DSD has exactly the same problem. I genuinely think that social media has a lot to answer for.