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Bloody dating sites - which one FFS?!

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FreshFigs · 20/02/2018 16:17

I've been trying OLD on and off for over a year now and it seems to be fucking tedious and a massive waste of time (and money).

I've tried: OKCupid, Tinder, Match, Zoosk and POF. The selection of blokes in my age group is appalling: fugly, creepy, boring, players, entitled, one message and they disappear, lying about their age etc.

I have heard good things about (but haven't yet paid for) Soul Mates - seems like you can't do ANYTHING without coughing up ££.

I paid briefly for Match and Zoosk but found them to be no better than the free ones.

I get out and about socially but all the men I'm attracted to seem to have partners.

Convinced I might have to just allow my fanny to close up and acquire a small family of dogs to cuddle of an evening instead.

I'm not hideous. I'm a young 46, nice face with a podgy middle.

I suppose it's nice not having to fuss about shaving my legs and armpits....

I'm rambling now.

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Bixg · 20/02/2018 16:26

Well, after swearing blind that I would never use OLD sites again, I've succumbed to Bumble recently as everyone around me keeps going on and on that I 'should' have a bf and not turn into crazy cat lady.

There are still pervs on there and my heart isn't really in it so I'm only talking to one person at the moment, but there seem to me a few men in my age range who are interested in me - I'm still swiping left a lot though.

With Bumble the woman makes the first move, and you stipulate the age range you're interested in, so no random winks from men 20 years younger (unless you want that Grin)

I did pay a bit extra to see who has swiped right on my profile.

SavageBeauty73 · 20/02/2018 16:28

I've given up on Tinder and got my first Bumble date on Friday. I'll let you know!

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FreshFigs · 20/02/2018 16:40

Oooh! I've not tried Bumble!

Do you have to pay to message?

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CoverMeLads · 20/02/2018 16:47

FreshFigs I’m like the tout for the Dating Thread, but feel free to come and join us: many many questions re sites come up there. It’s also good to vent when you inevitably encounter one of the many catfishes/flakes/players or general odballs that inhabit OLD.

Bumble promises much yet delivers little, seems to be the consensus at the moment. I certainly am having way more luck on POF/Match.

I’m late 40s by the way, and haven’t managed to fall on my sword yet Wink

hellsbellsmelons · 20/02/2018 16:51

I'm not hideous. I'm a young 46, nice face with a podgy middle.

I suppose it's nice not having to fuss about shaving my legs and armpits....

Change that 6 to a 9 and that's me.
I met someone out and about recently.
Although I've been on many dates through Tinder.
Only 1 guy lied about his age though.

Or go HERE they will look after you!

Bixg · 20/02/2018 16:55

Fresh you don't pay to message on Bumble.

Savage Beauty how exciting - keep us posted!

Bixg · 20/02/2018 17:02

My sister keeps going on at me to apply for the First Dates TV show (which I've never watched) Hmm

Apparently you can have a date in the background of the restaurant?

Bixg · 20/02/2018 17:16

I've just applied to First Dates!

ThirdTimeUnlucky · 20/02/2018 17:35

Oh god, what a day.
Basically, I jumped to conclusions about a guy I'll call MrGingerNinja. I found another profile of his on PoF and assumed the worst and told him to forget it. He acted all innocent which reinforced my doubt about him. Turns out it was an account he set up on his IPad but the IPad since got damaged and he couldn't access the old account so just set up a new one a few months later and didn't think anything of it. To be fair, most of the info was the same.
He's told me to be more trusting and if I have any doubts, to ask. I really thought I'd blown it but he's just said he wants to see me again, yey! I really like him. He's tall, slim, nice looking, good in bed, we get on well.
However, during the day, when I thought it was all over I had a msg from a guy and we soon moved onto WhatsApp. Basically, he wants to be my Sugar Daddy, even though he's only a few yrs older! Told him I wasn't interested in being a FWB and he said cool let's meet (probably to see if I was worthy of anything else). I invited him round for a coffee and he has not long left. He was sweet but not a looker. He thought I was gorgeous. He has plenty of money and is prepared to splash the cash and treat me like a Princess. We agreed that I would msg him if I wanted to see him again.
I know I shouldn't, right? I really like MrGingerNinja and don't want to blow it again but we haven't had the exclusive talk yet.
God darn it. OLD rules are so complicated!!!

SavageBeauty73 · 20/02/2018 17:42

Also what my friend suggested is talk on the phone at least once before you meet. You get a better sense of whether you'll connect without wasting a night out.

SavageBeauty73 · 20/02/2018 17:43

I love the sound of MeGingerNinja

ginch · 20/02/2018 17:58

That phone chat is so enlightening Savage, some men will block you rather than do it.

SavageBeauty73 · 20/02/2018 18:36

Ginch Great point.

Although I had a great first date a few weeks on. Really got on, arranged our second date and by the time I had got home he had blocked me on everything. I'll never understand men. They are a complete mystery to me.

Walkacrossthesand · 20/02/2018 18:53

This thread has morphed into another dating thread!! [shoos you all back] Wink

ThirdTimeUnlucky · 20/02/2018 19:30

Bigex I love that show. Let us know if you get on. x

Itsjustmarley · 20/02/2018 21:16

I've done Tinder, Bumble, Pof, Inner Circle (sounds a bit like a cult) and huggle. I've only fallen madly in love with 2 guys Haha, I sometimes wonder if OLD is for long term.
I think I'll apply for first dates and take me out... if that doesn't work I guess it's married at first site!!

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FreshFigs · 20/02/2018 21:42

Ooh I don't mind... the more the merrier.

I've joined Bumble and they look and seem nicer than on the others. Have 4 to message now. I'll give it a go for a few days.

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FreshFigs · 20/02/2018 21:44

On Bumble there appear to be less huge fish holders, lycramen, bed selfies and more over 40s with functioning follicles.

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TopOfTheCliff · 20/02/2018 22:06

Hi FreshFigs I hope Bumble works out for you.
I was on the second ever Dating Thread back in 2011 ish. I was trawling POF at 50 when I met my lovely clutternut and all his stuff. While I should have run for the hills I married him instead and am now blissfully happy but fighting to keep the "hoard" at bay! There are some nice men out there as well as the losers. Keep the faith x

SavageBeauty73 · 20/02/2018 22:49

Fresh if you are on Instagram follow tindernightmares. Always makes me giggle.

Kisha86 · 20/02/2018 23:06

I've tried all the ones you have mentioned and yes the choice is slim to none. I those sites Craig list.

ShatnersWig · 21/02/2018 07:55

They are all as shit as each other.

Us men have just as many horror stories.

Kinunir · 21/02/2018 08:03

With OLD it's all about having extreme patience. I think I'm a decent person - so there must be others on there - BUT there are also a lot of people using it who cannot get real life dates for very good reasons.

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FreshFigs · 21/02/2018 08:40

Shatner I'm sure you do! What are the biggest No Nos? I'll check my profile 😬

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FreshFigs · 21/02/2018 08:40

That's great Top! Good to know it works for some x

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