Cheating husband? Help with WhatsApp please!

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I recently downloaded WhatsApp to my phone to talk to a particular friend who is not on Facebook. I knew my husband had it so wasn't surprised when he popped up in my contacts. I mentioned it to him and he said he hadn't used it since messaging a friend a few months ago.
I saw the last seen thing when I sent my friend a message and, being nosy, clicked on my husbands. I was out at the time and it said last seen about 10 mins after I went out. This was about a week ago and he seems to go on it once a day when I'm not about. He has an iPhone and leaves all his apps open but always swipes this one away. He has 3 old chats on WhatsApp but when I looked in the data and storage bit there were 3 more numbers - 2 saying 2 messages and one saying 1 photo, he has deleted them since I told him I have the app.
I then looked in network usage, and the status media bytes received is showing MB rather than KB as everything else does. That's a lot right?
I googled WhatsApp status and see that you can post a status that lasts 24 hours. Now I'm wondering if that's why he only goes on it once a day, to look for a status update from someone. There were none in there this morning when I looked, but if I do find one and open it will he know?
He seems perfectly normal and I have no reason to suspect anything is wrong apart from him lying about not going on this app. I have no idea what I'm doing with WhatsApp so would appreciate any info people can offer.

Sorry for such a long post.

God, awful updates OP. What a shit. You sound like a very strong women , I would have lost it at him by now.

It's still a long shot though isn't it? That you were able to identify two texts to a phone number from 4 months ago, nothing else since, and then saw him using Whatsapp. Now you are certain that on a particular day at a particular time, he is going to go to that exact same hooker from 4 months ago just because he has time off?
Like someone says hookers rarely have the same client for a long time unless they are disabled or elderly old guys.
I'm not disputing the fact that he is hiding something from you, but he may not have been visiting prostitutes at all, ever. There is that. He could be gambling the extra money at the bookies. Or some other explanation that doesn't involve him being unfaithful to you. If you have a joint account it should be very very obvious if extra money is going every week on something else.
If you don't have access to his bank account then he wouldn't care how much he took out. Could he be checking your Whatsapp every time you go out? Because it looks like he checks Whatsapp when you go out? Why would he do that when he could check it anytime he goes to the loo, or another room?

I've been following your thread and I just wanted to say that I feel for you right now.

Good luck today OP, I hope you get some answers. Please be careful

I hope you get some answers today OP. I was in a similar situation and it took nearly 2 months of patient watching and checking before I knew for certain. It does look as if he is up to something - but it might not be this particular sex worker. It could be another one, or meeting a "girlfriend" so he needs the cash to buy her lunch, or pay for a hotel room. Or someone could be coming to your house. If you have help, maybe one person to follow him and one to wait outside the house you think he is visiting?

He needs to be followed by someone discrete (a car he won't recognise). He might be going anywhere, not particularly the hookers house. With your latest update, he could be planning to go anywhere (something is def off with hiding the receipt and no money to show for it), so if you turn up at the hookers house, you might miss where he actually goes, (OW, bookies etc).

Have been following your thread also and was upset to see your updates. What a shit. You seem very strong and together, but no doubt this is a horrendous time for you and such a shock. Am wishing you to stay safe today.

Oh no OP, just read your updates. For just once it would be nice if these things turned out to be innocent or a misunderstanding but they never are.

I caught DH by snooping because I was suspicious in a previously happy marriage. When things change you just know and obviously need to confirm those gut feelings. I still have my fingers crossed for you that he hasn't actually met her yet but the cashback/hidden money doesn't look good.

out of interest OP. You mentioned that your husband went to his appointment last night because you tracked him ok. If you could 'track him' yesterday, then presumably you have managed to set find my friends or something similar and could track him today without putting yourself at risk??

So sorry you’re going through this op, he’s definitely up to something and I hope you get answers today

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this it must suck to be feeling so on edge about someone you thought you could trust!!
Though I will say, I am friends with a lot of escorts and one thing that annoys them most is a client constantly texting them so I doubt that him be on WhatsApp is him talking to a prostitute!

Hope u are ok op

I'm so sorry this is happening. I hope you get some answers soon xx

£20? Jesus she's hardly a high class hooked is she?

Probably desperate for cash and he's exploiting that

OP do you have access to his email?

Do a lost password request on the adult works website and see if he gets an email. If he does, go into his account, change the password and the email address attached to the account then only you will have access.

Bridget - I think OP was meaning that this is how he gets his cash out (bit by bit and stashes it in his car)

*bridget. He’s probably takings extra £20 each time and putting them together to make up the amount

Oh I see!

Keep yourself safe. Wishing you all the best. Please bear in mind if he gets a whiff of something not quite right he will be twitchy this evening.

Hi there,

Have you phone with you to take photos of him if he goes in via the front door.

Stay safe.

Oh op you must be feeling sick to your stomach.

I'd say I hope there's an innocent explanation but it's looking less and less likely. So sorry.

This thread has been a revelation regarding WhatsApp tho!!

”When he comes home and ask what's going on I'd hit his fking head as hard as I can and push him out of the house, forbidding him to come again”

so you’d advocate assaulting him and then locking him out of a house he likely co-owns / co-rents? I’m sure that’ll really help the OP’s situation.

Very restrained of satorye to stop short of suggesting the op stab her dh savagely with the kitchen knife . When all she knows for sure is that he contacted a prostitute once months ago, which Yes would probably end my marriage, but it wouldn’t justify grevious bodily harm.

I was in a similar situation and I kicked the ass hole out of the house-he was paying the rent but he didn't DARE to come back until I allowed him. He shouldn't be spared and she needs to take her anger out on someone who deserved it. He fucking deserved it.