Cheating husband? Help with WhatsApp please!

[betrayedorcrazy]

I recently downloaded WhatsApp to my phone to talk to a particular friend who is not on Facebook. I knew my husband had it so wasn't surprised when he popped up in my contacts. I mentioned it to him and he said he hadn't used it since messaging a friend a few months ago.
I saw the last seen thing when I sent my friend a message and, being nosy, clicked on my husbands. I was out at the time and it said last seen about 10 mins after I went out. This was about a week ago and he seems to go on it once a day when I'm not about. He has an iPhone and leaves all his apps open but always swipes this one away. He has 3 old chats on WhatsApp but when I looked in the data and storage bit there were 3 more numbers - 2 saying 2 messages and one saying 1 photo, he has deleted them since I told him I have the app.
I then looked in network usage, and the status media bytes received is showing MB rather than KB as everything else does. That's a lot right?
I googled WhatsApp status and see that you can post a status that lasts 24 hours. Now I'm wondering if that's why he only goes on it once a day, to look for a status update from someone. There were none in there this morning when I looked, but if I do find one and open it will he know?
He seems perfectly normal and I have no reason to suspect anything is wrong apart from him lying about not going on this app. I have no idea what I'm doing with WhatsApp so would appreciate any info people can offer.

Sorry for such a long post.

OP, I've got a lot of respect for how you're handling this. You must be going through absolute hell so in my thoughts xx

WhatsApp isn’t on phone bills so if I were u I would get WhatsApp detector

So sorry that you're going through this OP.

I just wanted to add that I once read on here that prostitutes won't be using a personal phone, or have apps like WhatsApp etc.
It's often the case that they aren't even in possession of a 'work' phone at all and the person - 'clients' are communicating with is in fact her (male) pimp

If he's hooking up with her tomorrow then he'd have to have phoned her some way. The hooker's number must be in his phone somewhere. It is a long shot that he will actually visit her tomorrow if there is no evidence of him calling her in the past 4 months on the phone bill. Did your friend's husband call her using Whatsapp?
My point being is that if the hooker isn't using Whatsapp then the Whatsapp stuff he is doing is do with something/someone else entirely.

OP could you just nick his phone? Or is he glued to it. If you could nick it and make out he's lost it you could just wait and see what comes in. Mine was glued to his (which was a huge clue- we used to use his phone as our communal TV remote and suddenly he was taking it to the loo)

Yes agree, this could be a red herring, but I’d check it out anyway.. or follow him

I know how you feel to an extent. I remember I almost threw up when my husband announced he'd been to a prostitute. It's a horrible thing to go through, take one moment at a time

I would have sworn he was just checking on your last online status... until the prostitute thing came up. I don’t think he’s messaging someone just when you go out the room, he’s checking. And it seems to be more than once a day?

So sorry you’re going through this OP seems we should all listen to gut instincts

I'm so glad you've listened to your gut, shame on all the people saying you shouldn't be snooping etc

You're doing the right thing and do it your way.
So sorry that you're gong through this but you deserve to know the truth.

Good luck with everything tomorrow

I am so sorry to hear what you're going through.

Stay strong!

Another way to snoop on him is to see where his recent locations have been -

Go to settings - privacy - location services - scroll down to system services - scroll down to significant locations & there should be a list of his locations!

Also go through settings - accounts & passwords to see if he's on any sites!

X

What an absolute shit! So sorry OP

Sorry for late reply OP.

Do you find that most men stick to one sex worker or mix it up a bit?

That's not really something I can answer as I don't work from home, I travel to a destination and work from a hotel (we call this touring.) But I would say in general there are guys who find a "regular" and only book her, but they are in the minority. When I worked from home I did have a few guys who only saw me, but that was generally guys with physical problems or disabilities who didn't want to explain their problems/needs/requirements every time. Generally those guys would be in their 60s or over.

TBH myself and a lot of other sex workers tend to bin younger guys off who only see us, as they can have a tendency to get emotionally attached, which we don't want whether they are single or not.

Please be VERY careful if you decide to go to this sex worker's premises, especially if it's a private house rather than a hotel. You have no idea if she has a security guy hanging around. And by making a fake booking you have damaged her business (she may have turned away a genuine client who wanted that time slot.)

I’m so sorry OP. I can only imagine how hard this is for you. You’re handling it so well. I hope you get to the bottom of what’s going soon and this doesn’t drag out. No advice, just wanted to give you

Can I also say, please listen to NotTheFordType advice and be careful if you are turning up at her premises. Don’t go alone. You don’t know what you may find there or the type of people who may be hanging around. If your suspicions are true, I doubt you’ll be in a fit state to drive home by yourself. Please take someone with you

OP I didn't want to read & run. I think he way you have handled this has been incredible. You're being very brave & strong.

And by making a fake booking you have damaged her business (she may have turned away a genuine client who wanted that time slot

My heart goes out to you OP.
That feeling of knowing something is going on but having to wait for proof is just sickening. I hope you get the answers you need soon and that you have plenty of real life support if it's the worst outcome.
Take care

Oh, OP! I really hope this is all some crazy misunderstanding and it's all legit.

In your situation, I'd have done exactly the same as you re. Looking at phones and digging deeper. I'm so glad you did.

If your suspicion is confirmed tomorrow, if it's any comfort to you, a prostitute isn't for love, there would be no emotional connection like an affair with another woman. It would be just sex.

I wish you all the luck in the world x

I don't think he is messaging the prostitute all day - I think he googled one, and maybe even used her, but is just messaging someone else - eg when you are out.

@Annabelle4 ??

@sadie9
Your description of WhatsApp isn’t correct!

So sorry this is happening - hope,it's all innocent

Hi OP . .so sorry you're going thru this..must be horrendous for you. I would also say be very careful tomorrow...look after yourself but also be prepared for him not being there....i suspect he is whatsapping with someone else.
Also wanted to say annabelle4 that was rude to Ford...she is being incredibly kind sticking her head above the parapet to answer questions about sex work. It's a job and people do indeed get justifiably cross when their professional time is wasted...

Tbh I’m sure the last thing Betrayed is thinking about is the prostitutes loss of earnings!