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Original poster

How does your DH speak to you?

38 replies

fone · 02/05/2007 14:48

Put yourself in this scenario:

Hubby is out of the room so you decide to relax and lie on the sofa with your legs up...5 minutes later he comes back in, walks over to the couch and says:

a) excuse me...
b) move your legs please or
c) budge

which is most likely from your DH?

Also, if he was laid across the couch and you walked over blatently wanting to sit down would he:

a) stay where he was until you asked him directly to move or
b) move straight away?

OP posts:
jalopy · 02/05/2007 14:49

a)
b)

compo · 02/05/2007 14:49

sometimes we are polite to each other an dosmetimes it is just 'shove over'

BibiThree · 02/05/2007 14:49

Probably "budge" but said in a teasing way, never nastily.

Smaug · 02/05/2007 14:49

(a) but I would already have moved my legs (polite, me!)

and

(b) (polite, him!)

littlelapin · 02/05/2007 14:50

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Tutter · 02/05/2007 14:50

the secret to a happy marriage is separate sofas

PeterAndreFanCLub · 02/05/2007 14:51

was juts htinking that
mine is very polite thpugh to me and the kdis
really annoying

Original poster
fone · 02/05/2007 14:51

He says "budge", half the time I can't work out whether he is being bossy/impolite or if its just the way he speaks.

OP posts:
PinkTulips · 02/05/2007 14:52

c and a

lucykate · 02/05/2007 14:54

he would ask me to move my legs so he could sit down, but them let me put them back up on his knee.

and if he was laying on the sofa and i walked over, he would probably let me lie down with him.

20 years together and we still fancy each other

PeterAndreFanCLub · 02/05/2007 14:54

oh perlease

lucykate · 02/05/2007 14:56

just jealous

PeterAndreFanCLub · 02/05/2007 14:56

lol
i odn twant to knwo abotu your sex life!

mankyscotslass · 02/05/2007 15:32

c & b!
Although he would put my legs across his when he had sat down!

scatterbrain · 02/05/2007 15:36

We have separate sofas !!! After this long together not much sofa cuddling action sadly !

As to how he speaks to me - well he speaks in polite words but with a rude tone of voice iyswim !!

IdrisTheDragon · 02/05/2007 15:39

If one of us was lying on the sofa, the other one would sit on the armchair.

snowleopard · 02/05/2007 15:42

He would lie on the sofa and not move, but he would if I asked him. To move me he would say "shift yer bum!" but in a fun friendly way and I say it to him too.

It's not just what they say and do, it's if you feel there's ill-feeling behind it as well...

mumto3girls · 02/05/2007 15:46

a) and b) and probably lift his arm up so I could snuggle up...

Tigana · 02/05/2007 15:48

c - or just sit down
a - being deliberately awkward with a grin on his face

In either scenario the legs would return to more or less original position once other perosn sat down.

Flamesparrow · 02/05/2007 16:06

Both scenarios... sit on the computer chair

americantrish · 08/05/2007 12:03

a.
b.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 08/05/2007 12:13

he would say 'move your legs please' to me but would 'move straight away' for me.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 08/05/2007 12:14

i would then put my legs back, over his lap, but wont have his on me as they are too heavy! lol

DrNortherner · 08/05/2007 12:14

b
a

LilRedWG · 08/05/2007 12:19

Mine says, "Let me in", which I'm more than happy too, as I plonk my legs back on his lap and get foot/leg rubs

If DH was lay on the sofa, which is rare, I'd just sit on the other one or sit on the floor by him. Subservient, me.