BF won a fortune..and dumped me.

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So that's pretty much it. We've been an item for a couple of years now. He's been in and out of jobs and I've bailed him out and loaned him money more often than I can remember. I've supported him through depression. I have 3 children and work part time so couldn't really afford to feed him and loan him money. But I did because I loved him.
He gave me the speech about it wasn't working for him and the timings not right etc. I found out that on the morning before he finished with me, he'd won £220,000. I cannot believe it. I feel like I've been punched. He's obviously used me all this time, I thought he loved me. He's bragging about how he can " think of himself now rather than other people". I feel sick.

Has he repaid all the money you actually loaned him? If not, ask him for it back.

Aren't you glad he's out of your life. Nasty man.

lucky escape OP. Some day you'll be glad. He'll blow through that money in no time -guarantee it.

Remember his words as he might turn up claiming to love you once the money runs out. If, as I suspect, he does then tell him it’s not the right time and your life has been so much better not having to think about him.

I’d say that’s a small price to pay for getting rid of the twit. Move on OP and aim higher, he sounds like a real plonker.

Knowing his true character is worth more than £220K. Seriously, OP. Even if it doesn't feel like it right now, you are the winner for having got this loser out of your life.

As others have said, it's been a blessing really. In effect, he's been happy to take food out of your childrens mouths, and was a financial burden. Be happy he's gone.

i'd try to get my money back, sue? what ever means available.

Op you dodged a bullet there. His true colours came out.

He won't realise it for ages, but what he lost was invaluable - and irreplaceable - YOU!

Bastard. Hope he chokes on it, or drowns in a vat of malmesey wine, or of a surfeit of palfreys or something equally amusing. "Oh, X, isn't he the guy who won a load of dosh and then died by glutting on those expensive small fish? Hahahahahahahahahahaha". To be remembered as the object of a joke so everyone laughs at your demise would be well deserved.

Perhaps he will make himself constipated with 'good living' and burst a blood vessel on the bog...

I bet he burns through that money in no time, and is back whining on your doorstep. Well you know exactly what to say don't you....before you slam the door in his stupid arsed face!

The thing is - you loved him when he hadn’t got a bean. And he knew you did.
How is he ever going to know if his next girl friend has genuine feelings for him or is just itching to get hold of his wallet.
He is the loser OP, not you

Omg he's so going to blow this money! Op I know you must be really sad and this will take some time to recover from. However you don't have to fund him anymore and you can watch him from afar frittering away his win.

Cocklodger. As other have said, he's done you a massive favour.

Praying for him to shart himself in Waitrose (new found wealth and all that) for you OP.

You're well rid. 220k wont go far for someone who is (presumably) financially irresponsible. Shame that he has it instead of someone more deserving, but thats life.

P.s. whats his address and where does he keep his wallet at night? Asking for a friend

He'll be broke by Xmas.

220k would give me security for life because I would be mortgage free, but to a twat like him .... nah. He will "spend, spend, spend" until that one wonderful day when his card is declined. It will happen, we can just hope that the icing on the cake is that it happens when he is trying to impress some woman who is only with him because she thinks he is rich.

 @dirtybadger !

Send the fucker a bill! For the money he borrowed!

How much have you loaned him over the last year? Time to get some advice about claiming that money back. Did he borrow money off you shortly before the win? If he did then it could be your money he used to buy the ticket or whatever he gambled with. If he hadn’t repaid your loan money then it’s worth getting advice about claiming a share of that win

My exdp inherited well over 300k and blew it all

never gave a penny to our DC, has never paid any maintenance or contributed to our dc. And no longer has any money and has started to ask to borrow money from me!!

I am amazed you are even still on speaking terms after that. Fucking hell. I do hope you aren't lending it to him.

I hope one day when your children are old enough that they will be told exactly how important to him they were.

My extwat won the lottery the month before we got married (not the big one, but a tidy sum). The marriage was a disaster - he was a violent alcoholic - but it took me a couple of years to finally get out. When he came to pay me after our financial settlement, he insisted his parents remortgage to give him the money. He still had every penny from the win in his bank account.

Galling though it is, it's money you've never had so try just to be glad he's shown you his true colours while you can escape easily.

You've had a lucky escape. All his money will be gone before the next Olympic Games. Cocklodger.

Thank you all. I know I need to get over it but its damn hard, I've pretty much been scammed haven't I? I feel like such a fool, all the signs were there but I chose to believe the best of him..