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Need a FWB....

119 replies

sneakynameswitch · 08/02/2018 20:35

As title. Done a name change but am a regular poster. Korean lady, CF's etc.

I think I want to find a FWB. I'm mid thirties, size 12, scrub up ok. Shouldn't be too hard should it??? How do I go about it please? I have children and don't want to allow anyone into my home.

Don't need safety advice, I'm as sensible as they come. Just how one finds one and navigates the parameters.

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Sneakynameswitch · 17/02/2018 08:39

Sigh. I left this thread due to the trolls (OP here in case changing my name back doesn't work properly)

For clarity:

a) Anyone who doesn't understand the difference between sex and a vibrator isn't doing it right

b) I have no interest in gifts/dinner from any man. I out earn most of the men I know and I'm certainly smarter then most of them. Sorry if posters can't get their heads round that.

c) Some posters seem to have some really deep seated issues with sex that they are projecting onto this thread. Get therapy guys

d) Those posters who are clearly in a couple and feigning outrage at a single woman seeking a sexual relationship - I'm sorry you find this threatening. If it helps I've been approached by plenty of married men whilst single and I've turned them all down. Because I have integrity, brains and confidence.

HTH

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Whatonearthwillhappen · 17/02/2018 08:45

sneaky

Point a - how true is that - just no comparison !

Yes for many people it is always the men taking advantage of a woman - Jeez! I have just had many months of amazing sex with a FWB ( which admittedly did get messy due to him becoming attached ) and I loved it.

Would also love to find someone new as I just don't want currently a relationship.

pumpkin10 · 17/02/2018 10:37

I am coming off this thread as it has too many posters who are just outright bitchy to one another men included. I thought mumsnet was supposed to be helpful. not just for a good bitch

pumpkin10 · 17/02/2018 11:02

@Sapiosexual
be careful what you say on here a previous poster got banned for upsetting other posters

pumpkin10 · 17/02/2018 11:07

well said TastyLentils at last someone with some sense and decency

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 18/02/2018 16:25

So exactly how were your posts helpful pumpkin10?

pumpkin10 · 18/02/2018 18:01

@MickHucknallspinkpancakes
How helpful were yours?
As I said the site is bitchy.

lottieandmia22 · 18/02/2018 18:47

I've had quite a few FWB - I'm 37 though I look more like 27. Most of them were about 23. It suited me fine apart from one abusive one. And they were all as thick as planks (gym monkeys) I liked that they would just clear off afterwards and I could go to sleep.

With all that said fwb is nothing compared to a loving relationship with the right man.

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 18/02/2018 18:48

Err...she asked how to go about finding a FWB and I answered with my exact experience and a suggestion of where to go.

I believe that fundamentally answered the OPs question with factual input?

All you did was derail the topic with a judgemental comment about vibrators, and side with the people making judgemental comments on the OPs lifestyle choice.

You come across as one of the bitchiest of all, truth be told.

pumpkin10 · 19/02/2018 12:27

MickHucknallspinkpancakes

From your post it sounds like your a right bloke I did not derail the topic. Just suggested to the OP that because most men are useless and she was just looking for 'benefits' she might as well think about choosing other methods to please herself.
So do not decide whether an option is valid or not just after a handful of comments

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 19/02/2018 14:05

I'm a bloke am I? 😂😂😂

Josuk · 19/02/2018 16:00

Oh, Mick...
Welcome to the club. I’ve been accused of being a man too before.

Basically - being a person that enjoys sex as sex, and without stating that great sex can only happen when souls meet - that makes one a man in MN world.

And Pumpkin - I agree - many men are useless and clueless about sex. And how to please their partners.
So are many women - cluless about their partners and themselves - often thinking that their orgasms are for men to deliver.

Anyway - I hope OP finds what she is looking for!!!!

Anniexoxo · 19/02/2018 16:04

Seeking Arrangement?

pumpkin10 · 19/02/2018 16:55

@MickHucknallspinkpancakes
meow

MotherofaSurvivor · 19/02/2018 17:28

Oh I need this too!!! Same position as you OP! Except I'm far above a size 12! So I don't stand much luck x

pumpkin10 · 27/02/2018 10:48

Did you find your willy?

tankerman1962 · 10/02/2019 09:29

Hi I'm new to this type of chat and also this site. a short while ago i put a post on here asking just the same question, and i got battered by a lot of nasty unhelpful people. one woman said i should just go and have a wank! why is it when a woman wants sex she has needs but when a man wants sex he's a dirty git? I love my wife very much and would not do anything to upset her. the fact that she has no appetite for sex or closeness, does not mean i have lost these feelings. being stuck in limbo is not easy. its basic and human after all.

stevie69 · 10/02/2019 13:53

why do you need a fwb. Cant you be happy being single? why not invest in a vibrator ? less complicated and much more fun

A vibrator is more fun? I think you've experienced the wrong men.

stevie69 · 10/02/2019 13:55

With all that said fwb is nothing compared to a loving relationship with the right man.

It definitely is for me Blush

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