Need a FWB....

[sneakynameswitch]

As title. Done a name change but am a regular poster. Korean lady, CF's etc.

I think I want to find a FWB. I'm mid thirties, size 12, scrub up ok. Shouldn't be too hard should it??? How do I go about it please? I have children and don't want to allow anyone into my home.

Don't need safety advice, I'm as sensible as they come. Just how one finds one and navigates the parameters.

Bloody hell sneaky, I hope you reported them!

I'm coming round to the idea that I could do with a younger male lover. I don't want a stepdad for my kids and most men my age (44) have either let themself go or are after a 20 something girlfriend. Plus a lot of them are rubbish in bed as they are unfit and once they've cum once, that's it. So maybe I'll get myself a 20something boyfriend...

Tinder!!!!

Depending on where you are - try Killing Kittens.

I've been chatting to a hot 20something guy who super liked me on tinder. Think he wants the older woman experience and I'm quite happy to oblige

I am mid/late thirties and met a guy on a work night out. I suppose I look a good few years younger so he didn't go for me specifically for the older woman thing (13 years younger).
Had what was supposed to be a ONS but has morphed into a FWB situation. Neither of us want a relationship but we click personality wise and the sex is unreal. Highly reccomend a younger FWB.

I used tinder. And okc

I had to have a few unintentional one night stands (people I thought would become lovers but I ended up not enjoying their company or the sex as much as I thought so didn’t see them again.)

I think I put on my profile “I’m not looking for a relationship. Please try not to be alarmed, it’s ok for women to say that too.”

I got a lot of idiots assuming I would fuck them without even a chat first to see if we fancy each other.

And then a lot of people who genuinely appreciated the honesty and directness. Some of which I fancied and they became lovers.

No @middleclasstwat but your attitude is charming. I posted for advice about how to enter into a situation where two adults are fulfilling a particular need in safe, respectful way. I'm a highly educated, professional, articulate woman and I am entitled to seek out that type of relationship if I wish. Your street corner comment says a lot more about you than it does about me.

All the dating apps would probably work for you, tinder is really easy. Shocked at the street corner comment - how Victorian!

Yes, tinder is brilliant for that! A tip though: don't feel tempted to hint in your profile that you want a "fun" or a FWB type thing. That will only attract awful men. Keep it classy and you'll get the type you want, and I'm sure they'll be overjoyed at what you're asking also, don't be afraid to message first. It's such a saturated pool that often the reeeeally fit/funny men don't message first because they don't have to.

@middleclasstwat have to agree with OP - your comments say more about you and your prejudiced views

Two consenting adults enjoying each others company, whether that be over coffee, a meal, walk in the park - sharing an emotional or physical connection without the burden of outdated and unquestioned social constraints is a very healthy thing. The more open it is, the more healthy it is for all involved and for society in general.

You are more than entitled to disagree, but your vile insults speak volumes about intolerance and prejudice

To all the men who messaged me after I posted this: This is supposed to be a safe space....FFS

No it isn't a safe space, it's an anonymous open forum on the internet.

To think anything else is extremely naive.

Report the messages to MNHQ.

Twat by name, twat by nature.

And I just want to say, I’m not one of those males who tried to crack onto the OP either :)

Mumsnet is hardly a safe space, its a very public forum.

Craigslist is good for anonymity.

I posted an add (without a pic) and have had probably 200 replies, if not more. Around 198 of those were complete weirdos, but I've got to know two (via WhatsApp) who seem promising so far!

Middleclasstwat - the latter part of your name is definitely on point

middleclasstwat your username says it all

Go crawl back under your rock

NotSoSprightly great minds!

enjoying the attention

i am allowed an opinion and also by user name is a piss take

Think your comments are also a piss take 😂

@middleclasstwat

Yes, you are allowed an opinion. Every reasonable person would agree on that. They would also agree that you are allowed to insult people in our free society.

I will, however, repeat my comments above:

"..... You are more than entitled to disagree, but your vile insults speak volumes about intolerance and prejudice....."

Turning opinions on behaviors into vile personal insults devalues any reasonable argument you may have and demonstrates your own intolerance and prejudice. I suspect that you will probably harbour similar intolerant and prejudiced "opinions" on other sections of our society.

Be honest and own up to what you are