Need a FWB....

[sneakynameswitch]

As title. Done a name change but am a regular poster. Korean lady, CF's etc.

I think I want to find a FWB. I'm mid thirties, size 12, scrub up ok. Shouldn't be too hard should it??? How do I go about it please? I have children and don't want to allow anyone into my home.

Don't need safety advice, I'm as sensible as they come. Just how one finds one and navigates the parameters.

@cuban8
if a man went on a web site like this and was asking how to find a FWB he would probably be hung by the women on this site because it is a woman it is a completely different story there are always two sets of rules. I wonder why? I hope i have not offended you this time.

Middleclasstwat: not all women wants a r'ship and all the trappings that go with it.

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Thanks for asking this OP, similar here, I'd also be interested in a very easy going FWB. I'd be looking for friendship, intelligence, interest in fitness and a sense of humour. I won't ever go on the dating sites as they petrify me, having never done it before. MN should definitely have a dating forum!

@Risen
You must of been in some awful relationships to call them 'trappings'

Pretty sure I've seen a post from a man on here looking for fwb situations and he got sensible advice.

Relationships require work, compromise and investment. Some people do not have any such resources to give, for all sorts of reasons. So they look for respectful mutually beneficial arrangements to enable them to have at least some social and sexual contact. We are social animals... It's not brain surgery.

middleclasstwat

I have had a fwb for the past 3 years. I don't want a relationship (single parent and want to stay that way) but I don't want to be -gasp- celibate! And I enjoy some male company once in a while when DS is with his father.

I would absolutely be fine about a man asking for advice on the same thing. The important thing in these situations is absolute honesty from the beginning from both parties.

I met my FWB online but it was somebody I knew from years ago. We were messaging for about a month before we met up. Safety is also paramount.

Websites are good. Adultfriendfinder, for example. Be super clear about what you want and have the stomach for sorting through hundreds of dick pics and you will find what you’re looking for.

Meet for a brief coffee and take it from there. In my experience it’s better to try saying no or changing small details of the meeting like time or place at the last minute to see how relaxed and amenable they are. Insist on seeing some social media or a business card - sifts out the married ones.

I’ve had a few experiences this way and they’ve all been brilliant.

Op also just ignore the trolls, you don’t have to justify yourself to anyone.

I met my dh through Match.com about a decade ago. I’d put on my profile that I wasn’t after a relationship as I wasn’t. I think it got me more interest from guys than I would have otherwise but there are decent blokes out there who for whatever reason just want a shag with a nice woman rather than a relationship.

As shocking as it may be to people like middleclasstwat it is possible for women to not wan a relationship but still want sex.

Appalling spelling for someone claiming to be middleclass you twat.

"Caused offensive to you"? Hilarious. You've been very entertaining anyway.

middleclasstwat what on earth are you on about? A FWB situation is nothing like what you've just described.

ShatnersWig
It seems you may also be looking for a FWB.
By the way English is not my first language so when you can read write and speak more than two languages let me know.

Jeg kan snakke mer enn ett språk. Jeg er opprinnelig fra Norge.

@ ShatnersWig

Well Done for using Google translate it comes in handy.

nuq rur SoH, DaHar'a' parmaq

middleclasstwat

Qu'importe la langue, vous passez pour un mysogyne anachronique et somme toute assez pathétique.

Like others have said go online & be clear & specific about what you want & are looking for.

I’d say you’d be looking at what about 90% of men were truly looking for. Good luck

@pimmsy
Did that dictionary taste nice?
@ShatnersWig
You are sadder than I am

middleclasstwat you’ve said English isn’t your first language. Could you explain what you think FWB stands for? Because it’s friends with benefits - aka regular (or not) no strings sex wit a nice person. So, no one having sex with anyone for roses or jewellery. Just, you know, casual sex.

@flopsy
Yes dear I do understand I have been living on this planet quite a while.

@flopsy
Can you tell me what "benefits" means though seeing as your so educated ?

@middleclasstwat

It's actually English that's a foreign language for me.

Does your misogyny go as far as to lead you to believe that women are incapable of speaking multiple languages?

Do you really think that a woman's worth has any sort of correlation with her sexual habits?

Please do explain, and feel free to do so in your mother tongue if you'd like - I'm sure we'll be able to work it out with google translate.

pimmsy I can't imagine twat likes much tongue, mother's or otherwise