If your short term live in partner was cheating on you would you want to know ?

[RainyDayPerson]

It is as simple as that - would you want to know especially if he has slagged you off in messages and has stated verbally that he is thinking of leaving you at some point ? And yes it would be coming from a FWB situation which has gone tits up .

Not sure what a ‘short term live in partner’ is, but yes, I’d want to know. I might not thank the person doing the telling, though.

Yes. Absolutely yes. The quicker I could get away from him the better. Wouldn't care who told me.

What's a "short term partner"?

Of course. Wouldn't want to develop a long term relationship with a cheat. Do you mean the are FWB who live together though? As that's not cheating but does sound like they're being horrible saying shitty things in messages.

NancyJoan short term live in partner = about 2 years living together

Apologies , I have not explained properly - he lives with a partner ( was about 18 months in when he started with FWB partner - yes it is me , shoot me now ! ) and he has told me about this .

I wouldn't let somebody I KNEW was a short term partner move in.

Oh right, you've lived together two years.

I'd get turned off. You could discuss it all year but just get turned off by a lack of commitment and respect

This situation is so confusing so you lived with a man then began sleeping together then started a relationship (or is it still just FWB??) and now he has been slagging you off on messages saying he wants to leave and he TOLD you that? He obviously wants to hurt you and doesn't sound like he likes you at all. Sorry.

Are you the other woman?

No i think the OP has FWB with the guy,its gone tits up so shw wants to tell his partner?

There are 3 people here - there is the man that I have been having a FWB with , there is me and there is his partner who he has lived with for about 2 years now. He has been slagging off his partner to me . Apologies if I am clouding the issue here . Yes I know I am despicable for having FWB when he has a partner . I know that . My question is - if you were this man's partner : would you want to know what he has been saying to me ?

Why does it matter if you want to know or not??? Either you know or you don’t, you can’t unknow now you’ve found out

No, he lives with his partner. OP is the OW. Man has slagged off his partner to OP in messages and told OP he's going to leave his partner.

I think?

Ah sorry, cross-post.

Yes I think she should know especially if you can send messages to prove it though don't expect her to thank you if you've been seeing her boyfriend.

Yes psychobabble123

Is your FWB situation now at an end then?

Yes whitevixen

What would be your motivation for doing so?

I wouldn't consider 2 years to be short term. And you aren't a fwb partner. You are the other woman. If I was the live in partner yes If want to know so as not to waste any more time on him.

I don't think you should say anything. It sounds like you only want to say something because you've been stung. Who knows what he's saying about you now

RainyDayPerson

You do know he isn't going to leave his partner don't you? Also why would you want a cheat? Doesn't it show he's a nasty character?

You're being taken in by this player. Of course he'll tell you he's thinking of leaving her but why hasn't he done it yet? If he wanted to be with you he would. There is nothing to be gained by telling her. I hope she's not a friend of yours.

Oh gosh

Right, so you are the other woman. I'd be slightly more annoyed at my partner for fucking someone else (who knew he wasn't single), than slagging me off...