If your short term live in partner was cheating on you would you want to know ?

[RainyDayPerson]

It is as simple as that - would you want to know especially if he has slagged you off in messages and has stated verbally that he is thinking of leaving you at some point ? And yes it would be coming from a FWB situation which has gone tits up .

I would want to know.

Okay you worded your op really oddly, I guess to make yourself feel less guilty. If they have been together two years it’s not short term and really doesn’t make what you’ve done any less shitty but whatever. Oh and of course he’s slagged her off! He’s a liar and a cheat he would say anything for a shag. You telling her horrible things he’s said is just cruel. I think you are being horribly selfish. He’s hurt you and now you want to lash out, you don’t give a shit about his partner so don’t make out like telling her would be doing her some kind of favour Jesus.

If you dressed this up anymore it would be Barbie

"You were fucking a man in a relationship, you fell for him, he wasn’t interested in anything more than your vagina, and now you’re feeling vindictive and want to tell his partner.

Not sure why you’re trying to dress it up as something else."

^This. Quite pathetic, but I have no sympathy for you at all. Tell his partner, she can do better! I don't reckon you will though, until you sort yourself out. Do you have self esteem issues?

Wow you're a piece of work aren't you?

You sleep with someone else's boyfriend for ages (although once is bad enough), listen to him whine about her and slag her off (probably joining in in between your sexting), and now because he's dumped you, you want to tell her he slagged her off behind her back?

Why not tell her she is in a long term relationship with a scumbag and you're the tart who spread her legs for him at the snap of his fingers? Least then she gets the full truth rather than your edited 'look at me aren't I the good guy' hero version.

You're no better than him and you deserve each other. Hopefully you change and actually find a single man next time, but doubtful. Continue to be the girl on the side. Those are the types that are generally slagged off as being easy by guys anyway.

I'm disgusted you even considered describing what you did as Fwb. I have had a few fwb I enjoy nsa sex with SINGLE PEOPLE it suits my circumstances and me personally.

It is NOT Fwb - you were and there are other terms more apt but would get me deleted the other woman AND you KNEW IT!

He is marginally worse than you because he made promises to her but you have behaved despicably.

You're pissed off because you were scorned I'm not buying for one second you don't want him for yourself.

To answer your question yes I'd want to know but not from you. There's no altruism here it's pure spite!

Leave them both alone and don't fuck attached men. It's not hard.

The partner needs to know, least because she's being lied to and definitely because she's now been exposed to sti's. Actually you may get him in the end, you deserve each other.