Am I pathetic for being upset over bf liking photos of women on Instagram

[Lucymek]

Just that really.

My friend told me my bf has liked around five six
Pics this year of women (the same women) from our area on Instagram.

It has annoyed me.

Just to confirm I don't have Instagram and I don't like photos so there are no pics of us on his page which I don't care about.

I am glad I’m not the only one!

Its a photo. It’s not like the guy is giving her the thumbs up and a wink in a nightclub.

The solution is obviously to speak to partner and say ‘I feel a bit jealous seeing you like images of women who live locally, do I have reason to be concerned?’ And see how he responds. I hope you’re OK though OP, it’s not nice to feel insecure (even if I don’t think you need to) and I hope he reassures you.

Hi everyone. Thought this thread died.

So I tried to move past it but it really annoyed me when I was with him i was just moody and annoyed at him. I took some space this week and I don't know what to do. It's stupid but It's broken the trust.

Like people said it's an invitation to initiate contact in my opinion.

I was at a restaurant earlier and seen one of the girls who's photos he liked. It pissed me off and I feel shit again. I wasn't with him at the time I was with a friend.

Don't know what to do.

If you and he have irreconcilable differences of opinions about boundaries, then end the relationship. I was in your boyfriend's position years ago, with a partner who was clear he didn't find it acceptable if I had friends of the opposite sex, wouldn't let me communicate with other men, read my email to police this, and wouldn't let me wear makeup as he said that was a clear invitation to other men to make contact.

So I left him. I presume he found a gf with compatible views on that kind of thing. Because the alternative was horrible and abusive and hellish for both of us. Leave the poor guy and let him find someone more compatible.

Lmaooo he is the poor guy. Yes your right how selfish of me.

Completely agree with kittykat

Honestly, having been in his position, I do feel bad for him. But, you know, we all have different boundaries and expectations in relationships. And that's ok. People are different.

If you'd rather I phrased it differently - I don't think he's the bad guy here. I don't think you're necessarily the bad guy either. But from what you're saying, you might be incompatible.

Erm I think u have the wrong idea here.

I am not your ex sorry if you've had a bad experience.

Yes it is a bit pathetic to care about stuff like this.

You either trust a partner or you don't.

When women go on about how a man is somehow disrespecting them by liking a picture on the internet I just think, can you not get your self worth from somewhere a little more sensible. It seems such a shame to be motivated by things you can't control. A recipe for misery.

The fact a man thinks women are pretty doesnt in any way affect the fact that I am secure and happy with myself and my relationship... Women are beautiful creatures and there is no shame in my partner thinking the same. I trust him, so it's a non issue

But I appreciate this is an unpopular opinion. Personally I prefer not to let other people's behaviour make me feel shit about myself. My self worth comes from my opinion of myself. Nowhere else

You think one thing about instagram he thinks another
Find someone else who has similar values to you. Problem solved

I don't think you're being unreasonable, especially if it's the same girl. My boyfriend has liked the same girls picture twice on Facebook over the 2 years we've been together and yeah it's annoyed me but I prefer to pick my battles so just left him to it, I trust him in that area x

Why is your friend taking note of this to start with??

Have you explained to him how you feel? What was his response?

I don’t think you are being silly. I think it is teenagerish behaviour. Even grown men liking pics of local girls all done up. Grow up!

Hey.

I feel your pain. Been having a tough time with my OH, we both work a lot so our sex life has dwindled a lot which is getting me down because the closeness - then I noticed he's followed 5/6 random pretty women on Instagram, not celebs or models just ordinary women he doesn't know, and has been liking their selfies, no other photos, just their selfies, and it's made me feel like garbage.

Hope you got your situation sorted!

What kind of pics are they? Are they friends of his? How do they know each other? All about context and how comfortable you feel.

I've actually banned my boyfriend from doing this.

Kittykat's comment is a month old. But still, "banned"? If a man banned his girlfriend from liking pictures of men on social media, that would probably be considered abusive.

Not a month old, a year old ha.

Yeah @Scott72 zombie thread.

But to answer you, yes if my dh wasn't happy with me wanking to random men's photos on insta and told me not to, for the sake of our marriage I'd happily give it up, because my dh and marriage would come before any pictures.
(I don't perv on insta pics but besides).

I wouldn't worry about the liking tbh... it's public after all

A man of my acquaintance never likes or posts a single thing on Facebook and to all appearances has an inactive account... but he is very active chatting up ladies via Messenger!