Can marriage counseling save it even when still having an affair?

[niteandfog]

SYBXH really wants us to go to counseling. I said fine but I won't end my affair. However I think this is a total waste of time and money and I'm not even slightly committed? The only reason I can see it working is so he knows that we've definitely reached the end and there's no room for reconciliation.

Because I don't agree with what MNs says? I haven had absolutely no episodes since I moved out. My daughter says I'm much happier, ex says the same...and I lost my job in the meantime so I could have gone mental but I haven't...

I was in your shoes for a year, finally getting a divorce, still with my AP but just casually. I'm not unhappy that we tried counselling but only because it makes me feel like less of a monster for wanting out. I read Too Good to Leave Too Bad To Stay and it really really helped. If you're sure I say just walk. I was sure, and now I'm free! Feel free to PM me if you want to chat about it.

Why does your ex want to go to counselling if he can see you're much happier?

not because you don't agree with MNs but because you don't have any morals any boundaries or any idea of the real world.
I hope it all comes crashing down on you.
no matter how many threads you start and everyone is telling you not to shag someone else's husband you keep coming back asking questions abiut YOU. about how things can be made easier for YOU. how YOU have such a hard life, How YOU can't see someone else's husband enough, How YOU are worried the wife will find out, How YOU feel about being the talk of the town.
Read back through your own posts from last year and look at how you come across

You mentioned in a previous post how your mother was a cheat and your grandmother and now you? Would you like your daughter to be the same?

My mom never cheated on my dad nor technically did my grandma. All I said my grandma was the OW and my mom is the product of that relationship. If my daughter decided to go that way it's up to her, I don't think it's dignified but I can only listen and support her any way I can if she's ever in that situation. Also, for whoever asked about the counseling, that was suggested a month ago, a lot of things have changed since then.

Oh, God, not you again.

There is something emotionally very wrong with you.

Go away.

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