Found husband's dirty messages to colleague

[peasepuddinghot]

What an absolute knob. Sorry this is an all too familiar tale of woe...

Messages on computer...blah blah blah...you make me feel alive...wouldn't turn you down...blah blah ... he's not even denied it just said he was drunk and it meant nothing. Prick. Got no one to talk to so offloading here.

Sorry OP, don't know what happened to the punctuation there.

Thank you. It hurts. A lot.

He's admitted he's been thinking about cheating. Basically he wants to shag someone else and id willing to move out the family home to do it. It is very confusing when the person you are most at ease with/love/are intimate with is the person who is hurting you. I just want a hug. From him. It's a head fuck but very early days i admit. It will get better. It has to 😭

@peasepuddinghot

Gosh! I am disillusioned with men OP. I'm going to steer clear of them for the time being tbh. I find them all very childish and ME ME ME!

He’s not a man he’s a total dick IMO.

He told you he wants to cheat? He sends unsolicited sexual messages to colleagues (FUCKING STUPID FUCK)? He rates women out of 10?

Urgh....

I wouldn’t want anything further to do with the twat.

I mean yeah when you put it like that, complete and utter dick. I can understand finding people attractive. I have over the years. But I've never thought about actually cheating. He is saying that if that's how he feels it's not fair to stay with me and it would be worse to cheat.

Or just put your big boy pants on and keep your dick in.

I feel ill with worry.

It’s the utter dickheadery of telling your wife ‘I want to cheat. I’m willing to move out to do it’ WTAF does that even mean? And how disrespectful...

I think the BIGGEST thing for me though would be rating women out of ten. That’s indicative of a terrible attitude towards all women TBH.

Unsolicited sexual messages to a colleague shows he doesn’t respect boundaries (and is disloyal).

Saying he wants to cheat is hugely disrespectful to you.

Wow @peasepuddinghot

You are fucking amazing.

Huge respect xxx

Thanks princess sparkle. I feel like a mug TBH.

You'll be fine. You're strong. Have you got your cold icy response ready for when he tries to come back when the POW says bog off?

What’s even worse for me is the way he treated you afterwards. Saying you were ‘going on’ about it and it being ‘just another stick’ I mean who does the fuckhead think he is?? Some poor abused little sweetpea just doing his best under such difficult conditions as a wife objecting to him trying to sext another women?! Jesus.

I said we'd be nice to each other but if he slept with someone I hoped his dick falls off. He said that wasn't very nice. I said that WAS me being nice.
The more people I tell the less likely i'd take him back. I've just told my sister and she is very angry on my behalf. Perhaps she can instill a sense of righteous anger in my. Just feel numb right now.

Oh and he's already taken his wedding ring off

Are the dc his?

One

Jeez he's been called out on being a sleezy twat and is bailing on the marriage? what a knob, where is he staying Pease? He'll be feeling pretty sorry for himself soon when there's no takers. So sorry, hope you're holding up x

With family. He plans on staying there till he can rent somewhere of his own. At the moment the utter drudgery of day to day life falls to me. It will be a shock when he has to look after himself.

I said we'd be nice to each other but if he slept with someone I hoped his dick falls off. He said that wasn't very nice. I said that WAS me being nice.

That’s a really exceptional response!

Your head must be spinning though with his complete and utter wank badgery...

Well I throw good shade at least.

I'm very tired and sis should be here soon. I hope she'll drive us for some cake and wine.

Ah she's pre-empted me and is bringing vodka, cake and ice cream.

Thanks for reading and allowing me to offload. And thanks for saying nice things to me. It's appreciated xx

So sorry you're going through this pease but you do sound pretty amazing to me!

Your OH sounds a complete bell end and a joke! Good luck to him trying to get any woman to sleep with him, he sounds utterly pathetic ! I suspect you will get the last laugh here, although I know that doesn't really help much now.

What an asshole...judging him by his crap flirting technique he isn't going to get very far on his quest to shag someone else. When he doesn't have the huge numbers of women knocking down his door that he thinks he will, he will come running back...be ready for that...be strong!! You sound like an amazing woman...

Didn't want to 'read and run'. What everyone else has said, Pease. What a monumental arse hat of a man child, and how relieved you will be in time to be free of him. 🌺💐

What a great Sister you've got, here are some flowers for her. 💐
Why don't you clear him out, whilst he's away, give him a shock, knock him off his perch, show him you mean business.
Who the hell does he think he is, Dirk Thrust ? 😂😂😂

You are no mug op, this is all on him. You've shown yourself here to be amazing

I kind of hope he does find plenty of people to shag TBH (and that his dick falls off ) and that slowly over a number of years he comes to realise that this is a really unhappy and vacuous existence and at that point he realises that he looks up the OP who is in a wonderful new relationship and ecstatically happy and thinks ‘FUCK...’