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My husband just strangled me in front of our kids!

110 replies

Ladymess · 14/01/2018 10:51

Hello. I don't know where to turn but I'm so fed up being treated like this. He insults me with every word in the book and when we bicker back and fourth it always end up with him getting so mad and threatning to kill me. Always. Today he got so mad at me when I said that I'm tired of his threats and and I said don't ever touch me again or else.. (I know that wasn't right to say i was just so tired of the abuse) Then he jumped me and strangled me down to the floor while our boys 3 and 4 years old were screaming at him.

This is not the first time he had strangled me, this is the third time and I can feel my neck burning. I don't know what to do? I wanna leave but I'm so scared! And I dont have a job right now. I think he is probably going to kill me someday if I stay, cause he can't control his anger.

I don't know what happened, we were so happy before :(

Please sorry if the English is bad, English is not my first language.

OP posts:
MrsBertBibby · 14/01/2018 10:53

Police. Now.

AgnesNitt1976 · 14/01/2018 10:53

Call the police, you and your children need protecting from him.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 14/01/2018 10:55

Where is he now?.

Call the police on 999 asap and press charges. They will help you. He has assaulted you yet again and is no example at all to your children who also saw this at first hand. You may well need medical attention as well, please seek this as well asap.

Angelf1sh · 14/01/2018 10:55

He’ll definitely kill you. You need to take your kids and go. The police and women’s refuge will help you. As will friends. You can’t stay there.

Spadequeen · 14/01/2018 10:56

Police. Now.

AllTheWayDown · 14/01/2018 10:56

Please get out of that house now. You and your children, none of you are safe. Even if you don't want to go to family you can go to a women's refuge.
You said it yourself, he will kill you one day. Then what will happen to your children? Do you want them to be raised thinking that this is normal?
I understand it is terrifying but for the sake of your children please leave that house now.
Thanks for you xxx

Orlandointhewilderness · 14/01/2018 10:58

Please, PLEASE go to the police. He WILL kill you.

hooliodancer · 14/01/2018 10:59

Please bring Women's Aid as soon as you can.

Can you get out and say you are going to the shops or something and call them?

They can provide you with a safe place to stay, and will help you to put in benefits claims.

You could call the police and report the assault as well, though I understand that would be scary. Women's Aid could help you with that decision too.

You really need to get away from him as soon as you can.

bastardkitty · 14/01/2018 10:59

Please call 999 if you are in the UK or emergency services wherever you are if not.

dumbolickous · 14/01/2018 11:01

Yup. Police! He thinks he owns you. Disgusting piece of shit! Poor kids. Make t your priority that they never witness anything like that again!

BrutusMcDogface · 14/01/2018 11:01

Oh my god. Is he still in the house? Please lock yourself and your sons in the bathroom and dial 999. You poor thing Sad

dumbolickous · 14/01/2018 11:03

Keep posting op.people are worried here!

AssignedPuuurfectAtBirth · 14/01/2018 11:03

I think there is a lot of evidence that men who strangle their wives in the way you describe eventually end up killing their wives.

You need to leave now and call the police.

Do it now

LovelyBranches · 14/01/2018 11:04

Take your children ‘out shopping’. Put them in their warmest clothes and take all the money you have. Go to the police station and report. Don’t go back.

This ‘relationship’ is over. Marriage is based on love, trust and mutual appreciation. You do not try and kill someone you love. Your dc deserve better than this and if you stay you will put them in harms way and you will knowingly be taking them into a situation where they would witness awful things. Would you take them to a film for 18 year olds? This is so much worse. Leave now and don’t go back.

Finola1step · 14/01/2018 11:05

Call the police. If you are struggling with the thought of speaking to the police for your own sake, do it for your boys.

Lifeisabeach09 · 14/01/2018 11:06

You must not stay. As PP have said, find a way to leave the house and then go to Police.
If not for you, then the boys. They will grow up thinking it's acceptable for women to be treated in this way.

Figrollsnotfatrolls · 14/01/2018 11:07

Call the police. You are failing your kids if you don't.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 14/01/2018 11:07

Police. Please go to the police!

Mishappening · 14/01/2018 11:08

I know everyone thinks that domestic murder happens to other people and not them - but they are so wrong. You do not want to end up as a crime statistic; and your children do not want to spend their lives witnessing such terror.

Leave now - phone the police now - find a safe place - contact womens aid. But do not stay.

BootyO · 14/01/2018 11:08

Keep your babies safe and call the police.

Please.

Original poster
Ladymess · 14/01/2018 11:10

I can't thank enough for your answers. I have no one to talk to about this. :( he told me to go to hell and locked himself in the bedroom. He told me before that if I take the kids from him he will hunt me down and kill me. And when he gets this mad he always says it's my fault getting him so mad and makin him crazy :(

and then he comes to me begging for forgiveness. Sometimes crying, sometimes on his knees. And to think this is fights are all about me and the kids wanting to spend more time as a family cause of his gaming addiction. :(

OP posts:
bastardkitty · 14/01/2018 11:12

You must tell the police what he has threatened as well as the strangulation. Have you called them?

ClareB83 · 14/01/2018 11:12

Yes he tells you bullshit to stop you leaving. But then he attacks you again.

Get your stuff, leave and go to the police.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 14/01/2018 11:14

Get off mumsnet and call the police immediately.

Ledkr · 14/01/2018 11:15

Yes he will probably kill you.

Where abouts are you and we can look up some numbers for you to get help.

Or just go to the police and they will help you.