My husband just strangled me in front of our kids!

[Ladymess]

Hello. I don't know where to turn but I'm so fed up being treated like this. He insults me with every word in the book and when we bicker back and fourth it always end up with him getting so mad and threatning to kill me. Always. Today he got so mad at me when I said that I'm tired of his threats and and I said don't ever touch me again or else.. (I know that wasn't right to say i was just so tired of the abuse) Then he jumped me and strangled me down to the floor while our boys 3 and 4 years old were screaming at him.

This is not the first time he had strangled me, this is the third time and I can feel my neck burning. I don't know what to do? I wanna leave but I'm so scared! And I dont have a job right now. I think he is probably going to kill me someday if I stay, cause he can't control his anger.

I don't know what happened, we were so happy before :(

Please sorry if the English is bad, English is not my first language.

If you are in a dilemma and thinking back to how it used to be so good and might be again... at least draw a line in the sand now. He will not attempt to change his behaviour if you keep letting him get away with it.

Contact the police or Women's Aid and log this incident, for the sake of your children. Then take it from there.

Good luck and be strong.

This is domestic violence and will only get worse, it'll never stop until you leave him
You need to call the police urgently, pleas please do, think of yourself and your poor little kids who either may get hurt or believe that it's ok to treat women like this when they grow up - break the cycle please - good wishes to you and don't stand for any nonsense

Are you ok?

OMG I've got chills reading this! Those poor poor children witnessing this 😪. Get out and ring the police!

I hope you've gone to the police. They need to get forensic evidence of the marks on your neck while they are still fresh.

Ladymess are you still alive? Yes it is this serious. Please let us know you are safe. I'd come and get you if you are within 2hours of me. He will kill you. Women die every single week because of domestic violence. please get out today. There is huge support for you and your boys. Don't remember the nice times or let him come grovelling for forgiveness.

You owe us nothing op, obviously, but I think we’re all very worried about you. Let us know when you’re safe.

OP you could start the rest of your life without this, today, now.

As others have said, bundle up the children, take any money or cards that you can and leave the house now.

If you have nowhere else to go, go to a police station, you absolutely cannot carry on like this, it's dangerous and you have a responsibility to protect your children if nothing else.

Op please let us know you and your children are ok? Have you managed to get out the house?

You have great advice here, please take it

Police NOW!!!!!!

Is it any wonder the op hasn't been back? When she's told to get off mumsnet and not post till she's rung the police? In all honesty it doesn't sound like she's ready to leave and she can post as mch as she likes and shouldn't be told not to. Don't be put off posting op.

Police, now. He absolutely will kill you.

My ex strangled multiple times. One day it was so bad I was lucky to escape alive.

If not for you, leave for your boys. They deserve better than this hellish life they’re living. They shouldn’t have to witness this.

Please, please go to the police. They can and will keep you safe.

Omg, how you can still be in the same house as him and he's in the bedroom now is beyond me. You don't know what he's planning or thinking, you need to take all the good advice you've been given and get out. I know it's not easy, but you need to get out for your kids sake.

I have been where you are to differing degrees. I informed my husband that I was going out with my children and I would be back soon. Instead of going back I took myself and the kids to our local police station with only my handbag and never looked back.

I hope you have got away and you are somewhere safe. Thinking of you OP x

Please please please call the police

Why would it be a wind up? Do people post this kind of thing as a wind up often??

Agree with other posters pls call the police. Do it now . Not teaching you to suck eggs but in case you have not it before call 999 and ask the operator for police. They will hold the line open until they know u are safe. Even if he rants at you let the conversation be heard by operators. They can normally track your number too xxx

Are you ok? Let us know what's happening, no pressure

Kitty, unfortunately some do post hoax threads, though why the person who expressed doubts about this one got deleted, I don't know.

Troll-hunting posts aren’t allowed so that’ll be why it was deleted. It didn’t say anything else so there could be no other reason.

As above - get him out ! Call police - don't wait - your safety and the kids are more important- he cannot be allowed to get away with this.

Could we maybe ease up on the "He’ll definitely kill you." nonsense, folks?

There's nothing 'definite' about it. It's not helpful to a woman in an immediately violent situation and frankly it comes across as drama llamaing.

The accurate research statistics are freely available online.

Get the fuck out of there now with the kids and ring the police. NOW!!