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Getting ones own back

92 replies

KnittyNattyNoo · 10/01/2018 18:42

Ive been inbed -ill with flu -and have been on MN as its a great time waster! All these threads about the OW made me think about my ex and his OW over 20 years ago..Anyhow I found her on Facebook and had an urge to message her and tell her I'd been sleeping with her husband - who she looks very happy with along with 2 lovely daughters.

She ruined my life, and I so want to ruin hers...stop me someone...!

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JeReviens · 10/01/2018 18:43

Because how would YOU look after that? Unhinged - that's how.

Don't do it - nothing to be gained but much to be lost.

ShirleyPhallus · 10/01/2018 18:43

Oh Christ. Step away from the keyboard. Not dignified.

babycow38 · 10/01/2018 18:44

Not coolConfusedBiscuit

NotTheFordType · 10/01/2018 19:04

I'm assuming you haven't actually been sleeping with her H? I think your flu might be INFLUENCING (see what I did there?) your thought processes!

Have some hot honey and lemon and watch a box set instead, you'll feel better about your choices :)

sirlee66 · 10/01/2018 19:05

Wait, so your ex husband left you for another woman 20 years ago, and now,29 years later, he is cheating on her with you?

huntinghighandlow · 10/01/2018 19:10

I'm sure somebody will be along in a minute to state you can't possibly have flu if you're on Facebook 😂

fitbitbore · 10/01/2018 19:12

You've temporarily lost your mind due to the flu. Don't do it you'll only regret it next week when your
Marbles have returned.

bobstersmum · 10/01/2018 19:13

Errrrm no. Haven't you got over it after 20 years? Don't ruin the lives of those kids, what have they done? Plus 20 years is a long time, people can change, maybe she regrets what she did very much!

AnyFucker · 10/01/2018 19:16

That would make you fucking batshit

AndTheBandPlayedOn · 10/01/2018 19:38

Get a box set of LoonyTunes before you become one.

skippykips · 10/01/2018 19:49

They say revenge is best served cold. However, revenge that is a lie, and 20 years stone cold is a bit pathetic.
The man she is with isn't your ex is he? So you wouldn't only be destroying her life, you would be destroying an innocent mans life! Oh and her 2 daughters.

Sorry OP you are not just being unreasonable, you would be childish and quite cruel!

Sorry she hurt you, it was your Exh fault too. Please, for your sake and everybody elses...let it go!

Barmymammy · 10/01/2018 19:52

I think you should do it.

Ellisandra · 10/01/2018 20:08

Well obviously it's batshit and you mustn't do it.
But I totally understand where you're coming from, and I'd happily indulge that little revenge fantasy (fantasy) for 5 minutes before moving on.

anxiousnow · 10/01/2018 20:15

Hmm yeah it does ruin lives, even 20 years later but agree with Ellisandra fine it has crossed your mind. Joke with your friends but don't actually do it. Focus instead on improving your own life so that the need to do this lessens.

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KnittyNattyNoo · 10/01/2018 21:44

I think I should do it. I can see where she works. I may send a postcard telling her I had a long time affair with her hubby. The seed would be sowed. Revenge is sweet.

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KnittyNattyNoo · 10/01/2018 21:44

I think I should do it. I can see where she works. I may send a postcard telling her I had a long time affair with her hubby. The seed would be sowed. Revenge is sweet.

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KnittyNattyNoo · 10/01/2018 21:45

I hate her for ruining my future and my kids future.

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Offred · 10/01/2018 21:55

This is the most disturbing and insane thing I’ve read on here for ages...

Surely you can’t be serious about this?

IMO that would make you MUCH worse than her, only a bitter, poisonous and horrible person would do this and IMO there if you are still thinking like this 20 years on then that is something you are choosing for yourself not something she and your ex from 20 years ago have done to you.

GrandDesespoir · 10/01/2018 21:55

Actually the seed would be sown, but as you were... Hmm

GirlDownUnder · 10/01/2018 21:56

Do you still hate him, your ex, for being the one who actually ‘ruined’ your future? Hmm

Btw I’m assuming you still co-parent, so you’d be throwing a grenade in to your owns DCs lives too

wagil · 10/01/2018 22:03

Do you mean that you would do it anonymously OP?

Hernameisdeborah · 10/01/2018 22:36

Assuming you haven't actually been sleeping with her husband why would you also want to hurt an innocent man and two children? How utterly fucking horrible and twisted.

timeisnotaline · 10/01/2018 22:38

Her husband and children are innocent, it was 20 years ago and you are being batshit.

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 10/01/2018 22:41

So is her current partner, your ex partner? Or is she with someone else now? Are you actually sleeping with him?

Mxyzptlk · 10/01/2018 22:46

No, in this case revenge is a huge pile of crap you want to dump on three innocent people.
Why would you want to do that, other than you being selfish and vicious?

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