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Tammybear needs love/help/support/advice/something

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tammybear · 26/07/2004 16:11

Im so upset I cant cry, and I feel like Im dying inside. Dp's been in a funny mood all day and hasnt talked to me. I just presumed he was sulking, but then he told me he doesnt want anything to do with me, and he doesnt think he loves me, and would be quite happy to never see me again.

He tried to leave me last week, but I begged him not to so he stayed. But something in the back of my mind made me wonder if he was waiting til he left and went back home before he decided to break with me. Plus with this other girl he mentioned (said more about it in another thread) makes me wonder if theres something going on now.

I know there are other txts waiting for me that he has sent me, but I dont dare read them because I know they'll just break my heart even more. Now the water works are starting

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:48

Okay, try, and I'll check in tomorrow, take care.

Thomcat · 29/07/2004 00:00

How's it going Tammy, are you okay?

essbee · 29/07/2004 00:01

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 00:07

hey girls, im not too bad. i ended up talking to him as i had questions that needed answering, and i know now that i can move on as i realise its not going to work out. i feel a little bit more happier now, and feel i can just concentrate on being strong for dd.

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 00:08

plus i just ordered some new clothes out of a catalogue to cheer myself up

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Thomcat · 29/07/2004 10:20

Excellent, good to hear you're feeing better and generally more positive

Kayleigh · 29/07/2004 10:52

Tammybear, just seen this thread. So sorry you are having such a rough time. Let's sort out another night out soon. Will stick a couple of dates on the watford thread.
Big hugs XX

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 23:04

Is anyone around? Im finding it really hard tonight

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colinsmommy · 29/07/2004 23:11

Hi Tammybear, sorry to hear you're having such a bad night. I'm around, but dealing with a cranky baby, so I'm on and off every few minutes.

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 23:13

thats ok colinsmommy thanks, im just finding it hard to cope at the moment. i just feel really upset

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colinsmommy · 29/07/2004 23:15

what's wrong?

Thomcat · 29/07/2004 23:15

Tammy I.m here. Wish i could just give out muy number on here so you could call me.

Met a young girl tonight who lives in my road who needs a mate and I told her about this plae and the Watford meet ip.

colinsmommy · 29/07/2004 23:16

BTW, I've read most of this thread, so I have an idea of what's going on.

unicorn · 29/07/2004 23:16

don't know if I can add anything- and I don't know all your story I'm sorry - but just to let you know I'm around..and sending you lots of positives.

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 23:18

iv been busy most of today, went shopping and saw spiderman and went out for a few drinks with my mate to keep my mind off things as i dont have dd. but when i got home, i just burst into tears and havent stopped as i really miss him even though ive been trying to think of all the bad things about him and that this is for the best

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Thomcat · 29/07/2004 23:25

sweetheart . As one door closes (or it gets slammed in the face of a useless man!) another window opens (aka as makes room for fantastic bloke waiting to come nto your life).
come on, don't miss what was doing you no good and not really making you happy.
tell me more about your day and try and not think about him
what are you doing tomorrow, any plans for the weekend?

colinsmommy · 29/07/2004 23:27

TB, I at least partially understand where you are coming from. I used to go out with someone that didn't treat me bad, but always caused so much drama in the relationship that I was not happy. I ended up leaving, and there were some days afterwards that I didn't get out of bed. I wish there was something I could say to make the hurt and loneliness go away, but I couldn't figure it out for myself. What Thomcat says is right, though, when one door closes, another one opens, just not always right away.

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 23:27

dd's coming back round tomorrow, not sure what im doing. have my friends coming round on sunday evening though.

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colinsmommy · 29/07/2004 23:31

Was it you that posted the pics of dd? I don't remember who it was, but I remember her. She was cute.

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 23:32

yeah, there are four links on my profile

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colinsmommy · 29/07/2004 23:34

It was you. I think I only saw 3, or there might have only been 3 at the time. She made me smile.

mummytosteven · 29/07/2004 23:34

hi tammy. maybe the alcohol has been a bit of a downer - so if you are feeling fragile, you might feel better if you avoided alcohol. it's tough honey, but six months down the line I promise you you will be feeling loads better. you've sounded so unhappy with your ex the last month or so on your posts, that i think you have absolutely done the right thing. just concentrate on enjoying the summer with your little one, and enjoying your new catalogue clothes.

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 23:35

i put up a fourth one recently when we went on holiday a couple of weeks ago

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tammybear · 29/07/2004 23:38

i was feeling quite upset before i started drinking mummytosteven. i didnt drink too much either as i havent eaten a lot today.

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mummytosteven · 29/07/2004 23:40

didn't mean to offend you Tammybear or suggest you were drinking bucketloads - just that alcohol can be a depressant, so not good if you are feeling down anyway. do try and eat a little bit regularly; just bread and cheese or bread and peanut butter if u don't feel like cooking