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Tammybear needs love/help/support/advice/something

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tammybear · 26/07/2004 16:11

Im so upset I cant cry, and I feel like Im dying inside. Dp's been in a funny mood all day and hasnt talked to me. I just presumed he was sulking, but then he told me he doesnt want anything to do with me, and he doesnt think he loves me, and would be quite happy to never see me again.

He tried to leave me last week, but I begged him not to so he stayed. But something in the back of my mind made me wonder if he was waiting til he left and went back home before he decided to break with me. Plus with this other girl he mentioned (said more about it in another thread) makes me wonder if theres something going on now.

I know there are other txts waiting for me that he has sent me, but I dont dare read them because I know they'll just break my heart even more. Now the water works are starting

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 00:50

lol

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 00:51

thanks, you guys have made me feel a lot better

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essbee · 27/07/2004 00:51

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sykes · 27/07/2004 00:52

Tammy, talk to us - this isn your thread - going for a pee, back soon.

essbee · 27/07/2004 00:53

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 00:54

lol well originally this thread was suppose to be for me getting depressed and upset over him but now you two have turned it the complete opposite SHAME ON YOU TWO!! lol only joking

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 00:56

mumsnet is great. i only wish i discovered it back when i was with my ex, as it would have been so much easier for me then. think i would have split up with him sooner than i did if i had your guys advice. he was a real b***d. I seem to go after those type of guys dont i? lol

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essbee · 27/07/2004 01:00

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:00

I think our advice is probably crap - but meant with the best of intentions, how do you feel now, really, it's such a roller coaster. Just try to think about you, try to see friends and be ocuppied - it's the only thing that kept me going - and m'net.

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:02

lol, no but ill be a bit weary on how many bottles of wine you have . i think ill try to be on my own for a bit before i go looking. just so i can learn to be dependant on myself and noone else, except for mumsnet of course!!

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essbee · 27/07/2004 01:04

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:04

i know i love him, and i think it'll take me a long time to get over him as we were together once before and i didnt move on from him then (probably why im in the mess im in now lol). but i do feel a lot better now, and think ill be fine as long as i know ive got people to help me and listen to me. im forever on posting on here and im surprised ppl havent got sick of seeing my name pop up lol

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:05

lol will do essbee. thanks. nite xxxx

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:06

It will work out - maybe what you don't want at the moment, but it will. I still don't know what I want and I know it's so hard on your own etc. Do you have a passion - something you've always wanted to do?

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:09

yeah, im going to try to go back to college part time in sept, and im trying to get a part time job as well, so hopefully ill be busy with everything if it all works out

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:11

That sounds brilliant. - to do what?

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:13

not sure at the moment. i was thinking of doing something in computers or art. im waiting for the college to send me a booklet on their courses but its taking forever

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:19

Take your time, and think what would work, I thin it's great to do stuff you love, but think about where you want to be, as a financially, independent woman, what will work, and how it will work with your dd.

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:21

it's quite difficult. what i would really love to do (dont laugh now) is do a course in costume designing, but its in london and during the day so if i did it it would be when dd starts nursery

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:28

I think it sounds amazing. Why would I laugh? There is always around things. I wish I'd done what I really wanted to do - a ballet dancer, by the way - ended up as a director of a publishing firm, I was v lucky. But want my girls to go for what they REALLY want. I miss ballet so much, stil do it and love ot - but never really went for it.

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:31

im the same. i really hope ill be able to provide for her to do what ever she wants. i hope that i can still go for what i want to do in life, as ive only just turned 20, and even though everyone keeps saying that im now weighed down with a child, i think i will be able work my ways around dd without affecting her too much

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:38

I think bed is calling, I'll check in tomorrow - are yoy okay?

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:40

Im suppose to be getting up in 7 hours, and im not one bit sleepy! suppose i best try to get to sleep. Im a lot better now thanks, so think I wont be up for the next few hours crying. Just hope I can stay positive tomorrow.

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sykes · 27/07/2004 01:45

Honestly when my h left I couldn't sleep at all, it' so hard,I paced the house for ages, try to read, watch crap tv - I couldn't, but try, do anything to take your mind off it.

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tammybear · 27/07/2004 01:46

i will do, ill go out tomorrow with my dd and mum and im going to leave my mobile at home as ive noticed im checking it every 5 minutes. speak to u soon. thanks for everything. nite xxx

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