Would you accept an apology from OW?

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Just that really. If OW sent a short message via social message that said "im truely sorry for the hurt i caused you" could you accept it without responding or would it send you into a tailspin?

I’d respond with you weren’t that sorry when you were both blowing my world apart and devastating my children.

I would assume she was trying to make herself feel better or stir up trouble. It wouldn't make me feel better.

I wouldn’t respond but it wouldn’t send me into a tailspin. It would have gone a long way tbh as I always felt I deserved an apology from her.

Depends if she knew she was the OW or not.

Get angry. But don't respond. Silence is more powerful in this situation I think.

Are you the OW? Or the wife?

Nope.
-You're- she, is best leaving things well alone. Not sure an OW has any reason to say such a thing other than to assuage her own guilt. Shes done enough damage, time to (finally) repsect the wife and keep as far away as possible.

Just ignore.
The issue isn’t with her, she is a single woman. The issue is with the married man.

Would def send me into a tailspin - but wouldn't reply.

I had exactly that, didn't believe a word.

I d read it and not respond. Because if I did I hate to think what I might say and I want to retain my dignity. You’re not having that as well bitch!

Depends on the circumstances. Did she know when it started that she was an OW? Did she know you? Did she end it?

I'd ignore it and be ok with that. Entering into any form of dialect with her would send me into more of a spin.

Depends if she knew she was the OW or not.

^This

The issue isn’t with her, she is a single woman. The issue is with the married man

Have I missed this? Is it stated somewhere?

She is apologising to alleviate her own guilt, not to make you feel better. It's not your job to make her feel better about her own shitty behaviour - I'd not respond.

The only exception would be if she didn't know she was the ow, in which case I'd view her as an injured party too.

I'd ignore too. She would owe her partner the apology if she had one but not me. She didn't make any vows to me.

Blaming the OW makes the man seem blameless like he was futile to resist.

Well she didn't do anything wrong. Most OW don't even know that they are. Even if she did it's the husband whos at fault

Ow wouldn't really be sorry though would she? An apology doesn't absolve asshole behaviour.

XP was an abusive arse and thought he could simply apologise and all should be ok. Of course it wasn't. I'd treat an apology from OW the same way - it's all about making the wrong dooer feel better. You need to deal with that yourself.

Sitting with a group of friends trying to persuade an aquaintance not to do this but im not sure of the argument not to. She says its just something she 'has to do', I think its selfish

It is the husband who needs to apologise —or preferably fuck off to the far end of fuck as infidelity is unforgivable in my book—. The hole he stuck his cock in is totally irrelevant IMO.

Oops strike out fail 😳😂!

I disagree that she in being the ow, she didn't do anything wrong. Yes, the man who cheated is the primary scumbag, but colluding with him to wreck a family is still morally repugnant behaviour.

I knew of a ow that did this, she then proceededto message my friends DH trying to continue the affair

That message is short and shit with no meaning.

Totally selfish and inappropriate.