Hand hold pls he's gone to hospital alone

[AmaraSas]

New DP, twice we have tried to be intimate, both times he has ended up bent double in agony. This time he has rushed off to A&E. He wouldnt let me go with him... men and their bits! So i'm left home alone pacing the floor. I'm worried sick

Anyone got a hug?

You can have a hug from me - any idea what's causing it?

Oh gosh how awful! Hand hold from me too OP

Broken penis?

Oh dear, and such a sensitive subject for most men. I hope you hear from him soon and that it's something that can be sorted easily.

I dont know, he says its inside, the first time it happened doc said there was some swelling and ?mumps.

Hes 48 so of course i am thinking all sorts. Staying off Dr Google its just making me worse

You poor thing. I hope you are ok! If its any consolation my DH has a condition which when he becomes 'excited' he can find it very painful (point of tears). It has flared up on and off over the years but was at its peak around 10yrs ago, its something to do with his veins and blood supply. I cannot remember the name for the life of me but it meant he needed scan to see we would likely struggle to conceive (we didnt). My DH is absolutely fine and I hope this is a similar thing for your DP.

Waiting for him to msg me he said he would let me know when he got there.

Why haven't you gone with him ?

Fingers crossed that it isn't something too serious.

Because he implored that i didnt @AnyFucker , you have to make a judgement call. I would much rather be there right now than pacing the floor here. But i am respecting his wishes

varicocele is what my husband has I just asked. When his flares up he is swollen and lumpy too.

Does it come and go @SammySays

Hugs OP Hopefully you'll hear from him soon, and it will be something simple to sort out for him

Thank you for the hugs and handholds

Yes he can have it one day and then be absolutely fine the next. I’m obviously not a dr so I’m not trying to diagnose him but it does sound very similar so just wanted to try to put your mind at ease.

You must be worried sick op. Hope you get some news soon.

Hes at the hospital, been triaged and waiting now. Says he still cant sit so bent double stood up.

Wish i was there.

Guess i wont find much out as limited texting etc in hospitals

How is he OP?

How awful. Hope he gets sorted OK.

He said he was being kept in for tests but didnt respond when i asked if he needed anything or wanted me to call anybody. Didnt hear anything after that and I finally fell asleep exhausted

As soon as i woke up this morning i texted him for news. He said he was scared, after a bit of discussion it dawned on me he hadnt been to see the doctor at all, probably why he was so adament for me not to go with him.

So he was pretending all this time. Theres me, sat at home worried sick and hes pretending to be at the hospital.

As its such a sensitive area for men, i'm not angry at him, i am trying to get him to see sense and go.

I feel sick to my stomach, he thinks he has failed me, i told him idgaf if we spend the rest of our lifes reading and talking gardening, but rather he went and got it fixed, might be treatable now but not in a few months.

I've left it that i am here when he needs me. I dont think he realises or sees the impact of his actions but i dont think he is being malicious i think he is genuinely scared and cant handle this. I wish i could sort it for him.

So he lied to you about going to the hospital?!

I would be angry, actually, and tell him that he's being childish.
He must go and get checked out. If not at A&E at least he should see his GP.

Men and their precious knobs, eh

I would be reconsidering a relationship with a man too "frightened" to seek impartial medical advice about what is essentially a fairly humdrum situation for the staff involved

His genitals are really not that interesting, except to himself

Yes he lied, and tried to keep the lie going, i just sussed him out because what he was saying didnt stack up. Thats what he gets for dating an ex nurse.

If he doesnt go soon i'll tell his mum... that will get him there