Hand hold pls he's gone to hospital alone

[AmaraSas]

New DP, twice we have tried to be intimate, both times he has ended up bent double in agony. This time he has rushed off to A&E. He wouldnt let me go with him... men and their bits! So i'm left home alone pacing the floor. I'm worried sick

Anyone got a hug?

What is he...a man or a toddler ? You'll tell his mummy on him ?

are you his rescuer?

Why overlook the fact that hes told a fairly significant lie and let you worry all night, and thats not to mention the fact that youd be giving up a fulfilling sex life to rescue this bloke. I think the novelty of that would wear off.

So weird

He probably has some sort of hernia. Best sorted out by GP not A&E. Good luck.

Indeed, whisky2014.

Have you actually seen his penis? For the record I am not trying to be rude and I am not joking only this sounds so far fetched tbh. I am wondering if this is a woman dressed as a man . I do hope not OP , best to be safe than sorry though .

This seems like a lot of effort on somebody who is deceptive op. Are you sure you're up for this?

Was he definitely in pain?
The reason i ask is perhaps he is using being in agony as an excuse to hide that he is struggling to get/maintain an erection.

Either way its not a very nice thing to do to someone to make them think that they are in hospital but I appreciate you feel he did this because of extreme embarrassment.

He may well be in pain, could be lots of possible causes that he is too embarrassed to get investigated and unless he is willing to have an honest conversation with you and not go for investigations unless you get his mum involved?! then its difficult to know how you are supposed to go forward with this man.

Yes i have seen him naked, yes he is definitely a man, he has no issues in the erection department. The pain came during ejaculation, like it was agony to ejaculate and i am pretty certain he was definitely in pain.

I really do think this is an embarrassment/medical fear/fear of the unknown issue. I also think he is petrified of letting me down sexually and so there may be some anxiety issues too.

Oh and @AnyFucker dont take jokes so seriously, really? The mum bit was trying to lighten the situation, like its something you go running to your future MIL with seriously 🤦🏻‍♀️

"So you'd rather die then go in and get the problem checked out. Seriously. You'd possibly rather die than endure a little embarrassment?"

I don't get men sometimes. So many are like this! Do they not realize what women have to go through with cervical spears, GIVING BIRTH!

Argh.

Oh and @AnyFucker* dont take jokes so seriously, really? The mum bit was trying to lighten the situation, hmm like its something you go running to your future MIL with seriously 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well, to be fair, stranger things have happened on mumsnet and I thought you were serious about getting his mum involved as well.

There are many women who treat men like incompetent toddlers. You wouldn't be the first, and certainly not the last.

I know some that behave like incompetent toddlers to be fair

eh? i'm confused. He left yours during sex in pain and never went A&E and lied about it???

Where did he go ?

Yes, where did he go? I was thinking the same.

Well he's a grown man, it's up to him surely. It may be something he has had for a long time. Do you have plans to see him again?

Sounds quite the Walter Mitty! Move on OP.

How weird...

cervical spears

Actually, that's a better name for them

Why doesn't he go back to his GP? You said he went thete the fist time and the GP said there was some kind of swelling? Well he needs to go back. What treatment or advice was he given by the GP?

I am starting to think its all a farce, not a peep from him all day, surely thats just callous, knowing how worried i am.

He lied to you about going to the hospital.

Why couldnt he just say - i dont want to go, rather than lie to you.

The start of many lies to come, it sounds!

For goodness sake! Good thing he never had to go through childbirth/ breastfeeding/ smear tests etc etc.

I know @DotCottonDotCom i am starting to question everything hes told me, if he lied about this, what else has he lied about?

I must admit i am a trusting person, i am thinking he's taking me for a mug

Think of what will happen next if he doesn't get it check out asap.

1. You forgive the lie. Things continue and you get serious, even without a fulfilling sex life. It turns out it was something serious all along but it's too late to cure. You end up nurse/carer. Then the worst happens and you are left heartbroken and bereaved.

1. He's so embarassed by the issue and being caught in his stupid lie that he ghosts you.

1. He and you continue with no sex life. Ever!

Adults put their health over a bit of embarassment. He's already been to the doctors (if you actually believe that?) So how can going back be any worse? Is he so scared/embarassed that he is willing to ruin this relationship and his health? If he is, i would think myself lucky to get away from this manchild.

I would insist on going to the doctor's with him, or i would be outta there!