The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New year, old battles, big resolve

[SweetLathyrus]

Hi, I'm SweetLathyrus, Sweet for short, and I've been on and off Gerald the Brave Babes Battle Bus for years, so this time it's me standing in for our wonderful Mouse to invite you on board.

The bus is a place of support, safety and occasional silliness for those of us struggling with our relationship with alcohol. Some of us are sober, some are trying to be, some are moderating and aren't ready to give up alcohol just yet.

So whatever your reason for questioning the whys and WTFs of your drinking, hop on board, make yourselves comfortable and join in.

If you want to see what it's like, here's the link to the last thread, the one that saw us through Christmas.

And if you want to know how it all started, here is the link to JWN's original, inspiring thread.

Join us on our journey, you won't regret it.

I hear ya lastname

Try to keep strong and take it easy - go to bed early with a trashy film, order a takeaway, have a long bath?

going for a jog straight after work to clear my head then straight to bed.

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Fucking hell. Can you take that to HR? That's appalling.

last drink was 34 years ago !!!!😝

last that is a bit shit isn't it????

Evening all - super busy day at work and the same tomorrow - will be WFH on Wednesday and Friday this week.

Nothing really to report - am on a low WW points day and all well so far this week (100% on plan). On the days I go client-side I tend to walk between 12 and 15,00 steps so even though I don't have time / energy to run, I am still getting plenty of exercise in 3 days a week. I'm on 12,000 today.

Am just waiting for my new cleaner to come and pick up her keys at 7 and then I'm straight into bed with my usual tea and cat.

rothbury bear - I hope you are okay?

bernie - good work on your overall total.

Keep going all. x

Evening all. Hooray to all babes who are feeling good, and chocolate and tea for those who are not. I hope that the bloke at work gets what's coming to him last.
I'm doing ok here. I've bought myself some new fluffy teddy bear bedding in order to really enjoy my sober sleep. Karate again tonight, so more imaginary kicking the wine witch in the spiteful old face.

Day 8 (Incl. Fags) thankfully slept better last 2 nights.

Sweetlathyrus have you tried snorting apple cider vinegar for the sinus? I've had instant relief from this before.

Got through weekend. Not too bad. Am loving lapsang sushong. Wednesday is going to be first big challenge. My reward day.

last that is unacceptable. Does he have form for that sort of thing? keep a record of any incidents.
flowers I'm glad if I have been able to help others. i had so much help from others when I came on this bus, especially from mouse, venus, indie and thurso

Day 8 done but not being helped by dh swigging beer and making no effort to cut down. Selfish twat.

Evening all, well I’ve had a bath and away to order a takeaway as feel I need a treat, as partner is having beer (again). Sick of him saying he wants to stop/cut down but he never does then moans he feels shit. Anyway onwards and upwards x

Hi demented suggested to join you all here. Ive been drinking most nights for last few months I normally have up to 6 units per night I want to cut down and would like to only drink at the weekends which is what I used to do but then I had a couple on Sundays and would have a drink on a Thursday as it was almost weekends until the weekends became all week.
I would like to cut down and break this habit.

Welcome littlest. Glad you dropped in. You will find lots of support and help from the babes on here. Some of us are doing Dry January, others are trying to cut down and some are just trying to survive at the moment. Take a seat. it's a busy bus right now.

whatever same here. But I just won a bid on ebay for a nice dress for work for £3 so feel happier.

Basically he was upset with me as i caught him cheating on my fellow colleague at work. (They have been together 5 years and of course i told thd poor girl, shes lovely and deserves to know) he called me all sorts...including c u next tuesday. Xx

Oh well its gone to management and they are dealing with it.

Welcome littlest this bus is great and I personally have never got past day 6 for a long time and now in day 8.

ma what a bargain you got yourself.

Any notion of wanting a wine has definitely passed, approaching double figures x

Well done Whatever

I’m back to Day 1. Had a social weekend with old friends so drank Sat eve and Sun eve but moderately both days so no ill effects.

I’m still not sure if I want to stop drinking altogether or just manage my alcohol intake better. I have no problem with alcohol free days but often do binge to relax and I definitely want to stop that.

last how horrid. I hope you are ok. There's no excuse for that but his excuse is even worse he was caught out and so behaved like that? What a twat.

ma I hope you have something nice planned for your birthday.

Day 66 af. Struggled over the weekend. Didn't struggle not drinking but felt quite tearful and low. But it's early days and on the whole I am having many better days than I was. I love not having the wine conversation every day.

Training for my second half. Managed a 54 min 10k over the weekend which has knocked a couple of mins off so general fitness is most def improving!

Sorry not to name check more people struggling to keep up with this busy bus!!! Good to have so much chat!

Can I join the bus please. I know my drinking is a problem and I need to cut down. My partner is of no support so I'll have to do this by myself. X

Gosh everyone is doing v well. whatever great stuff on the wine (or not)!

Right am shattered, night night all. Into double figures tomorrow - crazy.

x

Welcome mumzilla2 my dh hasn't changed his drinking either. I am changing mine regardless. Good luck to you.

I am also day 10 Af same as dry

That's outrageous last I hope you report him to HR, I am off work until Feb recuperating from an op and while I am glad of the time off work to get a head start on this I am a bit worried about how I will cope after a stressful day without the wine to numb things. Like many of you cooking the evening meal is my trigger and where I "reward" myself for getting to this point in the day.

Anyway feeling tired, still struggling to get off at night but have bought multi vits/B12 on the advice of Luxury . I did notice today that although I'm tired I don't have that heavy weighed down feeling I used to have I feel much lighter and clearer in my thinking. I wish I had done this years ago.

last basically you caught him and quite rightly called him on his actions and he thought he could intimidate you into keeping quiet? Well he really is a massive bellend !

Day 7 done I had a bit of a wobble around dinner time,same as everyone else but then cracked on with all the things I had to do. I’m definitely less anxious.

rosegold my Ds has Asd with a PDA profile. He’s either fab or a horrid little monster. If it helps,things improved loads after diagnosis because we finally knew where we were. I think he drives me to drink but is also my reason to stay sober,because parenting him is so much tougher than a child who doesn’t have additional needs.

Hello Babes and bears I am still here. As I had a relapse when working away I am now three days AF but feeling good.

It's been manically busy at work and normally I would be leaving work and looking forward to that first drink, but I have just had tea and then some Belvoir stuff tonight which I didn't like much.

lastname that is bloody awful - what happened? Are you taking it further?

I had been trying to diet as well as go AF and I don't think I am strong enough to do both. Maybe when I have some more AF weeks under my massive belt I will try to cut back on food too.

Having said that I have lost a pound since we started

I have been sleeping OK but I think that is because I am so exhausted from work that I barely know what day it is. I have had a couple of headaches - is that normal?

Just waiting for DS to get home from football then I can get to bed. Eyes are watering.......

Keep going everyone.

last that's awful, glad management are dealing with it, rightly so.

guggenheim that sounds very familiar! I have often said it's a bloody good job that DS2 is very funny and makes us laugh - when he's on good form he holds the room in the palm of his hand. When he's on bad form, he can clear it... Hopefully his diagnosis appointment will materialise soon, I know it wont wave a magic wand but that's reassuring to know it helped you.

Day 5/6 here (2 on the trot). I knew yesterday and today would be fine but Tuesday nights are more tricky as Wednesday is my day off so I have deliberately booked a friend in to come over for a cuppa (she is virtually teetotal so there will be no temptation). Back in work today and I did notice I wasn't backing away if any co-workers came too close, was always paranoid that I reeked of alcohol!

Must go to bed and make the most of the deep sleep I hope I get tonight.

7 days AF and 7 days at the gym. Feeling good and getting back to fitness. Yoga after work today. This may sound like an easy form of exercise but I find it a good whole body workout with a feel good factor after. Plus it stops any cravings! Everybody seems to be doing pretty well so far. Keep going!

Yep, they are dealing with it.

But his bit on the side is back in today and shes fuming with me too! We work within the same office space. Shes told him lots of very personal info about me in anger which has messed with my head. His now ex has been lovely with me though. Xx

Morning all babes and bears - day 10 dawns for me.

rothbury so glad to see you are still here...aren't you 7/8 though? That is really great stuff :).

I also had a bad a headache and was dehydrated massively Thursday and Friday last week...think it must be the detox. Worry not. And don't worry about the dieting. For me as I am already doing WW I find the structure helpful (and last time I was sober I lost 1 1/2 stone in about 6 months in 2013 to get me to my lowest weight since 2005). If you're not, I'd just park it for now - concentrate on one thing only.

More of the same for me today - client-side, rinse and repeat...a full day of meetings etc.

Have a good, strong day all. x