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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New year, old battles, big resolve

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SweetLathyrus · 02/01/2018 21:22

Hi, I'm SweetLathyrus, Sweet for short, and I've been on and off Gerald the Brave Babes Battle Bus for years, so this time it's me standing in for our wonderful Mouse to invite you on board.

The bus is a place of support, safety and occasional silliness for those of us struggling with our relationship with alcohol. Some of us are sober, some are trying to be, some are moderating and aren't ready to give up alcohol just yet.

So whatever your reason for questioning the whys and WTFs of your drinking, hop on board, make yourselves comfortable and join in.

If you want to see what it's like, here's the link to the last thread, the one that saw us through Christmas.

And if you want to know how it all started, here is the link to JWN's original, inspiring thread.

Join us on our journey, you won't regret it.

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RoseGoldandBlueFeathers · 07/01/2018 22:27

I am slinking back onto the bus (at the back) after visiting the sidecar last night. Another difficult day with DS2 plus other things that shook me up and I ended up tearful and anxious after he was in bed - plus I was cooking, which as someone mentioned upthread I can now see is a trigger. Wine was had. However I recognised I was struggling and so I put on the last Harry Potter film, which makes me sob like a baby. Felt better for it and feel better today (although been on eggshells with DS2 a bit). Tonight all I have had is two Becks Blues. So: 4 out of 5 days AF achieved, and on into the week.

Mouseface · 07/01/2018 23:02

Evening all!

Gosh I'm shattered! Mini me - aka DD has now been returned to Uni and I managed to keep the tears back as she got into the car, as DH took her back for me. My car needs to get repaired as the reverse sensors failed so I reversed into a post office van! Zero damage to his van - EPIC damage to mine! Angryas my reverse sensors failed completely. It's a motability car so hopefully they'll just come and get it, fix it and return it. ARSE!!

Other than that, I've hardly had a drink over Christmas but I believe that I share a Birthday with another Babe on the Bus on Sunday? ( looks at Ma ) GrinGrinGrin

Anyway, I'm trying to keep up with everyone so give me chance and then I'll get to know you all!!

Goodnight Babes,

Mouse xxxx

bakingcupcakes · 07/01/2018 23:40

Sweet You'd have to fight DS for the spare Yorkshires! He ate 2 from the oven (at 9am after breakfast) and then cried because he couldn't have anymore.

Rose I considered the last Harry Potter film for tonight but my Mum lent me Sully earlier so I watched that instead. I'm going to watch Fantastic Beasts this week at some point. I saw it when it came out at the cinema and really liked it. I got the dvd for Christmas.

I've completed day 7 today. I'm quite pleased but I managed 9 days back in summer (antibiotics for wisdom tooth infection) so I really want to get to double figures because it's been such a long time and because it'll be done by will power alone as opposed to the fear of throwing up!

I'm also noticing a reduction in craving sweets/crisps/crap food. And I'm usually way more anxious on a Sunday than I am today. I hope these feelings stay.

Twattage13 · 08/01/2018 06:15

Morning all - day 9 - crikey!

Am off to my client in a mo so will catch up tonight, just wanted to say morning to all babes and bears...

Slept soundly for another 8 hours - just realised I didn't have the Sunday anxiety at all yesterday - hurrah!

x

SweetLathyrus · 08/01/2018 06:34

Morning all.

Mouse, I'm not sure I could drive a car without parking sensors now - as much for getting our of spaces as into them. and if you have any limitation of movement, they are a godsend.

Rose it happens, you climbed back on board and learnt something. Treating yourself to some time just for you with a movie is a good move.

Baking, I seem to remember finding double figures a really significant milestone, we'll make it there together, ODaaT soon builds into weeks, even if individual minutes and hours are tough.

Have a good day, Twattage.

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guggenheim · 08/01/2018 07:00

Morning all,

mouse massive hug x

rosegold am I right in thinking that your Ds has sen ? My eldest does and it’s bloody hard work. ignore me if i’ve got that wrong.

Does anyone listen to the Bubble Hour? There’s a really good new episode about a woman who is quite early on in sobriety and she talks about how she would start then stop then start drinking etc. She goes to AA which isn’t everyone’s cup of tea ☕️ but it’s a good listen.

guggenheim · 08/01/2018 07:02

sweet have a good day! Teachers never think they’ve done enough work in the holidays.

Pinkpeppermintteaforme · 08/01/2018 08:01

Day 184
Keep going everyone -Dont pick up that first drink.
Eat sweets,stuff your face with chocolate or have a big cup of tea FIRST .
It will pass !
BrewCake Flowers

Melonsonic · 08/01/2018 08:03

Hi all Smile

SweetLathyrus · 08/01/2018 08:25

Discovered the cause of my disturbed night. SweetCat went on a killing spree, one intact dead vole, and one unspecified internal organ in different parts of the house. Envy

Pink that is awesome, keep on twirling!

Morning Guggs and Melon

Today I will not drink. I know not everyone likes or is using the DJ app, but I really like the way the home page starts at 0 and whizzes up, and is obviously getting longer each day Smile. (It's the little things)

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BernieBear · 08/01/2018 08:46

Morning all, another AF day/night and stuffed my face with Chinese. Bad nights sleep but more to do with a snorer than alcohol withdrawal (or killer cat 🐈) 😁. 5/7 days now so not perfect but good enough.
Will catch up later but in the meantime, have a great day.

DryFebruary · 08/01/2018 08:54

Morning all! Brew

Day 10 for me and I did quite well this weekend - had a mocktail in a cocktail bar, a lemonade in the pub and no wine in the risotto I made Shock

To be honest I was really tempted. But I enjoyed the feeling of waking up and not thinking “uh oh, what have I done or said?”

RoseGoldandBlueFeathers · 08/01/2018 08:56

guggenheim likely ASD (PDA), awaiting our diagnosis appointment in the next couple of months. He is doing a lot of shouting and hitting at the moment and I am finding it hard going. Hoping that being back in the school routine today will help us both! Sweet I feel your pain, I work in a school (TA) and although I love it once I am in I dread going back! Confused

dementedma · 08/01/2018 09:03

morning all. A brisk minus 7 this morning and brake warning lights have just come on. Buggeration...

Start of week 2 but I do have a birthday at the weekend so not sure what to do about that. will decide when the time comes

DryFebruary · 08/01/2018 09:19

Anyone got any recommendations for AF blogs or articles? Smile

Whatevermaybe · 08/01/2018 09:20

Morning everyone, just checking in - Day 8 x

Whatevermaybe · 08/01/2018 10:33

Dry I’ve been reading SoberMummy but you’ve maybe already read that x

SweetLathyrus · 08/01/2018 11:21

Brrr, Ma sounds like a day to stay under the covers (if only you had the option!)

I just cannot settle properly to work this morning. Well, I say that, I was punishing online materials for next week at 6am this morning, so I've done a fair bit, just can't get my marking groove on.

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theansweris42 · 08/01/2018 11:35

Hello
And happy new year to all the magnificent babes.
I am reading and cheering on and offering supportive vibes.
I am still sort of moderating, going for AF minimum 4 days pw.
Been tricky over the festive season.
And I've put 2 stone on Shock
so renewed determination.
Waves to ma and lux and guggs and a shout out to made and Elba, hope you're okay.

flowersonthepiano · 08/01/2018 12:21

Hello babes
Just checking in. Day 8 here and not a great deal to report. My sugar cravings seem to be reducing slightly. Paid my self assessment tax bill yesterday Shock. I knew what it was going to be but it was still painful. Especially as I spent most of the money I'd saved for it on a deposit to get the bathroom refurbished - which won't even happen until the beginning of March - Mr Flowers is supposed to be coughing up the balance Hmm.
Dry I've started reading through the original thread (thanks very much Sweet for adding the link at the beginning of this thread, I hadn't managed to find it before!) and finding it very helpful. Ma, I know you mentioned upthread that it's making you feel uncomfortable that people are reading it, so very sorry if I've added to that. I can only say that I think these threads are amazing, and I feel enormous gratitude to you and all the bus faithfuls who have welcomed, supported, and encouraged me and others who are relatively recent joiners.

MissHoolies still thinking of you and hope you are ok.

Loubilou09 · 08/01/2018 13:58

Hello all! Pink - 184 days? Thats amazing, well done you!!!

I am into day 8 now and feeling great, the sleep is just amazing now, am completely loving that! Have lost a couple of lbs I think and a lots less bloated so feel a bit better. Just trying to curb the fascination with sweets and treats, but even if I carry on having the odd bit, it is still 100 times better than guzzling the wine.

Keep going everyone!

DryFebruary · 08/01/2018 15:07

Thanks, just read some Sober Mummy. I find it hard to keep track of people on the older threads.

I am still eating everything and being grouchy at day 10 Sad

MintToBee · 08/01/2018 15:17

Afternoon, Day 14 here. I could have murdered for a nice cold glass of Pinot at lunchtime though.
I'm currently waiting for my hospital appointment and the clinic is running late so I'm taking advantage of the lovely 4g fast internet and catching up with you all.
It's very frosty and cold here today too ma.
flowersonthepiano
I wish my sugar cravings would go away! I ate a whole bag of Toffoes to myself last night. 😔

DryFebruary · 08/01/2018 15:21

*today

lastnamefirstfirstnamelast · 08/01/2018 16:51

I'm having such a s**t day.

I could so easily hit the bottle today. on day 13 but i have to stay strong.

Put it this way - i got called a C**T from a male colleague at work.it was serious too. not in a jokey way. -