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Why has he gone sad and down all a sudden?

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MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 17:15

I've known this guy 4 months. We have been dating about 2 weeks. Things have been great really happy.

All of a sudden he's been a bit off and weird. I was suppose to see him last night but a few hours before he text to say his grandad has arranged a family Christmas meal. I was gutted but I said that's ok I understand it's your family. He was texting me throughout most of the meal and seemed upset we couldn't do what we had planned. He then said he thought I was being different. I said I weren't and maybe it's because we haven't seen each other in a week.

He then went on to be very apologetic, said he's felt down and weird the past couple days. Said a few small things are starting to get to him. I said everything is ok between us and he said yes def ok between us and for me not to worry.

This morning he text saying he is feeling slightly ok and put his Xmas jumper on to cheer himself up! In confused because I have no idea why he's sad. He's normally so jokey and now he's a bit down.

Part of me feels this is for attention because I don't think he liked how casual I acted to not seeing him but it's been 2 weeks and I'm not a headcase!!

What do other people Think??

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Poshindevon · 20/12/2017 17:35

I think he sounds like an moody immature idiot. You have only been dating for two weeks you dont really know him at all.

coalit · 20/12/2017 17:38

Did you believe his reason for cancelling?

MidLifeCrisis2017 · 20/12/2017 17:39

Could be all sorts of things. DD suffers from SAD and has not been great for a couple of weeks.

Christmas has always made me miserable!

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 19:53

Yea I believe his reason for cancelling

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ihatethecold · 20/12/2017 20:06

What adult puts on a Christmas jumper to cheer themselves up? Confused

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 20:36

Not sure! I don't know my gut is telling me something is wrong

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hesterton · 20/12/2017 20:38

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AtSea1979 · 20/12/2017 20:41

I'd run for the hills on this one. Two weeks in, you don't need the hassle.

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 20:41

I do know 2 of his nans died close together but not sure what time of year. My grandpa is now dying and he knows so it might be bringing up raw feelings

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MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 20:47

Now he has signal and uncontactable. I just feel like he's messing me around. I have this uneasy feeling he's with someone else.

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DrMorbius · 20/12/2017 20:51

You have been dating for two weeks, one of which you have not seen each other. Exactly how many times have you seen each other while dating?

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 21:00

I've known him 4 months and seen him in that time 2 days per week. While dating I've seen him 4 times. Last time I saw him was Thursday. Was supposed to see him last night but had this family meal

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coalit · 20/12/2017 21:08

You're too trusting sweetheart, family Christmas dinner arranged at the last minute, sounds unlikely. Not that it matters anyway, he's messing you about, he's trouble.

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 21:16

Thing is if it wasn't family dinner what was It? Because he was texting all night so couldn't have been with another girl.

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AlwaysPondering · 20/12/2017 21:18

My ex was acting all down once. Couldn't give me a good reason and then eventually admitted he wanted a break. Guess he was too cowardly to come out and say it!

Could be something entirely different of course.

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 21:21

Strange thing is he was saying he felt I was acting diff last night and saying I'm so sorry I've been bad with being moody and I will make it up to you. So I said to come over tonight and he said it will be too late. Now he hasn't got signal. So makes me wonder what is he Doing?

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LizzieMacQueen · 20/12/2017 21:23

Maybe he doesn't want to buy you a Christmas present.

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 21:41

Well Lizzie funny you should say that he's tight with money! I brought him a birthday present just a little non expensive gift last week. I mentioned I was buying him a present and he was like ahhh it's fine you don't have to, honestly

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kittensinmydinner1 · 20/12/2017 21:44

Stop second guessing and just call him and ask Ito meet up. If he doesn't want to then you have your answer. For whatever reason he doesn't want a relationship. That can be anything from he can't afford a Christmas present to he's gone off you.
If he does want to meet up then just ask why he's being weird.

Please remember that MN is full of people who have had very difficult relationships and for good reason find it difficult to trust. Not all but a fair proportion. With that in mind it may be difficult for you to get balanced advice regarding a new relationship here. The moment the man does anything that's out of the ordinary, red flags will wave furiously and negative comments will fly..
In your case, just talk to him .

AnyFucker · 20/12/2017 21:50

What is it with all these teenage relationship problems on MN these days ?

I am transported back to my Jackie reading these days...

MidnightStars · 20/12/2017 21:54

any I'm straight forward and simple. I don't play games but he is and I don't know why

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coalit · 20/12/2017 21:56

I bet OP's not a teenager. Relationships are very different these days, OLD has changed everything. Finding a decent man is "needle in a haystack" territory now.

Gemini69 · 20/12/2017 21:57

hard work.... ditch now Xmas Grin

AnyFucker · 20/12/2017 21:58

You are as bad as him for engaging with them. Walk away.

TheNaze73 · 20/12/2017 22:02

This sounds like ball ache after just a fortnight.

Bin him off, for the Christmas jumper comment

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