Why has he gone sad and down all a sudden?

[MidnightStars]

I've known this guy 4 months. We have been dating about 2 weeks. Things have been great really happy.

All of a sudden he's been a bit off and weird. I was suppose to see him last night but a few hours before he text to say his grandad has arranged a family Christmas meal. I was gutted but I said that's ok I understand it's your family. He was texting me throughout most of the meal and seemed upset we couldn't do what we had planned. He then said he thought I was being different. I said I weren't and maybe it's because we haven't seen each other in a week.

He then went on to be very apologetic, said he's felt down and weird the past couple days. Said a few small things are starting to get to him. I said everything is ok between us and he said yes def ok between us and for me not to worry.

This morning he text saying he is feeling slightly ok and put his Xmas jumper on to cheer himself up! In confused because I have no idea why he's sad. He's normally so jokey and now he's a bit down.

Part of me feels this is for attention because I don't think he liked how casual I acted to not seeing him but it's been 2 weeks and I'm not a headcase!!

What do other people Think??

He's dating other women. Either that or he's wayyyyy too attached to his family (he went bowling with them rather than see you). Or he's twelve and his mum won't drive him over to see you and there was ice cream at the bowling place.
Seriously. Enough already. He doesn't care enough. He won't start caring more. Ditch him. NEXT!

I've messaged him saying let's leave tonight and us and be friends. I'm going to be the bigger person and I have respect for myself! I'm not letting this guy drag me down!!

Good for you OP - onwards and upwards!

His reply was I've just had an off week! Really is this guy serious! Made me quite angry considering what's going on in my life

Just ignore him, and if he carries on, block.

He sounds immature and a bit pathetic really - you'd be better off on your own.

This is what ghosting was invented for. There are billions of other people out there he can do this to.

sorry I think you sound needy. Constant texting. I would be really irritated if I were him.

If you like him, call him, say that things are a bit busy at the moment but you will be freer in the New Year. Agree a day/time and then dont contact him until the morning to confirm.

Christmas/New Year is a bad time of the year to start dating. It is crazy chaotic. For most people family come first.

green I'm not rearranging. Sorry but if someone's off week trumps the fact my grandpa is dying then he isn't worth it. He hasn't asked if I'm doing ok or anything.

You are right midnight. Your gut instinct is usually correct.

Midnight I agree he's playing silly games. Bin him off. I went through similar once. He was a nice guy but had massive anxiety issues. There was no one else involved but he needed to sort himself out before he had a relationship. We're friends now but it was the best decision to walk away from it.

Hope you're ok and sorry to hear about your grandpa

Rubbish isn't it ginger when we first spoke he was telling me how he had gotten out of a 5 year relationship 2 years ago and then both nans died close together so he decided to run off to Australia. Then he described his current ex as crazy and he doesn't have any social media. I should have seen he was trouble from the beginning but then the feelings developed. Least I'm not a year down the line and it was only the beginning

He sounds flakey as fuck.

And it's all about him as well.

Lucky escape I'd say and more importantly, I'm sorry about your grandad

You're not going to get any definite answers about what he's up to on here, only he knows that. He sounds weird and very immature. He may be hiding something/ seeing someone else/ have things going on in his life that he's dealing with but if he's making you feel like this 2 weeks in, that's not a great sign. Things should be exciting and new, not confusing you and making you worry because he's distant. You barely know him after 4 months and only 2 weeks of dating. I'd let him go unless he improves greatly.

Thanks all I've said to him is I don't want things to be bitter between us as we did really get along and id like us to be friends. Trying to be more grown up but he's ignored.

I wanted to get people's opinions without this info but the reason I don want things to be bitter is because we work together! Yea I know work and pleasure shouldnt mix but I just really really liked him. He is also 4 years younger. So showing his immaturity

Don't text anymore as he's getting the attention he wants and could make yourself look desperate. Talk to him in work as you would a colleague, but don't reference anything you did together while dating.

@MidnightStars
Sounds like he was cancelling, doing something he preferred to do, with whoever, but kept you as a backup ego boost just in case? Glad you've binned him off and respected your own boundaries 👍

Then he described his current ex as crazy

Massive red flag. Well done for binning him off. Keep that attitude up and you’ll find someone who is worthy of your affection in no time.

New year, new opportunities. X

I won't text him anymore. Just didn't realise he had this side to him!

Just sad as he lured me in then went cold and still expect me to be ok with him. I have no luck in my love life. None at all

The old favourite, push-pull technique.

You're lucky you're out before he really did damage.

Have a great Christmas OP and onwards and upwards xx

you DO have luck in your life.. you've had a darned lucky escape from this Clown

You both sound childish with all this talk about granny's and grandpas

Anna the OP’s grandad is dying. I don’t know how you’ve decided she sounds childish for mentioning that. You sound heartless, which is worse.

If you are seeking help on MN after two weeks then he is not right for you.

It is not rocket science.

I have no luck in my love life. None at all

Luck is irrelevant. We have the relationships we CHOOSE.

Don't choose slavery. Why would you?

He's gone Bowling without even the suggestion of taking gigs girlfriend?!? Of course he doesn't have to - Bowling with friends - perfectly fine. But usually at least a mention of it first. "Oh I'm off out Bowling with Lads on Friday, sorry, no partners usually allowed" However he hasn't said a word about it?!

OP he has totally checked out