Define Your True Friend/s

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In my hour of need I've called in the 'house police' in the form of a very dear friend (single, busy, no kids!) who is going where angels fear to tread - the kids bedrooms & playroom, she has offered to lifesave this week and she fears (and I know) that I'm drowning!!
She is an old friend who sometimes I never see or speak to for months, but when we meet it's always like yesterday when we were last together - our lives are so different yet we always have so much to say. It's true when you have children you make so many new friends but it's great to keep the old one's too. This is the same friend I had not spoken to for years who, when she found out my dh had been unfaithfull (10+ years ago and no kids) dragged me off to holiday in the sun with the girls. The same friend who was with me on the night my dad died. A diamond ...

treu friend are very hard to come by, i have the going out with getting pissed chums, i have the drop in for a cup of coffee bitch about everyone and moan about everything friend... but in all the world i have one true friend who lives 350 ish miles away , she was there for me at school, when i was pregnant , through all my marriage miseries, and the thing is i wasnt eally there for her when she needed me during her pregnancy. a true friend listens i think that is the key because although you wouldnt know it from my postings i am pretty quiet and so the people who i usually hook up with arnt - they do all the talking which suits me fine until i need someone to listen then the talkers seem to find it hard and its nice to be able so hate your hubby a lot complain about it to your mate - who knows it will blow over and not hate him, cos i only seem to go on about the bad stuff! like you do!

There's a wonderful quote in a book by Kathy Lette, when one woman is asked by her boyfriend 'How do you know she is really your friend' the answer is 'because when I kill you she is going to help me dispose of the body'
I have one friend like that!!! I think everyone has one!

Marlene Dietrich said "it's the friends you can call up at 4am that matter". I know what she means. My friends are good listeners, good communicators, non-judgemental, supportive, funny and approving. I also have those pop in for a coffee and a chat about trivia friends and I value them too.

Someone once said that a true friend is one who'll hold your hair out of the way while you're vomiting!

I think mine would, but I've never had to put it to the test!

What happens if you lack the hair to be held out of the way?

Mopsy - that makes my dh my best friend (awww puke, he is really) as he held my hair for two lots of severe morning sickness. The gem.

My best friend got up at 1:30 am with 5 week baby in tow, came to my house & looked after dd until dh got back from hosptial where I'd just had dd2.

My best friend also lives 350ish miles away, funny that! She says she wasn't there for me, but she was in more ways than she thinks. I knew she was only a phone call away, her humour kept me going in my crises, I knew that whatever I told her she would not judge me for it, I knew that I could rely on her above all else, and that kept me going. She might now be a hundred miles away, but she is still my best confidante, I tell her things I do not tell my dh! We moan at each other about our bum lives and our bum husbands. She is one of those friends that you can just say a name to her and you will not need to go into the history of it all, she will know in an instant how you feel and what to say. Friends like this are hard to come by indeed and I just want to tell her that I miss her!!!!!

But I'm sooo glad she's happy!

This is making me really sad, I miss my best friend so much! She lives the other side of the world and is a fantastic person. In fact all my good friends live miles away and I have not made any friends where we are now which has been making me even sadder today! The lonliness of motherhood eh?!

Star

Short doesn't even begin to describe it

you just made me cry! thank you ..... i think?!

Star

Yes I do, if I don't then I end up looking like a monk due to the fact the rest of it is still very thick.

I know Custardo - I think it's terrible that Simon has no hair either!!!

just to spoil things... thought I had a best friend twice but for some reason I give and they took. Got really confusing but to cut a long story short twice thought I could trust someone who I'd known since school days and been there for heaps of times at all hours of the day/night only to be cut off when they don't need help still friends but not the real kind of best friend ie no phone call to me when or time for my call when I need help/an ear. You are lucky to have met true friends treasure them.

Can anyone remember seeing Right Said Fred on the Deeply Dippy video? The bald/shaven lead singer wearing leather trousers used to have me drooling. I think bald heads can be a real turn on - don't know why because I can't say that I really find them attractive to look at but I suppose it helps to have the body to go with it. I've never slept with a baldy either, DH has still got plenty on top.

Sorry I shouldn't have changed the subject but all this talk of shaven heads brought back memories.

Pam, a soft spot for Ross Kemp? (Grant Mitchell from Eastenders) I'll own up to that one.

I am about to find out the meaning of friendship - my best friend is childless and is about to share a caravan for a week with me and my three children! Not to mention a 6 hour car journey to get there!

I thought I had a friend like you mention, wish I had one. She was someone I worked with, went out with and she was so logical when I was going through my divorce. We kept in touch when I moved area etc. Suddenly ex husband knew things, had 8 calls on mobile on our wedding day, some one the day before. I asked if she had seen him and told him (no other way he could have known) and she said no but didnt hear from her again. My mum never trusted her but I thought she was a friend. I suppose I have lots of time left to find a good friend. At the moment dh is my very bestest friend.

I was on the phone to my BF at 3.30 this morning. Luckly, it was only 9.30pm in the UK! We've been friends for 17 years and we've suported each other through various crises. I can't imagine her not being there for me and me being there for her, even though we're on opposite sides of the world atm.

CUSTARDO - Just wanted to give a big shout to my best friend as I know she's not really in the Christmad mood yet. So just to let her know that there are people out there who appreciate her and who think her decorations are fab, even if I haven't seen them! MERRY CHRISTMAS to you! Wish you weren't so blooming far away!