Is it possible for someone to have an emotional affair with an entire family?

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Will add details later. Just wondering if it is possible.

I'm sorry that your wife has suffered so, but this all sounds toxic.

I asked her about what i thought was happening but she deinied it. She just said she was depressed and i need to be understanding.

Shes coming back tomorrow. We just need to spend time as a family and communicate more. She said she wants help. I'm happy that we will be together again. Thanks everyone

I think you can be swept away by another family, and while you are there, it's like being on holiday, and any problems are left at home.

However, from nothing to intense relationship is very quick. Maybe they have just clicked. However, part of me worries that they have too much control over her, whether intentionally or sun intentionally.

She went back there on Sunday and is still there now. I asked what the problem is but she never says why. I give up. It's just me and my daughter now and when she comes back she comes back. I just blocked all contact until she walks through the door. I can't focus not knowing what is going on. It's always short answer's and i have to wait 20 mins to hours for a reply. Time to focus on my 7 year old.

She only lasted being a week at home.

I think you should stop letting her back op. It's not fair on your child.
She needs to get over her issues and then come back, her being a yo yo figure is damaging to your mental health as well as your daughters. She sounds incredibly selfish and everything's left to you. What if you need a break? How would she feel if you left for a week to God knows where?

Hi rollingonariver, obviously my life wouldn't be worth living. I don't understand what's going on. She said she was going to see the GP but then she said she was feeling better. Maybe she feels like she has more support there as her friend has depression. Maybe she thinks she understands her better than me. It's all guess work and very stressfull and frustrating. She said she wouldn't do this again and promised she would be back on Sunday to read to our DD before bed. She was gone the whole day Sunday and and is still there now. She didn't even spend the snow day with us!!!!!

Forgot to say, the reason she had to go to her friends was because they were having a family meeting and she had to support her friend. A family meeting!!! And she suddenly gets depressed while on the bus going there and doesnt want to come home. She never told me about the family meeting until the morning when she left.

Tell her to grow the fuck up or get the fuck out.
What kind of mother does this to her 7 year?
She may very well be depressed but seems to be using it to excuse her very bad behaviour toward you and your daughter.

Op. Think of your daughter abc show her she’s worth more than this by packing her mother’s things and sending them to her in a taxi.

In other words - make her decision for her.

When you said that you're 'no angel' and that you'd added to her stress, what did you mean by that?

Do you think she could be having an affair with this woman?

Hi TatterdemalionAspie, i would never cheat on my wife. I have had a few anger problems in the past but i've never hit her. I am changing for the better. I don't think this is to do with it but you never know. I think she just likes spending time there. I dunno sigh

You don't have to hit someone to scare, intimidate and upset them. I would imagine that your anger problems have a lot to do with her not wanting to spend time at home - have you asked her?

Come on OP this is no way for you and your DD to live. She is playing you for a fool.
Now is the time for you to man up and stop the game playing. Pack up her stuff and text her to come and get it. She no longer has the right to treat you both like this. Stop being so passive-she acts like this because you allow it.
Make a life for yourself and DD. She obviously is happier being with her friend (sorry) but now is the time for you to find your happiness and it doesn't appear to be with her.
She can't decide what she wants so make the choice for her.

She's yanking your chain and you're letting her do it!! She may have not have had the perfect family or the perfect childhood (who has?) but at the the moment there are no consequences to her very selfish actions, she's not thinking of her daughter and she's certainly not thinking of you!! Time to grow a pair ands tell her she comes home and works things through or she stays away for good!!

I think there is more to this.
I think this is very strange that a family who only met your dw 6 months ago and she is staying over for weeks at a time and being included in family meetings. This has gone further than being just friends.

Is this a husband wife and children family or just a single mother and children.
What was the family meeting about. Was it about your wife staying over so much was someone in the family not happy that your wife has effectively moved in.

The only way forward would be if and when she comes back home to tell her that if she goes to see the family again and stays over to not bother coming back.

I sympathize that your DW didn't have a good childhood, but right now, she's walking all over her own DD's childhood and making it worse for her. You'd think she'd be concerned to make it better for her DD than how it was for herself.

Just spoke to her. Shes not coming back for a while. Maybe 1 or 2 weeks i dont know. She doesn't know whats wrong. She needs space so life goes on. Hopefully she comes back

I think because her friend did the same thing for 2 weeks she can do it too. Our child is 7. Not 12 and 18.

TatterdemalionAspie, this was many years ago. She said it was nothing to do with that. She just felt like a shit mum and letting us down.

It actually sounds to me like she is having a breakdown of some kind.

Does she work? Has she still been going in if so?

OP, has she opted out of real life completely? Do you think she's burying her head in the sand and hope it's all OK when she resurfaces?
What I mean is, does she have a job she needs to go to? Any family she keeps in contact with? Has she mentioned it's Christmas in 2 weeks? Does your DD have. Nativity which parents are invited to? What childcare arrangements need to be put in place for the school holidays?
Without knowing the full situation, I think you need to assume she's not coming back and make plans for you and DD. Keep a low contact with DW in case she's having some sort of breakdown, but don't let her keep causing this upset for your DD.