Is it possible for someone to have an emotional affair with an entire family?

[HowRyou]

Will add details later. Just wondering if it is possible.

The mum did seem say we are family to me the other day. I don't really know her properly to have those feelings towards her and her family. I did say about doing something with her friend and her the other day but she avoided my message.

What's the history? How long has she known them? Did she meet them recently or knew them before she met you?

Don't they think it's strange that she is around there all the time and not home with her dh/dw ? Sounds extremely co-dependent.

They both suffer from depression so maybe that is why they are so close. My wife talks to me sll the time about how she feels messed up because of hef family. I listen because she says it helps. Maybe i have been missing signs. Also i am no angel myself. I've added stress on top.

I think shes known them for 6 months max. Cant be sure. She seems to of ditched all her friends for her though.

What do i do to bring her back?? I kinda think we are not exciting enough for her.. The daughter of her friend is 14 and my wife loves her like a sister.

Kyme. I had a huge affair with my first boyfriends family too. In the end I liked them more than him.
HiwRyou. I wouldn’t worry too much. I guess it can feel like rejection but when I look back, I think I was just fascinated that people lived differently, did things differently to us. It was, for me, part of experimenting with different lifestyles and what have you. Teenage stuff.
In the end I realised they had faults, trigger points etc just like my own family.

Sorry just seen this is your wife rather than a daughter.

We are in our early 30's.

Sorry nursy1, the thread didn't really start off well.

Op, this a really unhealthy situation and just as quickly as it started it’s all going to end in tears.

I’m the meantime you need to be getting on with life and your daughter whilst telling your wife that she had better have plans for when her game of happy families is over.

Don’t call her. Don’t leave the room when she’s talking to them. Just let them get in with it.

Are there problems in your marriage that she’s is running away from. ( sorry to ask but you say you have added to her stress)
Does this family represent one that she hopes to be more like? Is it that she feels they have handled the depression better? Or is it just mutual support?
It could be a useful catalyst and could spark a whole, long conversation along those lines.

A lot of the arguments have started over this family. She actually stayed away for the whole night and didn't say anything. She said she didn'the realise that I would be worried. Nearly had to call the police. Managed to find out where she was in the early hours. I think it could be due to her not have a healthy family at home when she was younger.

Maybe mutual support. She has a lot of problems and I do too. Anyways, starting to feel uncomfortable putting all this public. Going to bed and may post tomorrow. Thanks everyone.

If she has found a 'family' that she craves, or whatever it is..she still cant sideline your daughter like this (nor you tbh)

Do you normally feel threatened by her friendships? Or is it just this one?

Could it be a lesbian relationship?
I would say that you should appear happy and busy with your great life, not needy and stressing her with constant questions or demands.
Though not easy to do.
But if you make home life with you look guilt making and stressful she won't want to come back.
Also try to be cheerful with your DD. You don't say her age.
It is beyond DD's control so make sure she doesn't feel any responsibility for this, try to be happy and busy with DD too.

AussieGrrl that’s out of order, did you not read the part where his wife disappeared and hasn’t contacted him about there daughter?

So she’s leaving your dd at home with you while she goes off playing happy families elsewhere?
If so yes that’s odd.

She is so out of order! She's has just dropped her responsibilities as a mum and fucked off to play happy families with (basically strangers) other people for 2 days!!!

If you were a woman posting this about her husband I can almost guarantee the advice would be to leave.

I think she's behaving shockingly. Your poor Dd .

It actually broke my heart, when my daughter came back from school on Friday and my wife wasn't there. I didn't want to open the front door because i knew my daughter would be upset when she realizes my her mum is not there. She cryed and i hugged her. Wanted to cry myself but i had to be strong for her. I'm really hoping she comes back today. It seems likes she torn on what to do. Seems like she knows she should come home because she misses us but at the same time she doesnt.

This is neglectful of your daughter. Sounds like she may be having having some sort of mental health crisis. If this family care for your wife, though, then they should care about her whole family too.

This is so unusual that I'm not quite sure what to advise

I actually think you need to give her an ultimatum. She's neglecting you both and it's not a stable upbringing for your DD, my mother actually left a few times like this and it was horrible and has definitely affected the rest of my life. It's easier to just know she's not going to be there.
It's honestly so horrible for her that she needs that support and I do feel for her but she has a family and she needs to step up. It must be really awful for you, well done for being there for your DD

I asked her how she was and she said she's getting there.

It will end in tears. These friendships are toxic with no boundaries. And the people will as it sounds from your post, influence every area of your life!

How did she meet them?

Whatever your adult problems are, she isn’t being fair on your daughter.