How bad is what he did?

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My BF of six years just got back from a boys trip to Amsterdam. I had no problem with him going as I trusted him. Even though at the beginning of our relationship he did cheat, and we broke up, eventually got back together, and a long time after, I learned to trust him again.
Anyway, he gets back form Amsterdam, and he tells me that his friends were calling him "the grandfather" as he was the most sensible one. This got to him one night, and he admitted to me that his friends went to visit prostitutes, and to impress them he also paid for one and went to her room. He told me that nothing happened, that he just went in, hung up his coat, sat on the bed, talked to her for a minute, and then she made him leave when she realised nothing was going to happen. He's happy for his friends to believe that he slept with her.
I just think that the whole situation is extremely messed up. Firstly, I can't believe that he would set foot in one of those places, I also can't believe that he can act so disrespectful to me around his friends. And finally, I can't believe that his friends encourage him to cheat on me (He said they were pushing him to do it), and that they now believe that he does so. Also, I'll never know what happened in that room, but for some reason I do believe him, as he really had no reason (that I know of) to tell me.
What do you guys think? Am I just being extremely naive?

Total rubbish glad you are telling him to do one.

Just to let you know that I have worked as an escort before and I am telling you categorically: there is no way, ever, in any world, that you would bin the guy off because he doesnt want sex. In fact you would be trying to secure him as a regular.

So he basically paid her NOT to have sex with him and he reckons she kicked him out!?
Yeah right - that happened
I really do hope you follow through with leaving but I fear you won't.

Whether he did the deed or not, he went to a prostitute's room, is weak to peer pressure and happy for it to be known he paid for sex.

The question is - are you ok to be with someone like that?

He knows that there is a good chance that someone will spill the beans and getting in his excuses

You’ll never know what happened in that room, so you need to ask yourself the question if you think it’s ok he wanted his friends to think he cheated on you.

I went to Amsterdam with a group of friends of a friend (mostly men) and we always seemed to gravitate back to the red light district and I wanted to ask "really? Are we here again ?"

Can'tArgue

That is going to enter my lexicon. "Sniffing cakes" is going to mean "yeah, I believe you (not)" from now on.

I don't think he cheated. I think he's a knob for pretending to his mates that he has. So many nice bars in that city. "You go on lads, grand-dads going for a beer, come over in 5 minutes when you've finished have a drink".

Covering his back op. Hope he covered everything!

Could your friends make you do this, I know there is nothing in the world that could coax me into that room because I love my boyfriend.

Another male perspective from my DH:

He went to a series of stag nights the same year we got married (that age where the world is getting married) where a load of blokes tried to get him into lap dance clubs. He refused, was called a granddad, lame, all the usual shit. He ignored them and went back to the hotel followed by two other blokes who weren't initially 'brave' enough to not follow the crowd.

He said he didn't give a shit what names he was called - he didn't want to go and wasn't going in.

It's perfectly possible not to be pressured into fucking someone else. Easy, in fact.

Good decision to leave him OP.

Horrible.

Even if by some chance he is telling the truth, he is still an asshole.

Its his job to protect you, and defend you from idiots like his friends. He threw you under the bus. How bad can he make you look? Also he is extremely immature if he thinks he has to pretend to sleep with a prostitute cos his douche-bag friends called him grandad. If he and his friends think being in a committed, faithful relationship is such a bad thing, maybe they shouldnt be.

What AF said.