BF shared a picture of him and his ex. Weird or normal?

[NonplussedwithFB]

DP and I have been very dodgy lately for various reasons and I'm hormonal so I don't really trust my judgement. It's about shitty FB too so look away now if you hate it.

This morning he has shared a post from that timehop thing. The post is a picture of him and his long term ex (no kids, not married but together over a decade) from 8 years ago. They broke up 6 years ago.

We've been together 2. His family don't seem to like me very much and his mum still has pictures up of his ex, so I'm very sensitive. Do you think it's weird that he's shared it? He's friends with her on there so she will have seen it. As will all his family. As yet nobody has liked it. WIBU to put a 'love' on it sarcastically!

What I don't understand is; if he did want rid of me and wants to get back with her why, after a two year relationship, would you approach it this way? It makes no sense whatsoever.

If he had turned round and said 'Look nonplussed, I don't want this anymore because I still have feelings for her' I would probably have got it more. We were on shaky ground anyway. I repeatedly voiced my doubts and he always maintained that there was nothing between them. My friend reminded me that I had ended it about a month in over her, but he charmed me back round. What a waste of 2 years. I let him in my DC's life for nothing. I'm so glad we didn't live together.

I guess I'll never know the answer but it's all very weird.

So it boils down to one of two possibilities:

1. He genuinely things you are OTT and can't understand why you'd be bothered. Essentially he's insensitive.

2. He can see it but doesn't care, and certainly doesn't doens't want to admit he's done something hurtful.

Two is worse, but neither are exactly good news for you.

Have you got a plan?

Not a waste - an eye-opener and reminder for future relationships.

Remember that people can spend their entire lives in relationships like this (or bad in other ways). It's frighteningly easily done. If you speak to one of them, they'd wish they could rewind to two years in and find the insight that you have.

As for him, who knows why. It;s perhaps just easier this way. Is he lazy? That could explain it.

I think he's done it on purpose, especially if your sister can't see it and there's no likes or comments.

I think he's put it and made it so only you see it.

Still no likes or comments?

Do the same to him. Put up a ''jokey'' status saying *nonplussed is no longer in a relationship.''

Set the settings so that only he can see them.

This is so weird. I checked it through an old FB account I've got and all his posts are public but I can't see the ex one! My BIL is friends with him and can't see it either.

WTAF is going on? What an absolute shit!

I'm with Battle even if he is merely guilty of crass insensitivity who needs that shite in their lives? Give him the heave ho. One day when he actually, y'know, grows up, he will realise how idiotic he has been maybe?

I would 100% most absolutely definitely be hitting the freaking roof if my partner had done this.

Ah, his bitch of a sister had liked it.

I'm done. They can all fuck right off.

What, so he put it up so only you could see it?!!!

More power to your elbow. They sound like a shower of cuntdonkeys. You are well rid.

Are you friends with his sister? Maybe you have to be friends with her to see it, as he shared the pic from her FB page didn't he?

*friends with his sister on FB I meant..?

Yeah I am. That will be why my sister can't see it.

I was really surprised his sister hadn't liked it. Now she has any doubt I had in my mind that I was being paranoid and over sensitive about the whole situation is gone. They obviously think it's fine to conduct themselves in this manner and these are not my kind of people.

Free yourself of them, You will feel so much better once you have dumped him and got rid of them all.

They're taking the piss.

Imagine if your sibling shared an old pic on Facebook of you and your ex and then you went ahead and shared it!!! You just wouldn't do it because it's blatant shit-stirring

I am completely 100% done. His auntie has liked it now. They were obviously waiting for each other

I really wish I'd have ended this much much sooner than now. I feel like a right mug. I'm so ashamed.

His aunt and sister liked it!?

They are awful.

It's doesn't sound the normal thing. How ever I do have fond memories of times with my ex and I wouldn t begrudge my current gf having fond memories of her ex. You can erase the past and it would be disengenous to denie the existantce of those good times. After all if they were together that long they must have loved each other and created lots of memories. Still strange though.

Dad memories are fine but it's the lack of cutting the basic of ties that bothers me the most.

I feel like I'm never going to live up to their relationship and I don't think it's very nice to make anyone feel like that is it? Anyway. It's over now but it was a very sharp lesson to learn. My faith in humanity was already pretty low and this hadn't helped. You live and learn I guess

I tell you what though, I'm 38 and this will be my last relationship. No way I'm going to open up again.

PLEASE don't let him worm his way back in. Remember how he has made you feel when he gives it the hard sell. He's a shit

I don't think he will try tbh.

He clearly doesn't give a fuck as he's not contacting me and hasn't removed the post. I think this was a way of getting rid of me. There's no other explanation.

I bet at some point, when he realises that you are serious, he will make an attempt to claw things back. DON'T go with it, please!

NonplussedwithFB That was incensative of me. There is a difference between fondness of the past and still having feeling. Sorry.