BF shared a picture of him and his ex. Weird or normal?

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DP and I have been very dodgy lately for various reasons and I'm hormonal so I don't really trust my judgement. It's about shitty FB too so look away now if you hate it.

This morning he has shared a post from that timehop thing. The post is a picture of him and his long term ex (no kids, not married but together over a decade) from 8 years ago. They broke up 6 years ago.

We've been together 2. His family don't seem to like me very much and his mum still has pictures up of his ex, so I'm very sensitive. Do you think it's weird that he's shared it? He's friends with her on there so she will have seen it. As will all his family. As yet nobody has liked it. WIBU to put a 'love' on it sarcastically!

Depends what it's a picture of, surely? E.g. If a picture of their engagement party or the like then obviously completely crass and insensitive. But if a picture of them attending a concert or a historical event or similar then it's all part and parcel of someone's history.

I wouldn't expect to not look back on things which happened when I was with my ex purely because my ex was there. These things still happened even if not together any more. It's unreasonable to expect people to brush out their own histories just because a new partner might find that upsetting.

It's a picture of them together, dressed up.

I don't want him to airbrush his history with her at all. I just wish it didn't smack me in the face constantly. It's everywhere.

No way would I put up with this. Easier said than done to walk away but with his family it sounds like it might be more trouble than it’s worth. You deserve better than to live in someone’s shadow. Be with someone who things you are the best thing since sliced bread.

Also family is different. Those relationships are potentially separate from the relationship with the ex partner. If his family haven't accepted you then that is one thing, but their relationship with his ex is completely separate and is their business.

Thinks!

It really depends on the picture, is it just the two of them? Unless it was a photo with lots of others in or a special event e.g. Graduation then its really weird. All his friends will think its really weird too tbh, it sounds almost like they haven't properly broken up?

It's the two of them. Nothing in the picture, no background, no other people. Taken at night

Very odd and completely disrespectful to you. You need to look at where his boundaries are and if they are in a totally different place to yours, calmly explain that and walk away. Hanging around to play third wheel with a never-disappearing ex can never bring you happiness.

Not a special event. Looks like a night out?

How weird. I was with my ex for a decade, married, no kids. I kept my wedding album because I loved our wedding, it was a great day and part of my life and history. One day I might like to look at it and see how I looked I suppose (I haven't yet but it's in the loft somewhere). I don't think there's anything wrong with that and neither does my now-husband.

I do not, however, have a single picture of me and the ex on my phone or social media. There weren't loads anyway but having them pop up on Timehop was a bit unsettling and when my relationship with my husband got serious I removed them.

In this case it sounds like it wasn't your partners photo, but does he have photos of them on his phone or Facebook? Nothing wrong with it if he does but sharing a photo on social media is odd and I agree, given the context it seems like a message either to you or her, or both.

Sounds like your BF is trying to wind you up, as there's no reason to share it! I'd be fuming

Any comments or likes yet?

Wow, Really, You are not being insecure at all! He is totally disrespectful.
Why are you with him exactly? It doesnt sound like he makes you feel very good.
Dump him and dump his nasty family.
Problem solved.

I am insecure...because he makes me feel like that.

No likes etc yet. Even his family probably know it's a shit thing to do!

So insensitive of him, I wouldn't like it either especially with the added crap dished out by his family. I'd wonder why on earth he wanted to share a photo of him and his ex.

I am insecure...because he makes me feel like that.

Two years in? Dump him now, don't waste any more time.

Well he shouldnt make you feel like that! He sounds horrible

Why are you with a man who makes you feel insecure and who's family don't like you?

Why are you with a man that makes you feel insecure? That’s not love.

Your partner should build you up not knock you down.

It might be his fb settings. It could be that any time he's tagged it gets posted to his wall straight away, rather than him posting it specifically.

I would have gone nuts tbh way put of order.its as if he's reminiscing.urgh

Out not put

I wouldnt like that AT ALL.

Do you feel he is a keeper? Do you think that youll ever be properly accepted into his family?
I dont think I could be bothered with it all tbh. Theyre doing their best to fuck with your head, all of them

No he has definitely shared it.

He has gone onto his sisters FB, sought it out (she posted it last month, I let that go obviously) and posted it.

They are fucking with my head aren't they?

I would be really unhappy with that!