Hi, my husband had an affair 10 years ago when travelling in Thailand, he continued to text/email her for several months after he got back. I found the phone he bought to keep contact with her and confronted him. He told me he planned to leave me and our children and go live with her. His justification for his actions was that he didn’t feel I needed him anymore! We decided to try and make a go of things and he agreed not to contact her again, although I have struggled to deal with it, I thought we were doing OK. I don’t feel the same as I used to about him but I do still love him and want our marriage to work. BUT he has just announced that he plans to go back to do voluntary work in Thailand for 3 months next year and I am finding the idea abhorrent. I believe him when he says he has altruistic reasons for going but I worry that it will happen again and I cannot go through it all again. My dilemma is...do I try to stop him going or let him go and hope for the best but prepare for the worst?