I paid £30 to be cheated on basically.

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My on/off (currently apparently on) boyfriend of 3 years casually mentioned going to (city) this weekend to see his mates, and asked could I lend him the train fare so I did.

Only he's actually in a different town meeting up with his ex.

I feel like less than dust.

@sweetpotatosteak on and off boyfriend as stated, because I knew someone would probably do a name search. We reconciled off the back of that post actually, he did a good job of pretending to be worried about me it seems. Now I'm back under the thumb and I didn't even notice.

Even if it was an off period, would you move in with someone less than a month later during an on period? Knowing it had been on and off for 3 years.

Hiya, where are you in NI. I might be able to point you to available resources.

Because we were 'on' solidly for 2 years, I was struggling being a student in a different country and he offered to let me stay with him.

You opened the game too soon.

I was going to suggest you arranged a dinner with him, order the most expensive stuff, then leave him to pay for it all.
Ideally, leave the restaurant with the excuse of going to the toilets and then dump him by text.

He's left you with no bank card for the whole weekend?!

If I was him, I'd be worried about you knowing I was a cheating scumbag and being in my house alone all weekend . What fun you could have!

So he's thick as well as a cheat?

Move on op and don't look back.

Can you rent the room on his place on AirB&B?
You'd recoup the money and leave a guest for him.

Get out of there as quick as you can and do not speak to him ever again. You are worth more than £30.

Are you in Coleraine/one of the ports? I'm sure holiday homes would be going pretty cheap round there on air bnb?

Or have a leaving party?

Just had a phone call, he's on his way back.

Apparently he just wanted closure and a chat with her, seemed taken aback that I was ending it.

Do you know anyone else locally?

Real pain he's got your bank card / it's cancelled as you need access to money to get back to England I assume?

I got stuck abroad with money once after my money was stolen and a family member was able to buy me a ticket over the phone.

Do you have a friend or family member who could do this for you?

Cross post.

So why did he lie to you?

Only he forgot to tell you where he was actually going for the weekend!

List his TV on Facebay!
Don't fall for his excuses, whatever he intended he still lied and that is no basis for a relationship.

Please don't buy into any bulk shit he spins you now he has been caught out.

He lied about where he was going, he took money from you to do it and also took your bank card without your permission.

So are you still in uni in England? Are you living with him or just staying there?

Make sure you tuck a fresh prawn into the hollow part of the curtain rod before you leave.

Gah! Beat me to it.

Dont fall for this op, hes sly, distrustful and a liar. Do yourself a favour and get rid..

He lied about where he was going. This was NOT just for closure sorry but you know you are in the right here.
seconded about tucking all sorts of horrible things in his curtain rods and any crevices he won't find easily.

Sorry op but he’s trying to wiggle his way out of it. She’s probably told him where to go and now he’s crawlung back thinking he can get you back under the thumb.

I would suggest not shoving anything up his arse though, clearly his head is so far up it that'll be the first thing he sees

Make sure the first thing you say to him when he gets in is "I want my £30 back now" do not allow the discussion to go anywhere else until you have it back.
He can go into debt for that. Let him go into his overdraft. Bastard.

Thanks for the replies. Sort of still reeling. I've made some calls and my University are going to sort my halls place, but sadly it won't be ready till monday.

Managed to find a £50 hotel room so I've borrowed the money from my mum and I'm going to call her when I get there and probably cry a lot.