I paid £30 to be cheated on basically.

[Slaylormoon]

My on/off (currently apparently on) boyfriend of 3 years casually mentioned going to (city) this weekend to see his mates, and asked could I lend him the train fare so I did.

Only he's actually in a different town meeting up with his ex.

I feel like less than dust.

Hah, as funny as it would be to write a tell all status, I know it would be used to justify his behaviour iyswim.

Sort of like yeah she's mental, she checks my Facebook etc. Except I never ever have, haven't asked to and wouldn't even think of going on his phone. It was only because I recognised her name from the internet tab that I clicked it, because I got this huge knot in my stomach.

I feel very bad for you op
What a fucking scumbag! Sew some prawns into his curtains and clean the bog with his toothbrush, rub chilli on his undercrackers

You poor thing :( is this a serous relationship ?

I'm in Newtownabbey,just outside Belfast if you need help.... pm me

Ring your old accommodation providers now before they close for the day, say there's been an unexpected problem and ask about moving back in. If not ask if they can recommend any others. Also speak to your student advice people about financial help.

He's been a dick and you'll be well rid.

Check around the apartment for money. You'd be morally in the clear to take £30 back if you found it. Don't assume that because he asked to borrow it, he doesn't have it somewhere. You know now he has low moral standards.

Make sure you tuck a fresh prawn into the hollow part of the curtain rod before you leave.

You are quite right Slay keep your dignity, work the problem .

@shoofly thanks but I'm a little too far north, and I don't drive.

No money anywhere, I've had a good look. Then it hit me, that he will have taken my debit card to withdraw the money :(

Oh that's horrible. But it could be a good use of £30 to find out he's a cheating shit.

Please make sure to have your card blocked.

I'm so sorry, but I agree that will have been the best £30 you will have ever spent.

I'd also have some fun on his FB. What an arsepiece!

Well cancel it then. Quickly! He has nothing to lose by taking more now, apart from anything.

phone the bank and tell them that someone has stolen your card.
find anything you can sell from his stuff worth up to £30...

Aww what a shit!

Keep your head up and I agree not writing anything on his Facebook

What a damn nerve he had asking for money!

Phone the bank and cancel the card.

In future never give anyone your PIN number.

Cancel your card now !

Just read your uodate! Ring your bank and get it canceled, QUICK!

Did you give him the 30 quid cash or just gave him your card?

He just took the card, I didn't think anything of it. I've cancelled it now.

Good! Hopefully he didn't get chance to withdraw any money

Do you have online banking so you can check?

So sorry. But glad you found out now.

I'd report the car stolen.

What an prick.

He took your bank card
Get the fucker arrested! That should dampen his ardour!

Can you get to a local branch of your bank to withdraw some cash in person?

sweetpotato - she did say it was an on/off relationship. Maybe that was an "off" period.

This sounds like the stimulus you need to bin this bastard for good. I'm so sorry, it's clearly a huge shock.