Reading husbands text message

[juwayriyyah31]

I come across so many people feeling bad for reading their husbands messages. 'I know I shouldn't hve done it' etc... I thought it was normal to read each other's messages and there's nothing wrong with it. Me and my husband hve free access to each other's phones etc And I find it part of the trust in our relationship . But some people might see it as invading his privacy. What are your opinions ?

We read each other’s messages. There’s never anything interesting 😂

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Ah, phones, they tell us enough for suspicion, but often don't prove anything. I have fingerprint recognition and pin on mine. It just makes sense, in case it's lost. Wouldn't consider giving a bf or partner the code, not that there'd ever be anything to see - I'm a loyal soul. An ex bf, never had any lock on his phone. I did have a nosey, but only when I'd noticed a total change of phone habit - he always left it upwards to start with, but then exclusively started putting it face down and not leaving it laying around. It was more what wasn't on his phone than what was, calls removed from call list, WhatsApp to a certain person emptied. I engineered an ending in a roundabout way over something else, but the real reason was I trusted him as far as I could throw him. Tbf with good reason, if you knew him, you'd totally get why - good looking, but vain and insecure, needs validation off others etc. v poor past behaviour with women so not likely to have magically changed. Anyhow, it's a relief to not have to bother with that stuff. Never looked at anyone elses, never considered it before or since. I guess when your Spidey senses are up, it's for a reason.

I never checked my XP's messages but one day opened the app by mistake (next to the one I actually wanted in the button bar on a shared iPad) and the first message that popped up opened a whole can of worms that ended the relationship.

The thing was, I knew there was something going wrong in our relationship, I just didn't know what. I had thought about checking his messages before but I hadn't because I didn't think it was right.

So I think there's no hardline right or wrong here. If you truly feel that there's something off in your relationship, and it's specific to that relationship, you may be doing yourself a disservice by not following your instincts.

But if you've been betrayed in a past relationship and now find trusting others hard and feel tempted to check messages despite no clear feeling that something is off, maybe you need to second-guess yourself and work on issues first.

Doh, apologies for zombie reply

No,I would never read through a persons phone at all.

Thanks all. We've banned the spammer and we'll close this one now.