Boyfriend staying over but paying zero

[ivedoneitnow]

Been dating for 18 months. He adores me and I love him too. He's amazing to me and my two kids. I work full time. I own my own house and he lives with parents. I'm independent and love living in my own home. Bills come to £1200 a month. He isn't in regular work and makes and sells things for money. His income is very variable. He's stayed over every night for the last 9 weeks and I love having him here but he pays zero towards my bills / helps me out financially. We take turns paying when eating out. Came home tonight to him being here, he's had a shower and drinking while I'm not even in from work. I'm struggling financially and overdrawn, waiting for payday. I feel resentful that he's staying here for free and living the dream. What should I do?

If it’s true that he does not pay for his own child, despite expecting his parents and now his girlfriend to pay for him, then he’s an awful father. I wouldn’t want him near my children.

He no doubt thinks children live off fresh air and grass. He is telling you loud and clear exactly what he is.

His priority is £100 on gig tickets not food for his child - That’s who he is.

*He’s amazing to me and my two kids
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Has he seen his OWN kid in the 9 weeks since he moved in with you? Why did you change your mind about dumping him? Doesn’t sound like he’s made any effort to address the reasons you had for considering that. And now he’s actually turned out even worse.

I wondered why everyone was talking about the BFs son as the son wasn't mentioned by the OP in this thread but can see she mentioned the son in a previous thread. I know it's bad form on MN to advance search but him having a son who he doesn't seem to care about or support is really bad.

He sounds awful. why do you want him around your kids.

WOMAN HERE..
Chuck him back in the pond, he's a wrong 'un.

He sounds a real catch.

Op he sounds like a child and you are the grown up. This is not a partnership or showing any kind of adoration towards you. Don’t put up with it

His Mum & Dad must pray to the Good Lord, everyday, now that he's found you, whilst celebrating getting rid of a lazy, selfish cunt AND laughing their bollocks off.......

Just how desperate are you to have this cocklodging twat in your life !?

Great role model for your kids.....

Have you met his child yet ? Has he ?

Show him this thread, and how people rate his character 😗

Don't show him this thread. Get rid. He's a low life who doesn't support his child.

Expat is right, show him the door..
When you've done that raise your bar for relationship standards.

I cannot understand why a woman would willingly stick with an overgrown toddler man who ignores his own child.

Sure many of us have had crap relationships but usually the bloke doesn't show his true colours upfront and openly.

Jeez

What did I miss? I can't see anything that says he has a child he doesn't support.

Oh just read that it was on a different thread!

I want to know in what way he is ‘amazing’ to the OP and her two kids because nothing she’s written demonstrates that

Why are you still with this useless tosser? You told him in July last year you didn't want to be with him. According to your other thread he's never had a full time job and pays nothing for his kid nor ever sees him ( despite living in the house that the kid visits every wk)

Also according to the other thread he's now 36 and you're 41. Ffs think of your own DC and get this freeloading waster away from them.

I doubt the OP will be back . . . until the next thread where someone's reported her for council tax fraud for harbouring her useless cocklodger.