If I go downstairs right now I'm going to flip my lid

[PlayOnWurtz]

I work near on full time. I have significant health issues. Dh is a bit of a cock lodger and doesn't work but he also doesn't do the house. I've been on strike for a few weeks now and slowly the washing has stacked up, the carpet is filthy with dog hair, the dinner table covered in paperwork.

I've had a lay in this morning as I'm having a flare up compounded by a heavy period that's making me feel anaemic and not sleeping at night. I can hear DH on the PlayStation shooting shit.

I'm going to hit the roof if I go downstairs.

This was a rant really so don't feel you have to reply

What do you actually get out of this relationship? Why don't you get shot, sounds like you'd be happier and I bet healthier without this lazy asshole.

I want to rage on your behalf.

I just posted on another thread and I'm going to repeat myself. I'm a single mum and it's so much easier than being in a shit and unequal relationship.

Does he have any redeeming features?

Sounds like a blow up is reasonable. But in the long term, what are you going to do?

I feel angry for you, why do you put up with it? What do you get out of it? Imagine a lovely clean PlayStation free home

I don't know why I put up with it. He is a nice guy and does look after me he's just really really lazy. He doesn't work but does this kind of self employed sales thing for a company it's bizarre and brings in no money. He says it's not mlm but it sounds like it is!!! He refuses to go into paid employment as he says it will make him miserable

So go down and flip your lid. I would.

You say he is a cocklodger, so you know this isn't right and he is very immature.

Show him the door, alongside his precious PlayStation.

Working will make him misrable
What a load of shit

You need to get rid
But not much sympathy as yours seem to already know that

Honestly !!!

Stay upstairs, pack his stuff, then go downstairs with his bags and flip your lid.

You deserve far better that some cocklodger who is clearly making your life miserable.

Paid employment will make him miserable so bloody what. Does he also get miserable when he has to wash clothes or clean up? Jesus Christ I would have him out before his lazy ass could hit the sofa with his Xbox following swiftly behind him!

He doesn't look after you.

Sorry, but you're enabling him. Why would he ever choose to look for paid work when he is permitted to stay at home, play his computer games and be totally provided for? There is no incentive.

You say you have significant health issues. Is he your carer? Does he receive CA? What does he actually do for you?

Paid employment makes us all miserable! It's called being a grown up. It's how we pay the bills and enables us to have time off to "play PlayStation" (cringe). No job, no PlayStation. Get rid of him.

I think it is time to take control.

Flip your lid here, but in RL you need to calmly get your ducks in a row and announce that this cannot continue. There needs to be massive changes in the sharing of tasks and paid work responsibilities.

He needs to know you mean it and you need to carry it through.

The sounds like a miserable existence for you.

"Paid work will make him miserable". Just think about that for a while and then approach this issue as you feel appropriate.

I wish you future happiness, whatever changes you make, but you DO need to make some changes.

Do you have kids?

All the happiest people I know are actually single

Working for a living would 'make him miserable'? I couldn't respect a man like this. He sounds awful. Why do you put up with it?

Well why go and face the drudgery of work or clean when he has you doing it all for him. I'm curious as to how he looks after you

He doesn't look after you.

Get up, go downstairs, tell him to leave.

do you rent or own?

Debbs, agree.

Another mug.
Get rid.

So you live with someone that can work, but doesn't and is a useless, lazy arse around the house to boot.

Why on earth are you putting up with this?

Look after you? Er no. He doesn't.

How can you share a bed or have sex with him. He sounds so deeply unattractive.

This is what divorce is for.

This isn't "looking after you"

He's not a 'bit of a cocklodger' OP.

He's a lot of one.

Oh dear god. What are you getting out of this relationship? In what ways does he "look after" you?

Please tell him he either finds work, or does the house, or fucks off. You deserve better than this.

Get rid, nothing more unattractive in a partner than a person with no work ethic and who won't pay their share in life. Lazy , selfish and grasping.

Then teach any children you have or future children that they need to pay their own way in life, whether male or female and it's not down to others to do it for them.