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Doctor Foster

111 replies

debbs77 · 24/09/2017 23:21

OMG. Had this show recommended to me today.

I find it quite hard to watch, having had my ex husband cheat on me, and I'm holding my breath a fair bit, but I'm loving how strong she Is!

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MargoLovebutter · 25/09/2017 12:12

I find this hard to watch too, having been cheated on as well. Do people in real life behave like this? Surely for most people the extra load of childcare juggling and the administrative hassle of de-partnering or divorcing take up so much time that you haven't the energy for all the stuff she gets up to? That probably wouldn't make very good TV though!

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Offred · 25/09/2017 12:48
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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 25/09/2017 13:05

I agree to a point with offred actually, especially this -

I think it's a good reminder not to be so obsessed over a relationship that you destroy your DC tbh.Both of their behaviour was completely insane

Whatis you are being rather rude to offred and personal and on a thread about a tv show. Not on.

Huskylover1 · 25/09/2017 13:34

Offred said that Gemma appeared deranged. Well, yeah, she did.

whatisgoingon1 Stalking is a bit deranged too, no? Jeepers!

Spongebobfrillypants · 25/09/2017 13:50

I also find it painful to watch but really good drama at the same time. In my case, I can relate to the son as this happened to me when my parents divorced when I was 7. I hated being stuck in the middle of arguments & being told how unreasonable my mum/dad was. It is far-fetched in places & several times I've thought 'that would never happen' but isn't that the point of drama? Otherwise it's just like a documentary!

WellThisIsShit · 26/09/2017 11:17

, naughty Offred, naughty naughty you. Fancy posting something in 2015 that doesn't pass muster some two years later. Swats at metaphorical wrists with a ruler.

All according to a poster who doesn't even explain coherently what her issue is and why s/he believes it's appropriate to pursue this across multiple threads.

Coconutspongexo · 26/09/2017 11:32

Wow whatis and you seem to have attachment issues are you're very clearly attached to a fictional character.

Btw this series is actually ridiculous Gemma never has patients in fact she never seems to be in work.

Offred · 26/09/2017 11:34

Yes, I was thinking that about her work... she seems to just be driving aggressively around parminster all day and when she is in the surgery she spends loads of time faffing about or walking out!

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 26/09/2017 11:36

Ishoos.

She's batshit. I was really hoping after the first episode that she'd get her revenge hat on and just destroy smug fucker Simon. Instead she just acted like a crazy stalker person.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 26/09/2017 11:37

I love how heated mumsnet can turn out. As if a poster has been called deluded over a fictional tv show 😂😂

Never watched season 1, BBC aren't showing it and I don't have Netflix. Anywhere else I can watch 🤔

RatRolyPoly · 26/09/2017 11:40

I like her as a character mostly because she's complicated, intense and not the usual one-dimensional female lead who is either heroine or villain. She's the "goodie", but she's hardly "good", but she's unapologetic about it and that I like.

DontDrinkDontSmoke · 26/09/2017 11:44

The first series was a bit silly too. The second is plain daft but it is still very watchable I think.

I imagine it triggers painful memories in many as it is such a familiar situation. I know I went a bit batshit when my ex cheated on me, nothing worthy of a tv drama though. I wish I’d had the wisdom of MN to assist me back then. Actually Dr Foster needs to be on the relationships board!

Mittens92 · 26/09/2017 11:52

Can't wait for the last episode tonight! Does anyone watch Liar on ITV too!! Thats also good. Loving the dramas xx

RainyApril · 26/09/2017 12:22

I've just read an interview with the writer, who apparently feels very defensive whenever she's called mad. His view is that she's just very very angry. He also says that, if she were a man, nobody would say she was mad, they would say she was just getting even and that the cheating partner deserved everything they got.

HadronCollider · 26/09/2017 12:52

He also says that, if she were a man, nobody would say she was mad, they would say she was just getting even and that the cheating partner deserved everything they got.

I doubt that actually. Probably be called controlling.

Offred · 26/09/2017 12:53

Oh dear... well I prefer my interpretation of her character to the writer's then!

I think he's mad to suggest if the genders were reversed people would think it was 'just getting even' too! Everyone would be saying he is a dangerous and abusive criminal...

I think that gives an interesting insight into his character TBH!

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debbs77 · 26/09/2017 12:56

You can also watch it on the website fmovies

I'm really enjoying it. Only on episode 5 now though

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Offred · 26/09/2017 13:02

I think also that it is clear that she is not 'just angry'. She has a lot of very confused and uncontrollable feelings simmering under the surface IMO (which is the emotional lability I am saying seems BPD) and I like that about the writing of her character.

I do think though, as is often the case on her, there is a difference between feeling very very angry and acting on that feeling in a damaging way.

Fluerdelea · 26/09/2017 15:49

I dont think she's crazy. Infidelity changes "you" it can make you do things you never knew you had in you. Let's not forget Gemma has been told he wants rid of her...he wants their Son...he wants it all.

Surely that's enough to make you act slightly out of the norm?

Katinkka · 26/09/2017 16:10

Watched a few episodes of series 1 but thought it was crap. Really ridiculous and unrealistic. Utter nonsense.

27Feb · 26/09/2017 16:39

I loved the show but absolutely read Gemma as unhinged. I mean, I found her very compelling as a character and thought she was a fabulous scenery chewing villainness but I absolutely never thought her behaviour was meant to be remotely normal or admirable.

I can see her as BPD perhaps. That would make sense.

bridgetoc · 26/09/2017 17:06

I love the show....... Both the first and second series. Is it realistic, gritty drama? No it's not, but I don't care, it's pure theatre.

Very well written, and brilliant performances by all the actors.

I was speaking to a friend who was getting very serious, and angry about it, due to it's lack of realism. However, she also said she could not wait for the next episode. It's addictive viewing........

Onecutefox · 26/09/2017 17:14

Tonight she must do something. What could that be? I wish she could snap a picture of Kate with God father or whoever and email it to Simon.

Fanciedachange17 · 26/09/2017 17:24

FormidableMrsC I have read your posts over the years as I closely identify with all you have been through and have been silently cheering you on. I'm with you on this drama too.

For those getting irate and calling each other names; come on ladies it's a drama and can be enjoyed (or not) without personal attacks on each other.

I'm looking forward to tonight's episode and cannot imagine what it will include. I have no reason to like OWs but confess I enjoy watching the Kate character even if I am backing Gemma.

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