The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

[Mouseface]

Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Spanna - have messaged you.

Fox thank you I've sent you a PM

ma maybe dds mental health will be supported by you being honest about what is going on in the family, and for you. She might be vulnerable but she's probably quite sensitive to mood.

One thing I know from my own experience with my dd is that YOU cannot be responsible for HER mental well-being. Of course you will want to be extra careful and make sure she has appropriate support, but at the end of the day YOUR support for herxanbe at its strongest when you are strong - and that might be about finding your own space and place, rather than staying with WB, after all, was he thinking about the best for dd and her stability when he knowingly, consciously took out a credit card and got into debt?

Whenever you've got time (away from the ginger one) we could have a walk on the beach, a long chat, and a hunt for sea-glass.... how about it?

ma You are absolutely not spineless. All of us on the bus are at least trying even if, like me, you are failing pathetically.
At least we’re trying and that means that we’re not spineless.

Hi all. Just popping in to say I managed 4AF days last week but then fell off the bus and have drunk for 4 days in a row. Need to climb back on. Will post more later. Big hugs to all.

Ruby well done on 4 days. The great thing about this bus is that you can jump on and off as many times as you like. It will always be here

mrshoolie will you just step back at look at yourself???you came on here in desperate straits and suicidal. And here you are, not only sorting out your detox and seeing your dcs, but holding out helping hands to others! You rock,babe. Have an Opal fruit. ( the highest accolade)

Erm, I dont want to spook anyone unnecessarily but it is getting near Halloween and......does anyone know where Horrid Baby Doll is?

Don't know about a horrid baby doll ma but I'm here!
This cold virus shite has floored me. I've been dragging myself into work and going home and sleeping, including the whole weekend. On one hand it's shite on the other there's no way in hell I feel like a drink.
Hello all, will try and catch up when I'm not so zombie like!
to you all .

Ma is right MissHoolie ou have made such a great start to your new life I could shower you in Opal fruits confetti style!

Mint You poor love, is it one of those fluey cold things that make you feel like your dying? Takes a while to feel better, lots of rest and fluids for you.

Hope everyone else is doing ok - watch out for Horrid baby Doll!

mint hope you feel better soon.
venus a sea glass trip would be lovely. Im on the road a lot with work and collecting for Poppy Scotland the next few weekends so God knows when!

The oldies on the bus will know all about Horrid Baby Doll and her glassy eyed stare. She was last seen in the art and crafts trunk at the back of the bus. .....

If that road takes you to Berks Ma give me a shout

I will lux.Spent an utterly magical night at Windsor castle a few years back...will never forget it.. so atmospheric..

Yes it's lovely. They hold beautiful public services in the chapel, I love to hear the choir

Good shopping too (priorities)

Evening all - Opal fruits are one of the most saliva inducing sweets possible - its like that game of eating a sugared doughnut without licking your lips...

Back to AF here - start of my third week of AF week days - still having wine at the weekend but overall intake is down and to be honest the wine at the weekend wasn't as good as it used to be. That said it was interesting how easy I went from "hmm not sure, ok will have some on Friday" to " Saturday morning - much nicer to wake up AF rather than this" but then by Sunday night - "yeah I'll have a wine". So the bus tricks about pushing back and distraction are the way forward for me I think.

Off to catch up on thread so far... will be back later

Book club tonight I usually get lifts there and back but tonight I just drove myself so no alcohol. Could murder a glass now but not going to.

Think I’ve been having a snooze in the back row but have just caught up with you all. We have been away on Grandparent duty this weekend which was fun out pretty full on. I’ve drunk every day but not been drunk and am keeping up my moderation, even if it could be more moderate it’s much less than it was. Need to have some AF free days this week to really be back on board but am reasonably content.
MsHoolie you’re doing amazingly just stay with it. Mint hope you feel better soon. How are you Guggenheim?

I drank too much this weekend. Feeling angry with myself. AF today, itchy and I know I will have the night sweats again. I'm sick of waking up on a Monday morning feeling like shit and still half pissed.

Need to try harder

Morning, hope everyone is ok ?

Razor - how was your night - I hope not too bad and you're feeling better for an AF night?

MsHoolie I think today is your meeting? If so I hope it goes really well and you feel like you've made a giant step forward later today.

My sleep patterns have been all over the shop but last night managed 6 1/2 hours straight and have woken up feeling pretty good so am really pleased with that and long may it continue (or more realistically may my blips be infrequent!!)

Morning all, too many to namecheck.

On day 2 here today after a few weeks clinging on in the sidecar. I'm going for ODAAT, I just can't get into the mindset that I'll never drink again, so will see how it goes. I know I need to seriously cut down and I know that I don't have a functioning off switch.

Lots to do today, planning a craft workshop I'm running in a couple of weeks, so I'll keep busy.
mshoolie hope you're ok, good luck with the meeting today.

This might sound strange so bear with me but yesterday I went to dd (9) parent teacher meeting. Nothing out of the ordinary maybe but a massive achievement for me as this is the first one I went to 4 years. (Dh went last few years but never took in any useful info!) The reason I haven't felt able to go in last few years has been due to alcohol, not that I was drinking from early afternoon onwards but due to the depressive nature of alcohol.That nagging voice, the teachers don't want to see you, you have nothing to offer, you will embarrass your child,you are too fat, people will be disgusted at how much you have let yourself go etc etc.. Now I am still fat but that doesn't lessen my worth as a parent or even a decent human being, this last month of being alcohol free ( and thanks for your congrats on that especially Spanna and her pompoms!) has really shown me the fog that I was under.Drinking to forget, self-medicate ,sleep, numb, to try and out brazen my feelings,see down my demons worked for a few hours (when I was knocked out on the sofa)but and its a big but, made me feel entirely worthless the next day....
Don't get me wrong, I am not skipping merrily through life without a care in the world but I am slowly getting better.

And as for the other parents yesterday? Like me they just wanted to be in and out as quickly as possible except for that annoying "super mum" who brings a notebook and list of questions..... There's always one!

Anyway, thanks Brave Babes, everyone of you. Your honesty is truly inspiring and your journeys epic!

what an awesome post Real - thanks one to print out and keep for those moments where the nagging voice tries to take up space in your head.

thats not thanks !

Hi all - just popping in to see how everyone's doing
I was AF last night - DP told me this morning how much nicer it is when I don't drink so I'm gonna try again tonight - I'm definitely on the ODAAT approach at the moment but feeling more positive.
Hope you're doing well MsHoolie
Get well soon mint
for all babes just because we can!!

X

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