The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

[Mouseface]

Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

HA I have suffrered health anxiety too it’s rubbish.

Been itching today so of course it’s full blown liver disease x

doris I like brewdog Nanny State

thats great you have alternative drink choices. The advice often given on here is push back on the 1st drink as much as you can - if you know you have a danger zone time wise, try to pre-empt that by doing something different during that time - go for walk, have a bath, clean the skirting boards, post on here.

Do you have dc? a DP?

Health anxiety sucks by the way!

I was drinking far too much. Since Climbing on here I have cut out mid week drinkingtge last couple of weeks.

The first few nights I couldn't sleep, now i can forget about wanting a drink. I have still had a drink or 3 at the weekend but it doesn't feel like it is my whole life anymore. Good luck to you new bus person xxx

Baked Welcome. I’m not in the best place to give advice as I’ve been knocking back about 200 units a week for the last couple of weeks. I see my role on the bus as being for people to be able to say ‘Well, at least I’m not as bad as her’.
Seriously, stick around, we’re a lovely bunch.

Hey MsHoolie how are you doing tonight?

myrtle Thanks. I’m surviving. My DPs are coming back up tomorrow. I have to go to this meeting on Tuesday and then I can start my detox. At least I got to see the DC today so, all in all, I think things are getting better.

Good luck mshoolies. Full on admiration for you. Good luck for the meeting Tuesday.

Day 2 af today. Dc birthday yesterday and weather meant plans were ruined so did plan b. Actually think the kids had fun but was stressful. I decided I wouldn't drink yesterday of all days (again...) as Dc doesn't need it.

I have had periods af this year 2 triggers for me - telling people I am not drinking. Can not work this one out. Feel such huge shame at having a drink problem and I really do have one.

1. When drinking I have highs when drunk which are fun. And big lows. Shame at what I've done. Worry about the consequences - health is a huge one for me because of alcohol. Liver damage or increased cancer risks.

But when not drinking I still have the lows but no highs. I start feeling quite low. Like many of you I see I've worked in mental health so know what to do to help self but I never get far enough down the road to start feeling better.

Anyway another attempt today. Was reading yesterday - also eating disorder history here. Wonder why that one is so common?

Anyway hello. Just off for a run to try to get those feel good feelings another way.

spanna no idea on the employment thing Im afraid..are you looking for a new job?
Doris having a child in the house is hugely stressful however you acquired it! Can you ask dp to help you to reduce your drinking?
Welcome beans. Climb aboard and see if there might be a spare Opal Fruit under one of the seats.
Has anyone seen mint recently. Also a big shout out to dubh wherever she is

Morning everyone

Morning beans. Am stillin bed as quite frankly cant be arsed getting up.

Morning Beans and everybody, only just got out of bed, the bliss of the bed to myself with coffee and crumpets and the radio - my luxury!
Hope everybody has a happy sober Sunday and if not sober at least as calm and moderate as you can manage.

Doris that sounds really tough have you spoken to DH about how you're feeling? Fostering is not easy, I have 2 lots of friends who foster and it really depends on the children as to how difficult it can be. My heart goes out to you my love you need to talk about it with him and express how you feel. X
Thank you Ma I've got a few things in the pipeline (one involves therapeutic rabbits ) I'm a bit worried about applying for new stuff with this on my work record
Welcome Baked good to have you onboard
I'm half way to Southampton just waiting for my mum and we'll be on our way. DD2's full of nerves but once we're there she'll be fine. Catch up with you all later. Happy Sunday all, the weather is so much better than yesterday and the drive was ok

Theraperutic rabbits? I can't imagine [grin ]

Oh I fancy coffee and crumpets as well. Back to work tomorrow after a lovely week off. Can’t bear the thought of 5 days of Work yawning ahead of me.

Not the rampant variety Lux

How is everyone? Been a shit day and am drinking wine. Sorry Babes

Ma what's up? And don't you dare apologise!

ma As I’ve said, my role is to be the most hopeless person on the bus - although hopefully not permanently. I’ve drunk the best part of a bottle of gin today. What’s up?

Oh, just the whole dh thing.and money....and wanting to be free of it but feeling unable to break free. He seems totally oblivious to how he has fucked up and I need out. But dd1 has mental health issues and it will really cause her huge stress if we divorce. Im never going to get away..
mrshoolie you are not hopeless. At lest you are being proactive.I am utterly spineless

Evening ladies!

Ma no apology needed for drinking wine, so am I. I'm in a similar situation, no kids in the mix though as they're grown and gone, but I despise him, know I should go but somehow it's so hard. He'll turn on the tears, tell he how much he loves me, conveniently forget the totally unwarranted screaming abuse he subjected me to last weekend. I'll feel like an absolute cow. What I have done though is get my ducks in a row, I have my own bank account (I see you've opened one) and am squirrelling money away. I've checked out rental properties who will take a dog locally. I've checked out storage places. I know what money I have immediately available. I may not leave just yet, but I feel so so much better knowing I could tomorrow if I needed to.
MsHoolie you are doing well. Keep on keeping on.
for you both.

Massive hugs babes, be brave. No one is stuck in crap jobs or relationships for ever, things change. Ma, talk to your dd, begin to drop hints and be very honest when she says how she feels. She may surprise you.

Spanna, wish the bus had a lawyer for you. Would you accept Barrie in a wig?

misshoolie I'm going to start calling you on saying that you are the worst or most difficult member of the bus. Nope,you're having a shitting time now but it's going to get better soon,however slowly.

doris it's entirely normal to find children unrelentingly hard- and it's really,really ok to feel like that. Lots of us mums use alcohol to create a but of head space when kids have just been noisy and in your face all day long. I love my children very much but crickey, they are HARD. Trouble with the drinking to get away from kids approach is that it makes me really snappy with the kids and in the long run that' s harder. Wonder what else you can do? Nice night out? Gardening? Long walk by yourselves?

I'm doing alright lovely babes. Mostly af. Toddler isn't sleeping and I'm shattered but alcohol definitely won't help with screaming infants so I'm much better off without it.

Guggs is right Ma your DD1 may actually realise how unhappy you are, children (young adults) are much more clued up than we give them credit for, you could even talk to her about what their dads done (gambling, running up debt) so that she realises why you feel like you do. Another year will pass and another and another, you need to think of yourself, it's not like you'll be disappearing off the face of the earth. It's him who should leave not you

Guggs maybe Barrie in a wig could work