The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Also Doris you will probably find that the 'stuff' you have going on contributes to the drinking, talking it out can lead to breakthroughs which are helpful.
when I started on this journey, reading other peoples stories, sharing my own helped me see more clearly and finally take control of my life.

I drank because I was escaping my shitty day to day life - lack of money, crap relationship with an abusive joy-sucker, that led to me being a less than ideal parent (constantly trying to keep the house peaceful until I couldn't see dd was being a normal kid) numbing myself with wine to try to relax (and endure sex with a man I started to hate) in turn I became unhealthy and my looks went blurgh.

Being here has bolstered me, to be among people who understand. I gained strength to leave Mr Lux, now have more money, a peaceful house and a great, close relationship with my gorgeous daughter. Now, I have no need to escape, to numb.

Sorry, that became a bit self indulgent but the gist is talking things over, writing your thoughts can lead to massive lightbulb moments.

So yeah, (shut up now Lux) as spanna says, crack on and say what you like!

Doris I think as we both first posted about the same time, maybe at the same stage of drinking, we could support each other and have the brilliant support people posting here. I posted last night after a few drinks feeling ashamed about doing so but I know I need help.Please don't hold back in saying what you need to. Know, it'll help to let it out. X

So uplifting to welcome the new Babes and celebrate the "old". I just dont know where I would be without these amazing women. They are a huge part of my life. Its not just the dri king, its the support with everything! I have met 3 in real life - Venus, Indie and hope

Evening - I've started on a mammoth reading of the Brave's Bus journey from the first JWN post - its so motivational (but may take me till Christmas!!)

HAHelp wow, you have a lot of reading ahead! Join in if you feel it's something you need, always a warm welcome here.

ma hope seeing your friend helped a bit, if you ever find yourself down Berkshire way, maybe near the castle on your next date with the gorgeous auburn one, you could meet another babe! I know all the best coffee shops

I'm going to grab an early night as the telly is crap tonight, so I'll wish everyone a peaceful night and lots of strength to those who need it.

thanks Lux! I've posted a couple of times over the last week or so but not yet anything regularly - and I need a spreadsheet to remember everyone! have a good night

HA you have an epic amount to read through all of the threads, it's really insightful and you'll get a lot from it Please don't worry about remembering everyone - we don't get offended if we're not mentioned, there are too many of us to name call every time Just enjoy the ride and post whenever you want to. No-one will judge you here - we've all been there, done that, and (guess what) got the Tshirt sorry I think I'm really funny today and I am so not

Right Babes, do we have any employment lawyers onboard? I need some help about my treatment surrounding this disciplinary that's happened. I've been googling and I think I may have a case for constructive dismissal (although I haven't resigned yet) on the grounds of the time it's taken and the time delay between the aggrieved making her statement and my investigative interview and then the final meeting, when I received a Final Written Warning. I don''t want to appeal the decision because, it did happen, it was against the policies and procedures and I'll probably end up with a dismissal if I go along that route -this post will probably 'out' me but I don't give a toss Please someone help me if you can x

Forgot to say that neither of us were suspended after the altercation and we should have been. We've just spent a very difficult 2 months sharing the same office (we're not in it all the time) but it's been very stressful She has no idea that I've been through a formal disciplinary and is now acting like my new best friend since she had no choice but to speak to me about something at work (having been ignoring each since the incident)
Over and out. Night all x

Thanks so much spanna lux lapena and all other babes ... i guess it might help to write it down so apologies in advance if this is a bit lengthy....
So..... I've always enjoyed a drink, sometimes more than others but generally been able to moderate. In the last year or so my moderation has waned and now I know I definitely have a bit - or maybe a lot - of an issue. A few people have commented on my drinking so I know it must be obvious even though I like to kid myself I'm just normal.
I have the most amazing DP in the world - he is my absolute rock and I can't imagine life without him but about 9 months ago our lives were turned upside down when we became foster parents. It's is so unbelievably hard - far harder than I ever imagined or was told it would be and all you parents have my utmost admiration. The crux of it is that now I feel massively sidelined as all DP's time and energy goes into looking after FC - but then I also feel massively guilty as poor FC has had such an awful life and is only 6. So, then I drink - I know it doesn't make it better - in fact it probably makes it worse - but I do it anyway. And now I've got to thinking maybe I just want to be on my own again - so my house would be my own without all the shit everywhere, I could have a bath without being surrounded by toys, there wouldn't be endless washing, ironing and dishes to be done and I could just watch whatever i want on tv. I even think maybe if I was in my own I wouldn't even want to drink as I'd be relaxed enough without it....
But then that makes me feel awful too because I love DP so much - so why am I wanting to be without him?
And most of all I want to be able to have a drink - and then stop - like I used to ..... and be normal....

I went home this evening with DB and his GF. DS2 literally threw himself at me whereas DS1 who is 17 virtually ignored me. DH went to the pub with DB and his GF and said he would be half an hour. An hour and a half later, he still wasn’t back so I came back to the B&B.
I sent him a text saying that he was obviously more interested in spending time with my DB than he was with his wife.
I’m back with DB and his GF. I’m not feeling too great tbh.

MsHoolie I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Remember that 17 year olds can be difficult to understand while their brains are still going through so much transformation. Glad to hear DS2 threw himself at you. You've made brilliant progress and have more to look forward to with the detox starting soon.

I've just got back from a wedding, having driven. Even though DH offered to drive instead, I stuck to my guns. I would normally chug a couple of glasses of the bubbly offered on the way in to ease the nerves, then carry on all night. But, after the first 45 mins or so I realised that everyone else was so pissed my social anxiety all but melted on its own! I even danced (badly)!

mshoolie you have taken an amazing and brave step. Please don't be too downhearted - your dc's will deal with things in their own ways and all will come right in the end. I want to be able to say something helpful about DH but don't really know what to advise so in the absence of words please accept

Is it ok if I say hello?

I drink too much. But it’s ok, it’s only a Friday and Saturday. Better buy a box eh, make sure it lasts. Oh and a bottle, so I can alternate glasses out of that, so it doesn’t look like I am tanking either a whole box or a whole bottle.

Jeez that was a stressful Thursday. Maybe I’ll buy that box early. And an extra bottle.

Oh hello Sunday. Oh I need a glass of red with my dinner! Might as well polish off the rest of the white now eh.

But it’s ok I only drink Fridays and Saturdays. Can’t do much damage over 2 nights eh.

Sorry if that wasn’t the done thing for a first post.

I need to control my drinking. This is the first time I have openly expressed I have a problem even though I have internalised it for years now.

What’s stupid is the thing I am most scared of is how I will feel missing out on wine on nights out. I go out about 3 times a year! I need to get over that fear.

How come it was so easy to not drink when I was pregnant? Why can’t I treat myself with the same care I did my children, who need me?

Hi baked I'm with you x

Hello Doris x

Jeez what a mess

Oh I should add I am also morbidly obese. Years of flinging empty calories down my throat will do that eh.

Baked it's not a mess - it is what it is and we are all here to help each other

hey Baked hey Doris - I'm around too if you want to chat

Hi HA x

So today/tomorrow is Sunday so its a non drinking day - yes? What do you differently on a Sunday when you feel like a drink than you do on a Thursday/Friday/Saturday?

Hi ha how are you doing?

I can't really help much - I drink Becks blue even though I wouldn't normally choose beer x

I'm okay thanks Doris - although having a bit of health anxiety attack tonight - a repeat of the one I had the first time I posted! (hence name). I have longish thick hair and have been running hands through it tonight and have "lost" hairs - maybe 15/20 - across whole head. I'm now spinning off into a world of liver disease. I know that on average people lose 50 -150 hairs a day and I hadn't notice losing a lot earlier today but I think thats the way with health anxiety - you don't notice whats normal, find something (a symptom) and fixate massively... I've solved the issue by putting hair into a bun so I can't fiddle with it...

Caffeine free earl grey. I have run out and the shop didn’t have any today :(

Or soda water and lime cordial