The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Way to go Heman. You may wear the Smock of Smug.
I'm meeting a friend for coffee today lux and a good chat. I just cant believe how cheerful DH is being.After he tried to deny the card "What card?"and then realised the game was up I got tears and "Im so sorry" etc. Now, its as if it doesnt matter any more and we're fine. We are so fucking not fine.

I'm glad you are seeing a fried today Ma it might help you straighten your thoughts to talk it out. Fuck a moose though (!!), he is in some denial isn't he?
I recognise that to some degree, my ex always thought things were 'back to normal' after a giant fuck-up was discovered or admitted.

Fried - Friend

Lux 'fried's' good tis what I want to do to Ma's H right now

Really weird weather here - it looks like it's snowing at the moment, thank you for the Brian warning - I've got to drive to Southampton tomorrow for DD2 gymnastics comp and I get really anxious about driving in storms and the dark. Oh and now the sun's come out WTF!

Ma enjoy your time with you friend

Herman you go girl sounds like you had fun - sober dancing is quite an experience isn't it?!!! I really enjoy it now I've got used to it - not that I go out dancing often - always feel like the granny amongst the young Little steps Herman make all the difference and the milestones are so worth it. Changing habits is really hard

Mint how are you feeling lovely?

Dub are you lurking honey - hope all ok with you x

I'm being an efficient spanna today - I've got roast squash and a roast chicken in the oven already - I'm going to make chickpea, squash and lentil curry. And I'm going to get every last morsel of meat off this chicken and use it for different dishes - no wasting any of it I've really noticed the increase in the price of food and it's scaring me!!!

Happy Saturday one and all Oh it's now pissing with rain again

Lapena Welcome. I said in an earlier post that, while I ‘ve never had a full blown eating disorder, I certainly had ‘disordered eating’ and a very dysfunctional relationship with food for years but have now done a virtual straight swap for alcohol.
I briefly worked in eating disorders and it was surprisingly common to see people who’d managed to get off drugs or alcohol and then developed an eating disorder.
There is a lot of research that says that there is no such thing as an addictive personality but I really believe there is.
One thing I’ve noticed about this thread and Mumsnet in general is the tendency to say ‘sorry about the me post’.
I think it’s a female thing to apologise for taking up people’s time. I have seen posts from people who are clearly going through hell adding a ‘sorry for the me me post’.
These threads were started by JWN and, to begin with, they were all about her because her life was completely falling apart but I very much doubt that anyone was thinking ‘You selfish cow, banging on about yourself’. People genuinely wanted to help.
All of us are sometimes in the situation of needing help and, when we’re in a better place, we are able to help others.
I know that, through my job, I have helped a lot if people when they were at the lowest point of their life. Right now, I need help even if I struggle with that.

Heman I am in total awe of you. I know for certain that I could never do sober dancing.

MsHoolies I've only read this thread- none of the others- but...

You rock!

1 month af today. Not really sure how I feel about it, the road ahead seems very long.....

Ma

Radley I really don’t rock (well only backwards and forwards while crying) but thank you.

Real a month is mint! I've only done four days so far- so you're my next target! 😁

Morning everyone - hope those in the path of Brian are suitably warm and cosy today.

I had wine last night (planned - my original intention was to moderate & only drink at the weekend) - and it was a bit meh... In hindsight I'm not sure I particularly wanted it and so am now back to day 1 and thinking that I'll just see how it goes and not necessarily stick to the weekend drinking.... I've got quite used to my cranberry and sparkling water and a ovaltine/horlicks (can't remember which I've got!) before bed. I didn't feel terrible waking up this morning but I did immediately think - oh it was nicer waking up yesterday...

Radley glad your DH spoke to brother re Christmas
Real congratulations on a month!
Spanna enjoy the cooking - sounds delicious
Ma hope you're managing ok with fall out from 'd'h's shenanigans
Heman sounds like a fabulous night was had
Ms waves lovely!

Sorry to anyone I've missed and here's to a good day for all

Morning! Oof. This sober sleep lark has meant I've only just woken up. We are going out for a family get together at lunchtime . Why am I sat here MNetting ? I'm pondering over whether to have a glass or two of wine with my meal today. See if I can moderate like a Normal Person and not get completely blootered, making a twat of myself. It would be a nice thing to do. Hmmmmm. Not sure. Might just see how I feel when I get there rather than make a big thing of it. I'm in danger of blowing it out of proportion in my head and flipping my massive FUCK IT switch.

I must say, the concert we went to was Marc Almond. It was all middle aged people . So no feeling like a granny spanna! We all ran down to the stage and I almost got crushed by a stampede of middle aged men. I took a photo of the crowd and it was a sea of bald heads. Heehee!

I hope you have a good meet up with your friend ma .

Herman I nearly choked on me sarnie reading that

still giggling now, thank you

YAY Real ONE MONTH that is a huge achievement Can you write down the differences between one month ago and how you're feeling now? It's a really good reference to go back to if you feel tempted

Hoolies how are you doing lovely? Are you still with your DB? I hope you're all wrapped up and being kind to yourself

The winds getting bad here now, just been out to the shop and alot of the oldies are struggling to get about, bless 'em The sea is wild, should churn up some treasures tomorrow

The 'Fuck It' button is very easy to press and can just take a split second, it can be very tempting at times, but before you do it, just take 60 seconds to think about how the film will end. For me is was NEVER a pretty sight.

Cold and rainy here in Scotland but no sign of Brian yet. Am making soup then taking mum to visit dad in the care home. Should lift the spirits no end!!

Sorry for being thick...who is Brian?

Brian is the BIG STORM we are due to have hurricane Brian

Day 42 here. Still enjoying life AF and so far it hasn't been too much of an uphill struggle. Always the same for me though - I get distracted, the reasons for stopping drinking move into the middle distance and I start thinking it will be okay if I have 'one'. It won't, of course!

Dystopian 42 days is fucking awesome.
I am still with DB and his GF in a different AirBnb place which is absolutely fabulous. If I won the lottery, I’d move in here permanently.
As lovely as they are, I do feel like a bit of a gooseberry at times as they are so all over each other - or rather she’s all over him. They are both in their 40’s but it feels like being with a pair of teenagers. We were watching TV last night and she was literally draped over him, stroking his hair.
But I am so grateful to them, they’ve paid for all of this. She has Bi Polar so I think she genuinely does have some understanding of what I’m going through.
DD came to see me for a few hours this afternoon which went really well.
I’m going to go home really briefly this evening to see DS2 who has been crying on the phone to me for the last 4 days that he wants me to come back.
I have my meeting on Tuesday and then I can start my detox. I have cut down quite a bit but I’m still on about 20 units a day but, a week ago, I was on 30-40.
The woman who took my bloods was lovely and said that it’s really common for people to trundle along for years at a ‘functioning’ level and then for things to spiral out of control really rapidly.

Great progress mrshoolie

Thank you Ms Hoolie and you sound so positive. Thank you to all of those who replied to me last night as well. Congratulations to those doing well! I don't think anybody who hasn't been through this can fully understand what an achievement it is not to drink...so I think you're all amazing! I am so determined to get through this and now am so glad I posted.

spanna I love your posts - you are so insightful and just know exactly what to say
I'm in such a weird place today - I have had a couple of drinks although I keep telling myself I don't want / need to .....
I think my biggest struggle at the moment is home life - there's so much I want to get off my chest but I know you all have your own issues so I don't want to be a burden ....
Maybe can you let me know if it's ok to share some stuff?

Doris say whatever you like, this lot saw me through my separation

Doris thank you that's really nice of you to say Right my lovely, please listen when I say, you can spill as much as you want to on this 'ere bus, that is what it's here for, please don't ever feel that you can't say what's on your mind. One of us will have been through or going through what you're going through We've probably got over 400 years worth of life experiences between us - some similar and some completely different. The one thing we all have in common is our problem with booze - after all, this is why we were all brave enough to post for the first time I've been on a long old journey here on Gerald (nowhere near as long as some of our other babes) I think it's over 3 years now!!!! What I have realised is that I can't drink normally like other people, I can't moderate - tried that, I don't see the point in having one glass of wine with my dinner - it's just not the way I'm programmed. I am an 'all or nothing' girl, simple! My 'fuck it' button is currently out of order and will not be repaired anytime soon