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Ungrateful sod or fair enough??

101 replies

Filly46 · 07/09/2017 18:28

My DP of one year has just had his 33rd birthday. As part of his gift I spent over £100 on tickets for both of us to attend a sports game I knew he would love. I spent ages online trying to get the best seats and spent time on creatively presenting them as a gift. (Decorated American football with the date of the event, teams etc)
Upon opening the gift he told me that he already had plans to go with his friends (I had no idea).
The game is a month away and they haven't even got to the stage of buying tickets. It's just been loosely arranged that they will plan on going.
He's told me sorry but he's already told his friends he will go with them and perhaps I can sell the tickets online instead to someone else.
I feel like a complete idiot as the gift was such an anti climax and I felt embarrassed.
I suggested maybe we could meet his mates at half time for a drink instead but he has refused.
Am I right to feel let down/upset by this?

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TheSparrowhawk · 07/09/2017 18:29

What a mean dick? Why can't you both just meet his friends there??

SilverySurfer · 07/09/2017 18:29

Definitely ungrateful. Still, you know what to buy him next year - nothing.

TheSparrowhawk · 07/09/2017 18:30

That should say what a mean dick!

knowsmorethansnow · 07/09/2017 18:30

Go with a friend of yours and be really smug they will probably have crap tickets if they get any and enjoy it yourself.

lampert · 07/09/2017 18:30

At the very least he should offer to take the two tickets and buy additional for his mates; but honestly I'd hope he'd be nice enough to do as you suggested and go with you and meet his mates for a drink!!

I'm sure my DH would do that, unless he'd already told me previously that he was going with mates.

differentlife · 07/09/2017 18:31

Go with a friend & buy him a pair of socks instead.

Whisky2014 · 07/09/2017 18:32

Take a friend and go yourself.

Whisky2014 · 07/09/2017 18:32

And yeh i think he's ungrateful

Belindaboom · 07/09/2017 18:34

LTB

donajimena · 07/09/2017 18:35

Go with a friend and hope and pray that he doesn't get tickets. Do not give in if he changes his mind. You are not second best.
Take lots of selfies and send them to him. If you haven't dumped him by then.

donajimena · 07/09/2017 18:36

I don't think you mean as much to him as he does to you though.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 07/09/2017 18:37

Think your so called partner will find that these NFL games are already sold out (the two taking place at Twickenham and one at Wembley are indeed sold out. The Ravens v Jaguars tickets went on sale today).

I would go myself with a friend and consider on a wider level whether you still want him to be your boyfriend or not. Ungrateful sod indeed.

Ikeameatballs · 07/09/2017 18:39

Exactly what donajimena said.

ReanimatedSGB · 07/09/2017 18:40

It is ungrateful, but I also think perhaps he does not consider himself your DP/soulmate/future husband and found the gift a little OTT.
Are you a fan of this sport, and have you ever expressed any interest in it prior to this gift? If not, then I can see how he might not have been as pleased as you hoped. It could have felt as though you were being the sort of klingon partner who couldn't let him do anything with his mates unless you could tag along. Everybody needs time off from their partner: to insist on following someone about and accompanying them everywhere is not really healthy.

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Filly46 · 07/09/2017 18:44

I have no clue about American football. I just thought it would be a day out that he would enjoy being that it is for his birthday. Would it not be more odd if I got him tickets to something I enjoyed but knew he would be bored to tears doing? I was not trying to stop him spending time with his friends as I had no idea this was even an activity they had planned...

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Nuttynoo · 07/09/2017 18:48

They are definitely sold out. Go with a friend instead and use them as an excuse for a proper weekend in London. Then dump your DP.

Whisky2014 · 07/09/2017 18:49

Omg please go with a friend and when he realises he can't get tickets he will come mooching back to you. Please say no!
Even if you don't know anything about it, it will still be good fun. Good atmosphere etc etc!

Original poster
Filly46 · 07/09/2017 18:50

Apparently his friend has "links" to get tickets. Let's see then...

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JK1773 · 07/09/2017 18:50

Go yourself with a friend and make a weekend of it. What an ungrateful pillock. I'd be upset by that reaction

Walkacrossthesand · 07/09/2017 18:51

Prepare for him to sidle up to you when he finds tickets are sold out, angling to go with you or even take one of his friends with the 'spare' ticket. I hope you find someone to go with as suggested above. He's not covered himself in glory here, has he

PringlesPirate · 07/09/2017 18:53

Sell the tickets and don't get him anything else.

allinclusive · 07/09/2017 18:53

Or sell them, make a profit and then go out with the money on the same day as the game.

letsdolunch321 · 07/09/2017 18:54

What an ungrateful man.

No consideration of how long it took you to organise. Me, me, me syndrome

expatinscotland · 07/09/2017 18:54

I'd probably flog them and go do something else with the money.

donajimena · 07/09/2017 18:55

Trust me you will have an amazing time at an American Football game. You may never go again but the atmosphere and experience is worth it. Please go with a friend.

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