So, im engaged to be married to a handsome man, i have a loving son with him who is coming two and we are due to get married early December this year.
I dont know where to begin.
Everything was perfect for the first 4 years until are son came along. I noticed my partner become distant. He drank more he lied about going drinking, if he was drinking it wasnt classified as "going out" because he was at a bar not a nightclub but every night he disappeared away to the night club, stumbling in at 5:30-6am. It came to the point where he just wasnt telling me or talking to me. He came home from work most days and sat on his phone never communicating or helping a hand with the child. Any time I go to go out with the girls he texts me none stop asking when will i be home even makes up lies that the child is sick. For example i was on my best friends hen party i hadnt been out in over a year with the girls as i was pregnant. So he texted me and called me saying the child had the mumps i went into panic mode, told him to bring him to the out of hours doctor, he kept changing the subject. I texted my mum and she texted me back saying all is fine go enjoy yourself. I turn around at the bar..... and there he is. so basically he made up a lie so i would come hom and he bcause i didnt come home he had to see what i was doing. I was fuming.
Then one day i found countless messages back and forward to a girl..i confronted to him about it and even though i seen them with my own eyes he lied to me swear on my childs life he never seen them and stormed off making me feel like the guilty one. He later deleted the messages. I later found out that a girl wrote to him saying " i fell out with your girlfriend today, forgot you had two." Once i confronted this he again denied all. I think it was about here when my trust broke. I couldnt prove that he was lying about cheating but I had that gut feeling. Fast forward a year or two, and we are due to get married.
However, ive just found out he now has loads of debts and black listed which means we can not get onto the property ladder. The man is nearly into his 30s and hasnt saved a penny and has no intentions of. You see he sees money and spends it on drink. Ive lost count of how many nights i have sat in alone while he enjoys his social life. Its came apart of our relationship now that he basically enjoys himself and doesnt invite me. For example we had tickets for a game and i over heard him saying if we cant get a babysitter she can stay behind. This annoyed me because i never get out or enjoy myself. I feel trapped.
In a heat argument he turned around to me and said ( in front of people) " i cant even see us making past the 5 year marriage"
Often our arguments can be nasty, name calling the odd physical slap or two.
He once mocked my breasts in front of people while drunk... " how they hang to the side" i am a thin woman however once i feel pregnant they grew from an A cup to a DD. He knows I was extremely hurt by this comment as I'm very sensitive about them.. yet he still hasn't apologised.
To be honest i feel like I'm a nanny who minds his kid until he feels like spending quality time with him.I have gave him countless chances and i am on my last nerve. Im sick of missing out and living my life just because i have a child.
My question is... from that story cut down,
Do you think i should walk away for my childs sake or what.