Just had a massive argument with my oh about something that has been an issue for some time.
The thing is he works nights and i work days so we only have a few hours in the evening together. The issue is that he wants to have sex during some of this time nearly every day i may add. Which in itself is not the problem but my ds aged 7 from previous relationship is around at this time. O/h thinks its fine to leave him watching tv while we sneak upstairs. Sometimes i will do but i never feel relaxed always listening for the stairs creaking. Tonight ds sneaked up and i only heard as he was approaching the door and i had to jump up and put my dressing gown on. O/h was not happy at getting disturbed and seems to think i should be able to tell ds to stay downstairs while we are doing this and that he should do as he is told. I dont see how i can do this without him questioning why or perhaps telling others about us needing to go upstair while he stays downstair. I understand that because of our work its difficult to find time but its becoming very stressful and making me feel anxious and quite angry tbh. Am i the one in the wrong here? Does anyone else have a similar issue and if so how do they manage?