#4 He's gone to Athens to be with her

[worldupsidedown]

So, that's it then. He's left to meet her in Athens. He's read my note but I've not had any reply yet

When you pack you leave for your love in Athens please take everything with you. PLEASE DO NOT RETURN

You checked out of this marriage when you decided to be with her instead of us and it is causing us too much pain to have you under our roof.

My daughter is too fragile to keep having you in our presence and I am trying to hold myself together for her.

Please do at least one honest thing and leave.

World - YOUR WIFE

Retail therapy sounded very enjoyable, DD dress looks love!y. Hope MIL visit not too stressful.

So he's presumably buying her £50 bunches of flowers (bit daft, before she goes away on holiday) and stuff from Fat Face?

I think he might have bought PE treatment not viagra, I know him well enough, he's not had much practice lately! As for the flowers, I think it was an international delivery. MIL hasn't had any flowers delivered!

Ah, so he's trying to impress her by sending flowers to her in Greece?
Or sucking up to her mum in advance?

Please don't drive yourself crazy checking up on what he's doing over there.
It's a horrible situation. And it's painful but his actions show he doesn't give a damn.
As bad as that sounds.
Do try focus on yourself and dd.
Go out loads! Get busy so you don't get time to check on him.
It will get easier over time. Take it hour by hour. X

Viagra is very likely, and predictable. He's got to impress her and kid himself he's still that virile young man 🙄 Experience tells me this is likely. Hidden in paracetamol packets. I flushed it, watching him panic and demand I give it back makes me smirk to this day.

Yeh, I know I shouldn't speculate, but I can't help it, if I can find answers I can keep moving forwards instead of dwelling on unknown. I've been messing about on you tube and stumbled on a Greek language lesson on informal and formal introductions, the translations are exactly what his scribbled notes are, formal and informal introductions, he's meeting friends/family. So far there's no further payment made on the credit card unless it's all going to go ping ping ping on Monday! I found this funny on YouTube too. DH is vegetarian!

Can you make some nice plans for yourself tomorrow? Have something to look forward to?

He don't eat no meat!

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Anyway, back to MIL

I picked her up from the station, when I got home I broke down in the car, told her how hurt I feel and other thoughts and emotions. She told me how I have got over 100% pride and admiration from her for how string I've been and how despicable he's been.

We had a coffee and chat, then I left her with DD for their talk together. Then we went for lunch. We avoided talking about DH, although mentioning him from time to time couldn't be avoided. I asked her if she would honour me by telling OW if she ever got her legs under their dinner table to understand how much hurt and pain she's caused. MIL said it would be a very very long time if ever that she would even set foot in their house. I told her I was really worried about the possibility of DH losing his job of this and the consequences for us if he did. She said not to worry as they have that covered for us without a doubt. I think a key thing is that DHs DD had so much trauma from his dad at a similar age to his DGD that he is probably appalled in his own sons behaviour. Mil said whatever happens, whatever the outcome she wants us, me, MIL & DD to remain a 'unit'. She gave DD a necklace which was handed to her at a similar age from her DGM.

Not that it matters as we all know shirty valentine is a fucking wankstain, but did you ever find out what 'c o a e b' stood for?

The necklace gift to DD is lovely. So very thoughtul and so right.

c o a e b, nope, that's not solved yet!

Just seen the update. How lovely for dd knowing her dgm is there for her. Hopefully mil will continue giving you both her support, especially as FDH's actions also impact on DD.

I got rid of the DP and kept my very much loved MIL.
She is amazing as far as we are concerned,

MIL is a keeper. Unlike her son.

What a lovely understanding MIL you have, knowing she's there for you and DD must give some comfort.

If FDH is meeting friends/family will they know the truth that he's married with a daughter? ....... doubt it.

Your MIL sounds wonderful, World. Xx

I'm so glad you got to chat properly to your mil.

Great support from mil, so glad they understand what your both going through.
Do what you want(especially how HE as treated you both, don't forget that) and don't be lead by mil .

Been awake early again, I hate the fact once I wake that's it. I'm feeling more angry at ow now too.

hi world.have you tried some gentle breathing exercises.some really good techniques ive found when I struggled with similar.that really brought me into my breathe and meant I could stay in bed?sometimes sounds silly to people but they have been a godsend to me.
I'm so glad your MIL was so supportive.this is going to be my inner insecure (bitch) coming out now but...just be wary sometimes.if it does come to it it can be very hard for a mother to continue to side with the "right side" this happened with us and like any mother she couldn't just abadon him no matter how much she despised his behaviour especially with him and his mooooaning in her earwhole. and things did unwittingly and not harshly meant spread from both sides and meant it got a little tricky in divorce.but I'm looking onto the bad side here because that what I do! she and you might be able to fully bypass this happening :)
she sounds great.stay strong.
ive forgotten previous post sorry but do you have your own job?what do you think your future could be like now.might be a nice aside to start thinking of so the other worries don't mount and take over your thoughts.

@worldupsidedown can you use the early rise to your advantage and go for a walk? I love an early morning walk & it improves my MH immensely

Turn it into a positive & start your day off doing something for you. My DC don't even realise I'm gone lol