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#4 He's gone to Athens to be with her

626 replies

worldupsidedown · 18/08/2017 02:58

So, that's it then. He's left to meet her in Athens. He's read my note but I've not had any reply yet

When you pack you leave for your love in Athens please take everything with you. PLEASE DO NOT RETURN

You checked out of this marriage when you decided to be with her instead of us and it is causing us too much pain to have you under our roof.

My daughter is too fragile to keep having you in our presence and I am trying to hold myself together for her.

Please do at least one honest thing and leave.

World - YOUR WIFE

OP posts:
worldupsidedown · 19/08/2017 08:18

Keeping an eye on the cc, there's no transactions since Thursday when other than train tickets, he paid for barbers, fat face, insurance (likely travel) an online/phone/mail order purchase with Health Bridgeand £50 manual/internet purchase with a florist

There's one transaction on our debit card for Pret, most likely breakfast at the airport.

So no transactions so far since his arrival in Athens

OP posts:
MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 19/08/2017 08:28

DD's dress is lovely. I'm glad you and her had some time together.

I can't believe he's still spending using cards either in your name or a joint debit card. He should get his own and pay for them himself!!

acatcalledjohn · 19/08/2017 08:32

Hi OP, I have been cheering you on from Lurkdom. He's a prize twat, but you and your DD sound fab! And your DD is learning one very important lesson: when you are cheated on you dump the bastard and move on.

With regards to the CC: Transactions often take a few days to appear. Keep an eye on the available balance reducing before the matching transactions get posted on the account.

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 19/08/2017 08:38

Health Bridge is the company that owns DrEd.com.

Do you know what that would've been regarding op?

On their description:

DrEd is a provider of telemedical services. DrEd allows patients to communicate with doctors by means of a consultation via video, telephone or questionnaire. A medical consultation and, if necessary, treatment can be carried out at home, from the office or on the road.

What is the idea behind DrEd?

DrEd is about access to medical services which is as accessible as possible and is guaranteed by quality. DrEd uses the instruments of modern communication technology to make people's access to medical care possible or to facilitate them. DrEd is an offer especially for those patients who have difficulties to be able to attend a doctor's appointment due to limited mobility or time commitments. For example, DrEd closes structural supply gaps, For example, in rural areas, and enables a close-to-contact doctor-patient contact. DrEd thus represents an up-to-date and supplementary supply policy-relevant supplement to conventional forms of care.

How does DrEd work?

Patients turn to DrEd's doctors with a specific medical concern and choose their preferred form of communication (video, telephone or questionnaire). The doctors decide whether a consultation, the continuation of an existing treatment or the beginning of a new treatment is medically indicated and can be carried out telemedically. If counseling / treatment is possible, patients receive treatment instructions in a patient account set up for them. If a prescription is issued, the patient receives the drug directly. The patient pays the treatment and receives an invoice. Our doctors also treat erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and hair loss as well as the sexually transmitted diseases chlamydia, genital warts and genital herpes.

If it's the last section - perhaps you should get tested op? Flowers

Hopefully it's hair loss and erectile dysfunction. Biological karma.

👿

Painfulpain · 19/08/2017 08:40

He can't actually be meeting her family??? Can't imagine they would be too impressed. It would just be too embarrassing at this stage??

Brenna24 · 19/08/2017 09:05

That is a lovely dress. I am glad you are managing to do some nice things with the weekend. I am also glad your solicitor is happy to go ahead with pushing for a divorce quickly. Rip the plaster off as fast as possible.

Nanna50 · 19/08/2017 09:12

Health Bridge is the company that owns DrEd.com

Viagra possibly? urgh he's such a cliche

jeaux90 · 19/08/2017 09:32

World you might want to post in the divorce/separation section. Or have another chat with your SHL as I think doing it on grounds of adultery is quite hard to prove and you run the risk of him refusing. You need hard evidence as in a child from the situation etc

There are a couple of solicitors that hang out on the divorce threads that often advice people of such things.

worldupsidedown · 19/08/2017 09:37

What about inoculations for Athens? I found a supdrug carrier in his bag with a paper bag, the type you get prescriptions in, it had a stick label with his name and address but no prescription details

OP posts:
MyOtherProfile · 19/08/2017 09:45

You don't need inoculations for Athens.

RhinoGirl · 19/08/2017 09:52

No you don't need inoculations for Athens. When is he due back, Monday? Be interesting to see if he comes straight home for his stuff.

Putyourhandsintheair · 19/08/2017 09:58

Morning World. You're doing brilliantly but maybe you need to not be following purchases and second guessing him. It will just torture you. You know where he is and who he is with. You have put everything in place re SHL that you can for now. Try to concentrate on being kind to yourself. Apart from MIL today what else have you got on? Can you do something just for yourself? Meet a friend for coffeee? See a film?
Don't get dragged in to discussions with MIL.
Your wellbeing and that of your DD is paramount and much more important on that Twat and what he's doing.

Stay strong

thegirlupnorth · 19/08/2017 10:07

Morning world glad you had a nice day yesterday.

Let's hope he's had to buy a job lot of viagra and it fails!!

He won't be penalised for spending money on YOW so try not to become too obsessed by that.

You know him very well and I think deep down he's a decent man so despite not acting like one the stress of this and the hurt he's caused himself and the shame will be enough to taint this relationship. Not to mention the irreparable damage to his relationship with DD.

Onwards and upwards. If you've got a gate close it and put a note on for milk man...tell him you're single and he can park his truck if he wants too!! WinkWinkWink

DianaMitford · 19/08/2017 10:10

Anyone else certain that one day his new "better" life is going to come crashing down around his ears? And when it does he'll panic at realising what he's lost. He's not in love, he's in lust and the minute the OW talks about having children, moving in together, getting married, he's going to realise what a HUGE mistake he's made.

mamalovesviolet · 19/08/2017 10:13

Just delurking to say if you google health bridge on credit card statement - it appears it is the Superdrug online prescription service provider.

Hope MIL visit goes ok.

ddrmum · 19/08/2017 10:34

Just in reply to Kitty - I got my decree absolute without the financials being sorted. His crap soliicitor had applied for home rights over my house & I needed the absolute to get this removed.
World - still in awe of your strength. Time to focus on you and what you & DD want/need. I agree with pp who have said there is much of this you can do without a solicitor to try to keep your costs down but so always get papers checked. Mr Shite Shirt will be very unhappy when he realises exactly what you 're entitled to which makes me think he has already had advice & ducks lined up. However, he hasn't thought that you are more than capable of ensuring you get sufficient advice to counter his - idiot. Def get the petition ready to go and use whatever you can as leverage, incl naming OW if he gets difficult. I would also looked for secret acvoubts/savings etc as he may not disclose these on Form E. Be careful with MIL but if she asks tell her the truth. Again, your DDs wellbeing (& yours) is paramount - use it whenever needed. I know that sounds brutal but it us nothing to what this man will do once the legals start. My exh sunk to depths I never knew existed but getting rid was the best days work ever. The best revenge? A life well lived. Do what makes you (&DD) happy.

innagazing · 19/08/2017 11:31

World, you are awesome!

Have a good day with Mil and remember to not mention anything that you're not happy to have passed on.

Have you got anything planned for tomorrow? Sunday lunch in a nice restaurant or pub is always appealing..

Love DD's new dress!

CandleWithHair · 19/08/2017 13:30

Ugh, guaranteed he's been buying viagra for his sordid little weekend. Still, on off chance it could be sti related OP have you considered testing?

Amazed at how well you're doing, and I hope you and DD are continuing to have a wonderful weekend together.

perper · 19/08/2017 14:10

onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/viagra.html

Boredbeforeievenbegan · 19/08/2017 14:25

He really is a cliche op, hope you are enjoying time with your dd Flowers

Teatowelfairy · 19/08/2017 14:29

It could simply be a prescription for jet lag tablets or traveller's diarrhoea.
Although I am entertaining myself with the thought of yow discovering the Viagra and drama unfolding, also hoping he comes down with a nasty bout of food poisoning and horrendous shits.

gingeristhenewblack43 · 19/08/2017 15:45

My money's on viagra!

BeauMirchoff · 19/08/2017 16:14

Delurking just to tell you how amazing you are, OP! I wouldn't have acted in such a dignified way! But I can't believe how he could just walk away from a whole life he had with you and DD. Clearly he hasn't thought this through and is thinking that this honeymoon period will last forever. Well, it won't. What an idiot!

user1485639128 · 19/08/2017 16:18

Highly likely he's bought viagra.

Please make an appointment at your local sexual health clinic just to rule anything out.

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