#4 He's gone to Athens to be with her

[worldupsidedown]

So, that's it then. He's left to meet her in Athens. He's read my note but I've not had any reply yet

When you pack you leave for your love in Athens please take everything with you. PLEASE DO NOT RETURN

You checked out of this marriage when you decided to be with her instead of us and it is causing us too much pain to have you under our roof.

My daughter is too fragile to keep having you in our presence and I am trying to hold myself together for her.

Please do at least one honest thing and leave.

World - YOUR WIFE

When you're ready please let us know how you are World, but don't feel any pressure. Days are probably passing in a blur right now and updating this thread definitely won't be one of your priorities. But when you're able to it would be good to hear from you. I can recall, on day two after break up, standing in M and S unable to make any decisions about food. Then when I finally put some things in a basket I couldn't remember my PIN at the checkout (and cried). Then couldn't find where I'd parked the car. Bet you're doing far far better! x

Thinking of you world. Ignore any twatty posters. There are many mumsnetters rooting for you.

Hope you are ok op x

OP, l've been reading your threads for a while, and rooting for you. I didn't post as had nothing new to say really. But one thing is concerning me and that's the amount of very identifiable detail you have disclosed. You run a risk with that someone IRL recognises you or the story, and l think you'd especially not want your H alerted to some of your plans. I think if you want the threads deleted you can ask MNHQ to do so. And you could post again with a new name and a few changed, if that's what you want. Take care, World.

World- I haven't read many of the tit for tat posts that seem to have cropped up and potentially derailed your thread.

If you're still here and still reading this then just know there are SO many mumsnetters rooting for you and cheering you on.

You can do this- you ARE doing this.

What a fing loser. One day he will wake up lonely with a shallow shaing life and realise what he has lost. You deserve better. Concentrate on your family and Divorce this idiot. He's being ruled by his D* like my ex H. You will find someone who will treat you with RESPECT and LOVE. He is the big loser here. Not you. Move on..

**If you're still here and still reading this then just know there are SO many mumsnetters rooting for you and cheering you on.

You can do this- you ARE doing this.

This plus 100 👍

Oh world please don't let the very few negative ninnys put you off posting. I have no idea who you are irl but I honestly think about you every day, as I can't imagine how shit this all is for you. Sending you all the strength and some to deal with this shit storm xx

If I was closer I'd come clean your chickens out and walk the dogs for you as I know how crap those jobs can be when your not in the right place emotionally!!! I'm in central Scotland so it's a wee bit of a trek.

World

world.
Your ex is behaving appalling. Let's hope that karma pays him a visit soon

Seriously nobody was having a go. People were just trying to help world prepare realistically for the future. If this has upset world to the point that she has left the thread then perhaps she just needs some space to gather herself at a difficult time. If she wants to she will come back when she's ready I'm sure.

Op, hoping you're OK.

I just caught up with your four threads. Sending much sympathy

Do you have any real-life support? Worried about you.

I hope you are alright World. You will get through this.

I hope you're ok @worldupsidedown.

Hope you are World alot to get your head around I hope mil still supporting you. Reality of his betrayal probably hitting home.relate are good u can go on your own take care

Thinking of you @worldupsidedown hope you're ok x

Hope you're ok. Xxx

He is such a fool! He had so much - and will feel the loss soon. His distant behaviour is a kind of protection - but won't serve him well in the end.

Have you prepared for when he does ask to come back - and to reverse all this?

Sorry World - things were a bit de-railed earlier. Probably not with ill intent. However, the usual SAHM /career parent comments seem most inappropriate on here.

Oddly being a career parent/SAHM doesn't make break-up less painful.

There are different ways of managing family life. They work for different families.

When we (as a family of 6) went youth hostelling (many years ago) we were given 6 YH tasks to do each morning. This was no problem - and seemed perfectly fair to us. However, we shared the 6 tasks and tasks for our own family (like lunch making)amongst ourselves - according to which of us was best at them or which of us was tired/needed a break. Some wardens were upset by this and felt that we were somehow getting away with something.

Parents who work outside of the home can be freed up to spend more time and energy on their careers if they have good back-up at home. Other parents prefer to share the parenting and the career work more evenly but in the end the same amount of work can be done.

Yes - in a unequal earning arrangement, one partner is more vulnerable economically. However, no-one starts a marriage - a true partnership- expecting one partner to leave. Being prepared for this economically might be wise - but it could also be a bit cold-hearted!

World you are hard-working - strong minded and not at all cold-hearted. You deserve better.

World, just checking in with the others to say there are many of us thinking of you and hoping things are going well.

To the people criticising World for having made the (joint) choice to SAH/WFH as a property manager, all I can say is that if World had the ability to rewrite history, I"m sure she would, but perhaps that wouldn't be the part she'd choose to rewrite.

Ugh, what an awful man! Sorry I haven't read earlier threads.

I live about 20 minutes from the Lagonissi Grand resort and I am surprised he would have been able to get a room in August so last minute.

Don't be put off by the SAHM derail World. There is a lot of great support on here, and whilst hindsight is a wonderful thing, and isn't a help to you right now, it may make a difference to someone else reading this thread. As long as we keep it kind.

Any questions or enquiries regarding Athens and her mentality feel free to ask. I also doubt he has met the family. Booking into the LGR is very telling though. It's a particular place and attracts a particular type.

Hope u have plans for weekend and are not alone

World, I doubt you will come back to your thread now. I imagine the final nail in the coffin was being told - albeit kindly meant - that you had put out a lot of information that could harm your situation. Just know that people are thinking of you and wishing you nothing but happiness.