#4 He's gone to Athens to be with her

[worldupsidedown]

So, that's it then. He's left to meet her in Athens. He's read my note but I've not had any reply yet

When you pack you leave for your love in Athens please take everything with you. PLEASE DO NOT RETURN

You checked out of this marriage when you decided to be with her instead of us and it is causing us too much pain to have you under our roof.

My daughter is too fragile to keep having you in our presence and I am trying to hold myself together for her.

Please do at least one honest thing and leave.

World - YOUR WIFE

Then you report it through the usual channels, not troll-hunt on the thread. Anyway, I vaguely recall it was all checked out in the first thread.

Then you report it through the usual channels, not troll-hunt on the thread

I agree.
Why do people troll-hunt anyway?
They're obviously getting some kind of a kick out of it by causing mischief, which to my mind, makes them no better than the trolls they are 'hunting'.

I don't know why it's assumed he's meeting her parents. There are plenty of holiday destinations close to Athens which are popular with the Greeks themselves, e.g. Aegina.

Chances are, it's an assumption her family live in Greece, unless OP actually knows she is from Athens (I forget what proof there was that she was Greek), the OW is far more likely to be a member of the large Greek Cypriot community of north and west London, if she's settled with a job and doing a degree in London at her age.

Why do people troll-hunt anyway?

Because they are vile people. Look what happened to the poor woman with back pain.

I wish they'd just fuck off and mind their own business. Report if you must then shut up.

I agree with that comment, user.

I was just having great idea to create a 'Certificate of Achievement' to send framed to OW at her office when I received a text from FDH.

Hi. I'm arriving late tonight and I'll be gone early. I think I can stay away from tomorrow onwards but I need to crash tonight. I understand your letter. And I appreciate why it's so tough I do. If I don't hear from I'll assume you've seen this. If you want to talk just let me know. I've had an e mail from mediator who I presume is the mediator.

I'm planning to stay at my parents from tomorrow night onwards while I sort out a flat. Please bear with me while it all gets sorted. I will try to be as considerate as I can.

I just called MIL and asked her if she'd heard from DH, she said she hadn't, so I read her his texts. She said 'well that's news to me!' She also said he ought to look at his finances before he thinks about getting a flat in London. When I told her he didn't want to live 'in a hovel' she said 'I think he should'. She said she'd keep me informed.

SIL also put 2+2 something was up from my Facebook and texted me, so I suggested she talk to MIL, which she has and MIL confirmed she have her a brief outline of events and we both agreed it all had to come out some time.

He's horrible. Makes out he's sensitive to you when he is the complete opposite! Utter arsehole for what he's done to you. People split up, yes, but at least leave a respectable period of time before blatantly having it off with his bit on the side. He has no respect whatsoever.

He can find somewhere else to "crash" tonight, surely?

Ow is 100% Greek, she signed the poetry and travel note book inscriptions in Greek. From there I got her name and found her LinkedIn profile working at same organisation within his department. Found her Facebook, a blog, other apps etc. She is from Athens. His notes were word for word as in this link

I am only assuming he's meeting her family or close friends, i can't really think of another reason to learn these greetings, I'm guessing she's gone home to be with family if she's from there. Also lives north London, most of her friends are Greek, she hasn't actually updated her page for a long time.

Keep strong world.
At least you know he'll be fine tomorrow.
Don't answer him.

Is there any chance you can go out tonight, so that you're not waiting on him?

Sorry- gone not fine!!!

So he thinks he can stay at his mums; has he thought about the nagging his parents will give him over all this, and each time he stays out late or for a night he is going to either hid in his teenage room or sulk and listen to a lecture, as his mum isn't going to just sit there and pat his hand.

Once he has to keep 2 houses his little jaunts are going to be less frequent, and madam won't be find him as exciting when he is on a budget, he will have to keep house himself, and your going to be a major topic of his conversation, as well as his divorce and his loss of assets, and since no one at work will want to know she will get it in both ears.

Get him to put it in writting what he will pay for, bills ect.

Tell him you've sorted it🤙 his mother is expecting him tonight.
He should not come to sleep at yours.

Tell him you've sorted it🤙 his mother is expecting him tonight.He should not come to sleep at yours.

But as already mentioned, the DH has every right to legally stay in HIS house. She can ask him to leave, but he can simply say no. She cannot kick him out.

I'd make up an apple-pie bed but I can be very childish. Or to be less obvious a couple of tacks on the floor. You've probably got more dignity than me though.

But he has already agreed to go and says he's planning to go to his mum's so he may as well go tonight.

But he has already agreed to go and says he's planning to go to his mum's so he may as well go tonight.

He doesn't have to though and the OP can't force him to.

No don't medal, he is doing as asked, don't put his back up...

Keep your dignity here I say, just let him go along with what he has said , you will have to co parent for a while and it's better i feel if he would have a tough job saying anything nasty, hard I know but the best revenge is you looking good, having fun , not giving a shit (fake it if necessary)

Let him go lass.

You need to start building your life now.

OP, I spent the weekend reading all 4 of your posts, you are such a brave, strong woman. You have shown so much grace in all this. Your 'D'H sounds like a c*. You and DD are better off without him.

I caught my ex cheating and I know how hard the first days and weeks are, hang in there, I am with a wonderful man now and couldn't be happier. My children are also a lot happier.

Yeah World i would not rock the boat, he is saying he is going so that's great. It sucks you are left with all the responsibility but that was always going to happen in this 😢.

Absolutely no feeling in his message at all. No sensitivity for the hurt and pain he is causing.

Unbelievable.

Let him go lass.
"Let him go Lass????
Do keep up Mrs Mozart! Op wants the Fucker gone.
We're discussing whether World will agree to him returning for a few hours tonight.
FWIW World, let him come back tonight, it's not worth being seen as being 'difficult'. At least he's agreed to move to his parents, which is the best possible solution as it's free, and won't be an easy ride either.
You Rock World!